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50+ Check In January 12 - 14, 2023 Happiness & Peace of Mind ✨✨✨✨

User Profile: SunShineAlwaysGrateful
SunShineAlwaysGrateful January 12th, 2024

Happy weekend 50+ community!! ✨✨✨✨

Happiness is an inside job definitely! 💯 percent. 

It is great self care to have people around you that bring you JOY. Sometimes in life you can choose how you allow others energy affect you.

You can position yourself such that the company you keep is more enjoyable. Those who support you and cheer you on. 

Your relationships with people can look like many things to help you cope and how involved various people in life how you interact with them. 

What ways can you minimize your contact with people in your life co workers, friends or family who rob your life of JOY?  

How can you tell if you need to minimize your contact with someone in your life? 

Has anyone been successful limiting your contact to increase your peace of mind ? 

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User Profile: SunShineAlwaysGrateful
SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 12th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

UPDATED TAGLIST 12/17/2023

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Amelia763 January 12th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful Please add me.

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 13th, 2024

@Amelia763

Yes you can be added follow this link for being added to the tag list …love to have you join yay 🙌🙌🙌💯💯💯✨✨✨

https://www.7cups.com/forum/50plus/Checkin_1704/50OverTaglist_289721/

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 12th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 January 12th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

Hi, Grateful,

What ways can you minimize your contact with people in your life co workers, friends or family who rob your life of JOY?  

How can you tell if you need to minimize your contact with someone in your life? 

Has anyone been successful limiting your contact to increase your peace of mind ? 

Hi, Grateful,

1. This is a great question because I work with a woman who seems determined to beat me down.  The best way I can minimize my contact with her, is to literally walk away.  I also have decided not to ask her any questions, if at all possible.  

2. They cause me to feel buzzy in a bad vibes way.  They make my shoulders tense.  They offend me.  

3. I'm still working on my working relationship with this woman.  She seems to want to make me her friend, yet she is very passively aggressive toward me.  I'm working on it.

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 12th, 2024

@purpleTree4652

So sorry you are struggling with this at work. 

You are doing the things that make it easier to get along because you are work colleagues. I commend you for looking after you in an environment that you do need to have her as a peer. 

The fact she wants to be friendly is a good sign as a work colleague. 

Great example where you manage the how of intersecting and finding coping strategies that work for you. 

Thank you for sharing. 

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amiablePeace77 January 12th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

Thanks for another great post!

1.  To be honest I cut out most people who bring discomfort into my life and I try to deal very mindfully with those I cannot cut. I set strict boundaries and  try to see the reasons  why their act the way they do with an open heart.

2.  When one feels bad, gets negative thoughts after having been around certain people, when they do rather put you down than encourage and motivate you the red flag shows for me.  

3.  I decided to only let people in my life who do not want to harm me, it did me well.

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 12th, 2024

You are most welcome.


i love your strategies to cope with boundaries and mindfully move forward to find a way that works. Yes those who encourage motivate and support are the best ones in your circle. 🙌🙌🙌💕💕


Thank you for sharing!

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User Profile: Amelia763
Amelia763 January 12th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful

I avoid narcissists as much as possible. 

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 13th, 2024

@Amelia763

That is a great tip! Find your squad that adds to you life and doesn’t stress you out. 🙌🙌🙌

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Amelia763 January 13th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful I haven't found my squad. They don't exist. I would be content to find one or two close friends, but if I share anything about my early childhood trauma people don't want to believe it and don't want to hear it. If I hide it and make excuses for my CPTSD symptoms then I'm not being authentic. But I think being superficial is the only way to go socially. I don't know anyone in real life who is healing from extreme childhood abuse. 

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 13th, 2024

@Amelia763

Soo glad you hear at 7cups! This community is incredible and glad you are part of it. 🙌🙌💕💕

There are layers of connection we have with various people family co workers friends etc …  

I understand that very much being careful what you disclose and how much you share. 


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soulsings January 13th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful  How can you tell if you need to minimize your contact with someone in your life? 

If I feel worse after I talk to them. 

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 13th, 2024

@soulsings

How you feel is a great way to know if someone is good for you. The vibe and the feelings should always be positive. 🙌🙌🙌💕💕💕

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soulsings January 13th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful I agree. Have a nice weekend.

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User Profile: slowdecline48
slowdecline48 January 13th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful As my existence is nearly monastic at times, I've been mostly successful in "limiting contact".

It doesn't always work for attaining peace of mind, however...my chronic health issues see to that.

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 13th, 2024

@slowdecline48

So glad you are here at 7cups. I enjoy you around the forums. 😎😎

Chronic health issues are tough and it can be isolating as well. 

Be sure the people in your sphere are good ones … is one of my goals in 2024. I am glad you are in my sphere. 

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slowdecline48 January 13th, 2024

@SunShineAlwaysGrateful That's a fine compliment, & you're sweet.

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slowdecline48 January 13th, 2024

If you're going to decide whether I'm worthy of being within your social circle or not, you might want to read my journal first...then make your judgment call.

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SunShineAlwaysGrateful OP January 14th, 2024

@slowdecline48

Loved it! What a great way to capture your thoughts ! 😎😎💯💯

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