50+ Check-In May 2-5, 2022
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Not everyone grew up in an environment which met all their needs so reparenting helps to learn to give yourself the support you need.
Reparenting allows you to let go of the past, to heal and to learn to be compassionate to yourself so you can live a better life.
Below are some key points of reparenting.
Taking care of your needs
Emotional self validation
Emotional self regulation
Positive self-talk
Reasonable self-discipline
What are some things you do well already and what are some things you can improve?
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@amiablePeace77
Taking care of your needs Easy, I take care of all my needs.
Emotional validation I take care of all my emotions.
Emotional regulation See above.
Positive self-talk That, I am working on.
Reasonable self-discipline I self-discpiline myself
What are some things you do well already and what are some things you can improve?
I do woodworking, and I do star-gazing.
@Offmytrack
Nice that you take care of all of your needs and emotions and great you're working on positive self talk!
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@itoo
Hi itoo, nice to see you in the forum today, I look forward to see you more often here 😊
@amiablePeace77
Hi, Peace,
What are some things you do well already and what are some things you can improve?
Taking care of your needs. I am taking care of my needs physically. Emotionally, I need a new job, which I am beginning to work on.
Emotional validation. I am getting better and better at emotional validation. I want to keep working on this.
Emotional regulation. I am getting pretty good at that, too, but want to keep working on it, too.
Positive self-talk. This is another area that I am working on.
Reasonable self-discipline. I think I'm doing much better than I used to do, and want to keep working on it.
@purpleTree4652
This sounds very positive, keep up the good work you do for yourself!
@amiablePeace77 What are some things you do well already and what are some things you can improve?
I am getting better at managing my emotions. When thoughts come up of frustration and anger, I am less likely to bite on that thought and get stuck in that emotion.
I could do better at balancing all the activities in my life. I need to listen to my body and emotions to get a sense of what I am capable of doing right now.
@soulsings
It's not always easy to manage anger and frustration, glad you're improving on handling these emotions and learning your limits is very helpful to prevent harm to the body and mind.
Taking care of your needs
Emotional validation
Emotional regulation
Positive self-talk
Reasonable self-discipline
What are some things you do well already and what are some things you can improve?
I think I need to work on all of those, but positive self-talk is probably the one I need to work on the most. I'm not sure what emotional validation is.
@WharfRat
I find positive self talk can be a great support when you feel stuck or hopeless, I hope that it will get easier for you as well as all the other things in future. I just noticed that I did not include the word self for the emotional validation, it's about s accepting your own internal experience, your thoughts, and your feelings.
@amiablePeace77
Taking care of your needs. I take care of all my needs.
Emotional validation. I take care of all my emotions.
Emotional regulation. What?
Positive self-talk. That, I do.
Reasonable self-discipline. I take care of all my self-discipline.
1. Taking care of your needs . I am doing that best I can.
2. Emotional Self validation. I am learning this still.
3. Emotional regulation. This is difficult to do but I try.
4. Positive self talk. I have done this more in the past. I need to work on this too.
5. Reasonable self discipline. I have been focusing on this alot lately.
@friendlyCat50
Thanks for sharing! Practising mindfulness can help with emotional regulation, teach us the ability to step back when needed and patience. I also wanted to share this link with you for managing emotions https://www.7cups.com/help-managing-emotions/
Yes mindfulness is something I can work on. Lately I have been working on patience. Thanks for sending the link I will check it out.
@friendlyCat50 I am working on patience too. I find it very difficult when someone has opposite views than mine.