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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 June 12th, 2023

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There will always be people in your life who don’t like you, no one is liked by everybody.

What helps you to detach from what other people think of you?

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 12th, 2023

UPDATED TAGLIST 6/6/2023

1st part

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 12th, 2023

2nd Part Taglist

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User Profile: WorkingitThrough2
WorkingitThrough2 June 13th, 2023

@amiablePeace77

I try not to let it affect me if I know it is an unjustified dislike for me. Then I try not to be in their presence.

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amiablePeace77 OP June 13th, 2023

@WorkingitThrough2

You do not need people who judge you unfairly close to you!

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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 June 12th, 2023

@amiablePeace77

Hi, Peace,

I'm not good at that. If I work with them, I am stuck. I don't know how to not let them get the better of me.

If I'm able to walk away from a person in the general public, then I can do so. I can use my morals to understand that when a situation is not meant for me, that it is wisest to simply state that the situation is not for me and decline to partake in the situation.

If it's at work, I'm stuck.

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amiablePeace77 OP June 13th, 2023

@purpleTree4652

It's surely different when we can just walk away then having to deal with people who do not like you at work. I know it sounds hard and might not always work but showing kindness and compassion whilst still setting boundaries can make some people realize that their dislike is not justified. Sometimes this can lead into good friendships.

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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 June 13th, 2023

@amiablePeace77

I don't know how to do that. I would need examples and to work through situations with you.

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User Profile: CyclingThroughLife
CyclingThroughLife June 12th, 2023

@purpleTree4652

I totally get the "if I'm at work I"m stuck" thing.....I'm right there with ya.....

For everyone else.....I understand we aren't supposed to judge people, but I constantly am...I think we all do...with that said, If someone doesn't like me, someone whom I have chosen not to interact with because I judged their character as someone I don't want to interact with, that doesn't bother me at all. Yet if its a person that I feel has good character, that I would like to interact with, and they don't like me, that bothers me......

Then there is this....I'm a supervisor at my place of employment. I learned my skills in the military....you follow orders, you don't ask questions, and it is what it is.... I'm not here to be your friend...we have a job to do...you don't have to like me...you just have to what you are supposed to...in the civilian world, I learned quick that its a much different way......if we become friends, its all the better and makes the work environment that much nicer....but if you don't like me, I'm not supposed to care...I'm supposed to make sure you are doing what you are supposed to be doing....yet....I'm more likely to get better quality of work, and you possibly may do that little extra, if you liked me and I treated you as such.....so I go out of my way for those employees under me, even though sometimes they don't deserve it..... and I shouldn't for some of them because they just don't get it....and I have been burned for it in the past.....Its a hard road to travel for me......

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purpleTree4652 June 12th, 2023

@CyclingThroughLife

I wish you could tell me where you work because I need a job and I'd rather work for someone who is willing to try to be nice.

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User Profile: WharfRat
WharfRat June 13th, 2023

What helps you to detach from what other people think of you?

I keep in mind that their opinion doesn't matter. I also try to think of people who have favorable opinions of me. Of course, it depends on who it is. There are some people whose opinions to matter. Then it's harder to deal with it if they don't like me or whatever.


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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 13th, 2023

@WharfRat

I hear you, one needs to be very mindful when interacting with people whose opinions can have an impact on our life like at work or in administrations (when applying for something) and who do not like us.

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User Profile: WharfRat
WharfRat June 14th, 2023

@amiablePeace77

Some people base their opinions of others on "faulty data" or personal biases that have nothing to do with the person being judged. Their opinions reveal more about themselves than the person about the person being judged.


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User Profile: Barltik2065
Barltik2065 June 13th, 2023

@amiablePeace77

"What helps you to detach from what other people think of you?"

Unfortunately I do not succeed but:
I try to inform myself and repeatedly tell myself "I can only control and be held
responsible for my actions." and then follow up with "While they might be right or they might be wrong with me, I will put forth good measures and be kind. I would want them to be kind with me."

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amiablePeace77 OP June 13th, 2023

@Barltik2065

Good that you're practising positive self talk! I things will get easier with time. Staying kind and also respectful is a good way to go to ensure you comply with your own values. Your opinion about yourself matters!

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User Profile: UberRuminator
UberRuminator June 14th, 2023

@amiablePeace77

Hi Ami:

I am rarely around people, plus getting older has made me not care about what others think.

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amiablePeace77 OP June 15th, 2023

@UberRuminator

Not caring about what others think (maybe not all but in general) can make life so much easier!

User Profile: WorkingitThrough2
WorkingitThrough2 June 15th, 2023

@UberRuminator

I agree, and I found this:https://i.pinimg.com/236x/e1/2a/4b/e12a4be16ada68d311e46698fedd2d17.jpg

Hope it makes you smile😊


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amiablePeace77 OP June 15th, 2023

@WorkingitThrough2

Absolutely love it! 😄

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