50+ Weekend Check-In April 1 - 3, 2022
Hello everyone in the 50+ community, I hope you’re all doing well and wish you a wonderful weekend ❤️
There were times in my life where self acceptance seemed to be a strange term to me. What I did not like about myself I tried to ignore but it never worked so I struggled for a long time to love myself. Thankfully this has changed with the help of 7cups and mindfulness. I started to accept how I am, my high sensitivity and my impatience, learned to embrace the first and work on the second. I understand today how important it is for me to practise Metta Meditation (Loving-kindness meditation) every day.
1. What are 3 things that you accept about yourself?
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself?
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself?
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These are very difficult questions and I'm not sure how to answer them. Some of the things I would like to say may be considered unacceptable, offensive, or inappropriate, but they may enlighten others to how men feel about themselves, their bodies, etc. I think it's too bad that what I would really like to say would not be appropriate.
1. What are 3 things that you accept about yourself?
1. My intelligence,
2. My sense of humor, and
3. My taste in music, film and books
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself?
My body shape and appearance
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself?
Lose some weight
@WharfRat
Having a good sense of humor makes life so much easier. Something I found that makes losing weight really easy is to renounce on any junk food, stay away from unhealthy treats and starting to cut out added sugar in general. Doing it gradually helps and the effects can be amazing.
@amiablePeace77
1. What are 3 things that you accept about yourself? Feeding the cat, Walking around the condos, Reading the funnies.
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself? Living in the condos.
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself? Nothing, I would rather live in a house.
@Offmytrack
I like reading the funnies, they are like mood booster 😊 Hope one day you will be able to live in a house you really like.
1. What are 3 things that you accept about yourself? My never quit attitude, my commitment to a routine, and my sense of equanimity to others. We are all suffering and want happiness.
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself? The anger that arises and the conditioned behavior that no longer represents my values.
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself? First I have to tame it by not letting it control me. That takes time and practice.
@amiablePeace77
@soulsings
I hope that soon you will be free of that anger so that you don't need to struggle in loving yourself. Being committed to helpful routines and not quitting when things just get tough are great qualities.
@amiablePeace77
Hi, Peace
Does it have to be 3? lol
I'm going to answer with one, instead.
1. . What are 3 things that you accept about yourself?
One thing is that I was born with a birth defect on my face.
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself?
My mental illness is something I will always struggle to understand and think I will never love about myself.
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself?
I simply try to move past them. I accept that I have mental illness and work on improving my mental health, but instead I meditate loving kindness for myself and wish that I may still live life with ease.
@purpleTree4652
I'm glad to hear that you accept the way you look, sadly, so many people struggle with their appearance. Love your way of practising loving kindness, I hope it will give you peace and ease.
1. What are 3 things that you accept about yourself?
I'm very emotional, I'll always be a worrier, and I general accept my situation in life
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself?
Being overweight
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself?
I really need to learn to take care of myself and put myself first.
@thoughtfulmomma thanks for sharing. I am starting to seee all have challenges and I appreciate knowing I am not the only one facing challenges.
1. What are 3 things that you accept about yourself?
In the present... 1) that I'm grieving 2) that I can't get as much done as I usually do 3) that I have the intelligence to weather this storm and come out of it on my own time
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself?
My body, I'm overweight.
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself?
Start back on my exercise routine and get back to my keto diet. Just can't right now but I will when I feel better...when I feel I can do more complicated things. I use to measure everything I ate and kept on track pretty good for a full year till covid hit. I know I can do it again when I'm ready.
@EmbStitcher33
@EmbStitcher33
It's important to take your time and not to put more stress on you when grieving ❤️. A a short walk at your own pace can already help if you feel up to it.
@amiablePeace77
Hi Ami:
1. What are 3 things that you accept about yourself?
I will always be an introvert.
I will always be a procrastinator.
I will always be passive.
2. What do you struggle to love most about yourself?
I find it difficult to get the idea out of my head that I am an abject failure when it comes to interacting with people.
3. What can you do to begin to love that part of yourself?
Got me...
@UberRuminator
As an introvert you might not have the amount of experience to interact with other people as an extrovert but interactive skills can be learned, there are also DBT tools like the DEAR MAN tool which helps to build healthy relationships with others. I hope this helps.
@amiablePeace77
Ami:
Thanks for the reference. I will take a look at it.
At my age though, it may be too late...
@UberRuminator
Awww UberRuminator, something I like to tell myself (not being a spring chicken neither anymore 😊) is "It's never too late to learn" and that always gives me hope when things go different than I thought.
@UberRuminator I think for me it is never too late to start living in the moment. It is never too late for me to care about other people. I forget how old I am by focusing on other.