50+ community Weekend Check-in January 3-5, 2020
Happy New Year beautfiul people in the 50+ community 
Can you think of a time when you were scared or angry? What did you do to help yourself feel better?
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@amiablePeace77 I have to deal with frustration that can lead to anger if I do not get an objective view of it. I have to ask myself if this situation is a matter of survival. If not, I try to not get frustrated.
EX something falls on the floor. Rather than scold myself, I ask "Okay something is on the floor I have to clean up. How do I do that?"
No need to get angry.
@soulsings
I like that soul, not focussing on what has happened but how do I proceed from here. (Hope though you will have very little frustration in 2020)
@soulsings wow Soul I love your approach - thinking like that seems so helpful!
@SoulfullyAButterfly thank you!
There was a time last August and September when I was afraid that my girlfriend was going to leave me. I took extra care of her, drove her places that I thought (correctly) she wanted to see. It eventually worked.
@Offmytrack I am glad that the action you took when you were a bit afraid worked out for you.
@Offmytrack
That was a nice thing to do, seems also you know what she likes and that means you understand her. 
I can only imagine how worrisome the thought of losing her must have been for you though.
@amiablePeace77 You are correct on all counts. I was very afraid I would lose her, I was very glad I didn't. Now we are in discussions of living together (again).
@Offmytrack
Awesome Offmytrack, wish you both a great future!
I screamed into my pillow. Then got out my dammit doll and banged it on the wall a few times took a breath and moved on. Still not over it but, getting to the point it wont bother me anymore.
@Lauren63- wow I like the idea of a dammit doll- never heard of one- tell me more
@Lauren63
I find that's a great way to release anger, glad these dolls exist. Thanks for sharing the information about it too.
Hope you feel better now about what happened.
@amiablePeace77 you dont know what happened. I felt better but the situation has not changed. The person involved doesnt understand me. They dont get me.
Mentally and physically preparing to get back into the Work-for-pay saddle now that winter holidays are coming to a close.
Mentally preparing to relocate at the end of next month. Still haven't locked in where I'll be going.
Have moved away from "freaking out about so much isolation/solitude" to enjoying it and finding benefits to it
Finally, bit by bit, am getting projects prioritised and broken down into do-able, reportable, chunks (milestones).
@azureBalloon6704 that is great, I benefit a lot through mental imaging and preparation beforehand too.
@azureBalloon6704
These are great news, I am glad you find benefits in your isolation/solitutde too. Sounds like the new year started well, wish you all the best for it.
Thank you so much for your acknowledgment, @amiablePeace77 . Did your first week of 2020 go well also?
@azureBalloon6704
so far a great ending and great new beginning of the years, thanks for asking
This morning I was very angry because I didn't find my puding. I cried because my legs hurt me when I was searching for it in the fridge, so I called my mom during her work and yelled at her, then when my dad heared me screaming he looked for it and found it easily for me. I was silly and wiered, no?!!
@DinaElwy
I find anger creates a tunnel vision and one does not see what you are looking for, even if it is right in front of you. Often it helps to just step away for a moment and go back..
Something I find helpful too is the stop technique
s = stop t = take a breath o = observe = p proceed mindfully
@amiablePeace77 that's so hepful, thanks.
@DinaElwy
You are very welcome 
How are you feeling?yucky sad lonely frustrated
2. Are you upset about anything or is there anything bothering you?YES argument with a neighbor early this AM
Then realized my ex is really in a serious relationship and she has kids, I knew he was a cheater which is why we broke up but this is more serious then he and I were which makes me angry Why couldnt I be that person
3. Name one positive thing about yourself!I am cute? Friendly funny but I feel it doesnt matter because I cant meet anyone compatible! So frustrating
@Dancersoul
Hope the situation with your neighbour cooled down and things are alright again.
Seeing your ex in a new relationship is often devastating, especially if the new relationship represents all you wanted (like kids). It is not uncommon to have those feelings even if he was a cheater, hugs. The right person for you might be out there and already looking for you.
Do you have a hobby or something youre passionate about to do to direct your thoughts to something else and make you feel better?
@Dancersoul
How are you doing today?