50+ community Weekend Check-in January 29-31, 2021
Happy Friday to all of you, how was your week? 
What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed?
What's something about you that you would like to work on?
What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed?
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What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed? My late wife.
What's something about you that you would like to work on? I would like to talk more.
What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed? So far, I have started to talk more to my fiance'.
@Offmytrack
Talking to your fiance is a good start! Hope talking will become easier with time and practise whilst being around people you feel safe with.
@amiablePeace77
1. What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed?
I will say that I will keep myself. I am unique, but I try not to be proud of anything.
2. What's something about you that you would like to work on?
My ability to take care of myself
3. What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed?
I renewed my faith.But I try not to be proud of anything.
@purpleTree4652
Being able to take care of yourself is important, I hope coming here you will learn things which will be helpful irl. There are different types of pride, I find though that being proud of our growth, may it be mentally, emotionally or simply things we have achieved is okay. To me it helps building self esteem.
@amiablePeace77, Thanks, Peace. There are times when I simply don't know what to do irl as far as taking care of myself. And that worries me. I don't want to live with the family I am living with, but I am afraid that I am not able to live on my own. Maybe I should look into how to take care of oneself...seriously.
And yes, I have a real problem with pride. I have to work on that.
Thanks for the feedback.
@purpleTree4652
Doing enough self care can solve can solve so many problems already on it's own. Great you decide to take it more seriously. This is a link for the selfcare corner, hope it will give you some ideas https://www.7cups.com/forum/35OverCommunity_166/ResourcesSelfcareCorner_1502/Selfcareideas_188237/
What makes pride challenging to you, in what respect if I may ask?
@amiablePeace77, pride is a sin
@purpleTree4652
When pride comes to the point that we feel better than others it's distructive but I find being proud of my achievements like giving up things which harmed me is okay in my opinion.
What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed?
I have always been detail oriented and great at organizing
What's something about you that you would like to work on?
Consistency in my exercise and physical self care; my judginess
What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed?
My beliefs have changed radically through the years, hopefully for the better
@Katbtrying552
Hi Kat 
. These are great things! Being organized saves a lot of time wasted otherwise by searching!
It takes a while to disconnect from all the over judging we learn when growing up, sometimes it seems that our societies have created a special drawer for every little thing, good, bad, unpleasant etc. so it's always nice to see that people want to stop judging unnecessarily. I am one of them too. It will allow more freedom in our world.
Do you schedule your exercise or self care?
Happy Friday to all of you, how was your week?
What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed?
I'm generally not rude, loud or obnoxious.
What's something about you that you would like to work on?
I'd like to be more sociable without being awkward and stupid.
What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed?
I do talk more than I used to and can talk about embarrassing things, though then I sometimes "overshare".
@WharfRat
It can be awful being in a group and not knowing what to say but being sociable, doing small talk is not something everyone is born with. However, we can learn to interact with others. I hope that going into the rooms helps you to practise it for your real lfie.
I could imagine that the more you talk the less you will tend to "overshare".
@amiablePeace77
Hi, I don't know how to go into the rooms. I don't understand that part of this website. Could you please explain it?
@WharfRat
Hi there, I am so glad you asked!
f you are a member and want to unlock member chat rooms; you would need Chief Chat and Honest Voice badges to join Support Room and Member Community Room,
and, Chief Chat, Honest Voice and Strong bond 1 badges to join topic rooms like Anxiety Support, Depression Support, etc.
Events are announced here Community calendar tinyurl.com/mscgjak
In discussions the discussion leader will post questions and members will give their answers when they are ready to participate (it's okay to lurk if you feel not being ready to answer). Sometimes videos are watched which will be discussed. In open chats people will chat about various topics, there is not set topic like in discussions. It helps to read the chatrooms guidelines to familiarize yourself with the rooms too.
Hope this helped, if not please just send me a pm with your questions, happy to help
@amiablePeace77
how was your week?
my week was really tough and Friday I cried at work for an hour and needed a crisis line to help me get through the day. Not my best day but I got through it and probably only damaged a few friendships.
What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed?
I stand up for doing the right things.
What's something about you that you would like to work on?
being more responsible, kind to others, being a better friend, and taking care of myself
What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed
I have learned when to stay quiet more.
@HappyDucky8
So glad to hear that you connected to crisis line to get the help you needed, hugs. Hope the next weeks will be much better for you and that your friends will understand why you reacted in certain ways. Doing good self care is of utmost importance, glad you want to focus on it more.
@amiablePeace77
What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed? I persist and keep on going even when the going gets rough.
What's something about you that you would like to work on? Finding a way to defuse anger all the time.
What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed? I am more patient than I used to be.
@soulsings
You have acquired a strength which is priceless. There are so many things in life which can trigger anger, so learning to diffuse it will prevent many bad situations in future not only for you but for everyone, most people struggle with dealing with their temper at times.
@amiablePeace77
I am proud to say I am a survivor of so many levels, the hardest being the death of my late husband.
@practicalCherry7891
You have all reason to be proud of yourself, sounds like you have walked a rough path. I can only imagine the intense pain you suffered when you had to let go of your husband, sorry for your loss. 
What’s something about you that you are proud of and that has never changed? - When I left home at 16 and have been able to make it on my own since then.
What's something about you that you would like to work on? - Reforming my thoughts
What's something about you that you are proud of for having changed? - I think just growing and changing into a better person.
@Goldcherry2113
Wow Goldcherry, you've been independant from a young age! I believe you're a much better person than you think but you can surely be proud of your growth.
@amiablePeace77 Thank you for your kind words Ami!
I am proud of getting serious counselling and recovery and working hard at it
The things I would like to work on is getting more tasks done and put time and effort into supporting others
