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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 May 9th, 2022

"Your illness is not your identity. Your chemistry is not your character.” — Rick Warren"


Mental illness is far more common than many people think. Nearly 50 million Americans – almost 20% — are experiencing a mental illness.

When you live with mental challenges or mental illness , loving yourself can be hard. We live in a society that promotes “perfection” and this can make someone facing mental challenges or living with a mental illness feel unlovable, inadequate, unworthy and very often misunderstood.

Self-love and self-compassion are key for mental health and well-being, keeping for example depression and anxiety at bay.


Whether you live with a mental challenge or mental illness, what can you do today to show yourself self-love, self-compassion and self-respect?



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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 May 9th, 2022

@amiablePeace77,

Hi, Peace,

At work, I acted with dignity and did my best to protect my joy from people around me. At home, I took a nap, and then had to fill out a bunch of paperwork from SSA about my disability. They always threaten to reduce or cut off my disability checks. I live in fear of SSA. But I told myself to do the paper work calmly and early to get it out of the way. It took hours, but I finished it. Hopefully, it won't haunt my dreams.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP May 9th, 2022

@purpleTree4652

I'm very sorry to hear that getting the benefits you're entitled too is so difficult. Good thinking to get the paperwork done early, hope it gives you peace and you can sleep better.

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User Profile: Offmytrack
Offmytrack May 9th, 2022

@amiablePeace77 Whether you live with a mental challenge or mental illness, what can you do today to show yourself self-love, self-compassion and self-respect? Play guitar and sing.

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amiablePeace77 OP May 9th, 2022

@Offmytrack

Engaging in playing a musical instrument and singing can be very therapeutic.

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User Profile: WharfRat
WharfRat May 10th, 2022

Whether you live with a mental challenge or mental illness, what can you do today to show yourself self-love, self-compassion and self-respect?

Treat myself to something special (too late to do that now, but, oh well).

I was thinking of doing something special, too, but then didn't do anything. I read my abuse story out loud to a group of six therapists this afternoon. My therapist was there as well as five others I didn't know. It was nerve-wracking (three pages long), but I got through it.




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amiablePeace77 OP May 10th, 2022

@WharfRat

Congratulations WharfRat! I'm sure your therapist was very proud of you.

Psst: Never too late to treat yourself, even if it's just with a nice warm shower with a special shower gel or a self hand massage 😃

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May 10th, 2022

@amiablePeace77

last night me and my mom watched encanto together

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amiablePeace77 OP May 10th, 2022

@Goalsforlife

It must have been nice to watch with your mom, that's real quality time. I just watched the trailer, awesome!

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User Profile: soulsings
soulsings May 10th, 2022

@amiablePeace77 Whether you live with a mental challenge or mental illness, what can you do today to show yourself self-love, self-compassion and self-respect?

I can give myself praise for doing all the things I do as part of a day. Much of what I do is to help and serve others. For that praise is well deserved.

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amiablePeace77 OP May 10th, 2022

@soulsings

I so agree, you deserve that praise for all that you do!

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User Profile: HairpinCurve
HairpinCurve May 11th, 2022

I showed self-care today by attending my IOP group, sharing and participating. I also took a shower, dressed nicvel;y, and styled my hair. I felt better about myself.

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amiablePeace77 OP May 11th, 2022

😊@HairpinCurve

Great way to self care, nice to hear that it made you feel better! Keeping going! 😊

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User Profile: Iyad11
Iyad11 May 12th, 2022

An okay day at school anxiety level high calmed it down with music couldnt sleep came back from school slept woke up 3 hours later from a fight or flight response i always sleep after school i cant sleep before school cause the flight or fight response😐

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amiablePeace77 OP May 13th, 2022

@Iyad11

Sorry to hear about your high anxiety levels before school starts. I can only imagine how challenging it must feel to go to school. Great that music helps. This is a link to our mindfulness library where you can find a number of relaxing meditations https://www.7cups.com/forum/MindfulnessSupportCommunity_106/ResourceLibrary_1062/ . Please also check here Students - Teens - Teachers - Animation Videos. Maybe doing a meditation before school could help to calm your fight and flight response?

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User Profile: galfromaway
galfromaway May 12th, 2022

@amiablePeace77

Whether you live with a mental challenge or mental illness, what can you do today to show yourself self-love, self-compassion and self-respect?

Oh wow... this is a big one for me lately. Self-compassion is something I've been learning about over the last few years. Being gentle with myself and forgiving when I make mistakes... appreciating the successes.... and going through my self-compassion exercises more. Also adding more self-care to my day, and working with husband to ensure I make the time as his schedule gets busier.

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User Profile: soulsings
soulsings May 12th, 2022

@galfromaway self compassion really helps me too!

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