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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 June 19th, 2020

Happy Friday everyone laughheart. I hope you will all have a great weekend.

Many of us grew up and are still growing up in the belief that self care is selfish, that talking to ourselves is strange, that hugging ourselves is a nono but these are lies cheeky. It is not only okay to selfcare but it is needed, giving ourselves a peptalk supports us and hugging ourselves releases the feel good hormone oxytocin and the resulting calm allows for better productivity and problem-solving. wink

So, today, I like to share a link for a Hugging Pose heart

https://youtu.be/yiOD1uRLiv8

When doing this for the first time, you still might feel strange but after a while it usually changes and you hopefully will feel the deep love and comfort you are able to give yourself soon.

I hope some of you will watch this video and come back here to share their experiences. smiley

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User Profile: faithfulPear444
faithfulPear444 June 19th, 2020

@amiablePeace77 thank you for sharing that :)

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 19th, 2020

@faithfulPear444

You are very welcome heart

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User Profile: CintaBali
CintaBali June 19th, 2020

@amiablePeace77

Thanks, amiable Peace - Good on you for caring and sharing. Kind regards, Cinta

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 19th, 2020

@CintaBali

Hi cinta, nice to see you here smiley, look forward to hear how it goes after doing it for several times.

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User Profile: LostanLonely
LostanLonely June 19th, 2020

Thank you for sharing I find myself watching tv in this position I never thought about it as a self hug.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 19th, 2020

@LostanLonely

LostanLonely, would love to hear if you feel a difference when focussing just on your own warm and caring hug wink

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User Profile: soulsings
soulsings June 19th, 2020

@amiablePeace77 wow what a neat idea.

I have done meditations holding the hands over the heart. This was really unique.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 21st, 2020

@soulsings

Thanks soul. I love those meditations where you put your hands on your heart, it feels so comforting smiley

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User Profile: kelcale
kelcale June 19th, 2020

Thank you so much for sharing...I'm definitely going to try this heart

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 21st, 2020

@kelcale

Awesome kelcale, hope you come back and let us know wink

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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 June 20th, 2020

@amiablePeace77

User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 June 20th, 2020

@amiablePeace77It felt a little bit good to me, but not much. It is the first self-hug position that has worked for me though. So, I will try it again. The positive is that I learned a self-hug position that I can get into.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 21st, 2020

@purpleTree4652

purpleTree, great that you tried it! It might take a while to really feel the benefits and to feel comfortably with hugging yourself.

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User Profile: Goldcherry2113
Goldcherry2113 June 20th, 2020

@amiablePeace77 Thank you for sharing. Peace and love heart

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 21st, 2020

@Goldcherry2113

Nice to see you here Goldcherry, sending you peaceful loving vibes laugh

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User Profile: Marylsworld
Marylsworld June 20th, 2020

Hi all, have been anxious monkey mind, repeitive neg. thoughts and freak out for littlest thing. Pills don't seem to help, pot helps some. Excercise was helping but with COVID afraid to go to gym too hot to go out (live in Florida). Plus no one is social distancing or wearing masks when out making me more pissed and yell at them. They don't care it's Florida we have idiots for representatives not to mention bleach drinking pres. Anyway got sidetracked, OCD, bipolar, anxiety, repeat bad thoughts non stop active brain goes to negative can't let go of things I cannot help. Tried reiki, meditation, some exercise at home being home all the time now makes me worse but am doing SLIGHTLY better (yea a positive) :)

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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 June 20th, 2020

@Marylsworld, i'm glad you feel slightly better. I feel a tiny bit of improvement from meditation and the long list of things i do to help my mental health improve, too. I think all we can do is keep doing those things. It has to pay off some day, right?

User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 OP June 21st, 2020

@Marylsworld

I understand that you are frustrated, isolation is very tough. It's great though that you try to help yourself, please do not stop.

Sometimes its good to just take a pen and write down your thoughts about the problems and feelings you have or talk to someone about it - just to get it out of your system. Hugs

Btw Have you tried to join the support chat in the Covid 19 room?

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User Profile: bgdave
bgdave June 20th, 2020

Feeling emotionally and physically broken...

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User Profile: purpleTree4652
purpleTree4652 June 20th, 2020

@bgdave, i'm so sorry to hear that. (offers hugs) I wish i could help you. I feel the same way as you.

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