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What do you think makes it hard for people to open up and talk about their problems, what makes it hard for you?
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@amiablePeace77 What do you think makes it hard for people to open up and talk about their problems, what makes it hard for you?
Well one thing is I look and see if I feel better after talking about my problems. If I don't feel better then I start looking for other ways to feel better.
@soulsings
Nice that you try to talk and not give up when it does not work for you but look for other ways.
The trust issue is a biggie; but I think worse than that is to bare your soul and be dismissed by someone.
@Justme1225
I agree, asking for support and being send away is terrible, it can leave a feeling of rejection unless we understand why we were sent away. Unfortunately sometimes people are just not able to give support. Hope you will find support here.
@amiablePeace77 I got tired of being told "there is no such illness", "it's all in your head" ,and "theres nothing wrong with you" when talking about chronic illness/disabilty.
@adventurousBranch3786
Unfortunately there is still a big lack of information and understanding in our societies about how actually chronic illness and disability affects people's lives, how hard it is to those who are affected to get around every single day. Luckily there are many people trying to raise more and more awareness. I hope you will meet more understanding people irl in future.
@adventurousBranch3786
Soooo true! People can readily relate to something they can see. It is hard to discount the red swollen eyes and habitual sneezing that comes with hay fever ... or the cast and crutches that come with a broken leg. However, something invisible ... like anxiety, depression, chronic migraine, misophonia ... to name a few ... are rarely relatable unless they have experienced it themselves ... even by those in the medical field. I have found that even a book, written by someone who "gets it", can be validating soul soothing. I hope you find this site as a haven.
@Justme1225 Yes it has helped me a lot coming here.
I think the fear of being judged keeps me from opening up.
@Human1126
Sorry to hear, it seems like you made bad experiences? Judgements from others can be harsh and also unjustified, but you cant control what others think. I believe that the more compassion we show ourselves the less weight those judgements have though.
I hope you feel safe here to open up in a 1:1 chat. 
Hello friends hope everyone is doing good ❤️❤️❤️. Happy happy Thursday?
@Teri13
Hi Teri, nice to see you, hope you're enjoying your weekend