50+ Weekend Check-In October 8-10, 2021
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What benefits do you receive when you’re compassionate with yourself? How does it impact your day?
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@amiablePeace77
Hi Ami:
Unfortunately, I don’t think this question applies to me. I rarely show myself any compassion. To the contrary, I am often very hard on myself.
It would be nice if I could show myself some kindness and compassion, but I just don’t know how.
@UberRuminator
It must be very hard for you to deal with situations where things go wrong. Something I find helpful is instead of scolding myself use positive mantras like "I'm going to be okay" or justing sitting down when feeling low and hug myself for a while.
Here are 2 links for videos about self compassion
5-minute Guided Meditation for Self-Love and Self-Compassion
@amiablePeace77
I never got into the positive mantras or daily self-affirmations. I also can’t see giving myself a hug.
Nonetheless, I will check out the links you provided.
@UberRuminator
I hope the videos will be helpful.
@amiablePeace77
Great question.
I practice yoga and mindfulness meditation. It gives me time to be still and in the moment. At peace.
It helps with my work productivity.
@JackKost
Nice that you practise yoga and meditation. A calm mind just performs better.
@amiablePeace77
Thanks. I agree.
@amiablePeace77, 1. What benefits do you receive when you’re compassionate with yourself? That's a hard question for me to answer. If I'm compassionate to myself and let myself off the hook for something, I don't feel very different. I think it's because I try hard to be humble. I know that shouldn't prevent me from feeling good about from the compassion I've shown myself. And it might not just be trying hard to be humble. I think it's other things, too, but I can't put my finger on them. How does it impact your day? It allows me to move on to other worries and troubles. :(
@purpleTree4652
I get what you are saying in this post and I share some of those feelings to❤️
@purpleTree4652
Sorry to hear that it does not make a difference to you when you show yourself compassion. Some people struggle with truly believing that they deserve it, that it is okay to be compassionate with yourself, it's also not always something we learn in childhood. I hope with more practise you will become kinder and more understanding to yourself.
What benefits do you receive when you’re compassionate with yourself? How does it impact your day?
I didn't mean for the font size to be so big. I think when I'm compassionate with myself I'm happier and I'm more productive. I'm probably nicer to the people around me, too.
@WharfRat
I love your answer, great reply❤️
@WharfRat
When we feel good to the inside we spread positive energy.
No worries about the writing, did you see this thread about the enhanced editor? https://www.7cups.com/forum/SiteUpdates_100/SuggestionsandProblemSolving_383/Anenhancededitor_190066/1/
I am still working on being compassionate with myself. I am confident the benefits would be improved health (mental and physical) a greater sense of peace and well being. I'll keep you posted. Thanks for the question. I love the photo. THX
@optimisticRaspberries5247
Nice that you're working on being a friend to yourself!
I'm trying harder each day to care for myself. I am working myself back into a daily meditation routine and just giving myself that 30 minutes refreshes me and makes me feel a bit better. It helps take the edge off my anxiety.
@thoughtfulmomma
That is good and I would enjoy that too, I think all effort is helpful.❤️
@thoughtfulmomma
Good that you decided to get back into your daily meditation to help with your anxiety.
@amiablePeace77
Hello, when I am compassionate with myself, I allow myself to make mistakes and have foibles. But I also seek encouragement and support to try to improve myself.
I try to do at least one activity a day that I enjoy. Today, I went to the coffee shop down the street from my home and partook of an organic breakfast tea and alfahore date cookie sandwich with confectioner's sugar.
I did an assessment on admit.me which enabled me to pinpoint where I stand AMI index markwise regarding applying to MBA and grad school especially in regards to the Ivies.
I feel temptation to just coast and do nothing but that would not be in keeping with my personal goals for myself or what God (Yahweh) intends for me.
God bless and stay encouraged everyone,
Sword
@Swordpsalm
Nice that your goals keep you going! Looking forward to that enjoyable thing you planned for the day can be very encouraging to face the day 👍
@amiablePeace77
What benefits do you receive when you’re compassionate with yourself How does it impact your day?
I think a form of confidence, causing us to feel we have accomplished something.
@scarletPear1945
I believe the feeling of having accomplished something (no matter how small or big) is quite important for self esteem. I feel accomplished when I can say at the end of the day that I did enough self care. 😊
Ami
That picture is so beautiful, where was it taken? so beautiful and the colors are so alluring. Thank you
@scarletPear1945
Not sure where it was taken scarlet, but I love the colors too.
@amiablePeace77 Beautiful Pic!
When I am compassionate with myself I experience something like acceptance and knowing I am all right.
@soulsings
That's a beautiful calm feeling soul.