Cozy Place For 50+ Members and others too!
Good morning This is a place that started because there was no way to private message between members. So, feel free to chat together here!
I couldn't figure out a good way for members to chat, so I've set up a tiny house for us here. :) Anyone can join us, but at least we have an easy way for members to find each other now. Notice the house has a pet bed-- I love animals. I currently have a black and white kitty and I used to have a dog too, but he passed in N200ov. Do you have any pets?
My dog passed on last November, I don't really have any pets, my daughter has an orange fluffy cat, but he doesn't seem to like me. Looks like a nice place to sit and chat with folks, wish I had more to say.
@Offmytrack Hey you are certainly welcome here. Sorry to hear about your loss of a fuzzy one too. Do you celebrate Halloween?
@Zengrl, I do celebrate Halloween. We go wtih the Teal Pumpkin Project and give away toys as well as candy. Let the kids make their own choice.
@Offmytrack Hey just wanted to let you know that we changed the name of this thread so anyone can have a safe space for chatting. I had never heard of the Teal project before but having a choice seems very smart for Halloween. Looking forward to chatting more. ☺️
@Offmytrack you can message or not,. A relax full place .Right Zengrl?
@Offmytrack I
@Zengrl. No one else here. You blame me. Youre right. I am awful. You arent the 1st to tell me that. But it did bring back some wonderful memories. I thought we were going to be friends. How stupid of me.
@Lauren63 I think you are nice, and never said anything that even implies you are anything but nice. I just didnt want to delete the thread without an explanation to the other person. The other person didnt say why they were here other than that it looked like a friendly place. I think it would have been confusing to just delete it. Now the person understands. Im not sure what your history is with 7 Cups, but just know that I wanted you to have a safe place. There is nothing more to read into this and nothing negative has happened. I want you to be happy and Im fine to delete this. Im also still happy to continue talking with you and whoever else I meet. Im the one that made the choice to start a dialogue with you, so hopefully you see I only want want is good for you.
@Zengrl this was making me feel more lonely, not because of you, because you said and friends. No one else wanted to be here. At least not for me. Maybe for you that I couldnt see. I dont know.
@Zengrl I have asked the question to someone in leadership, why members cant message each other. I will let you know what I find out. Ok?
@Lauren63 Thanks for asking someone else about messaging. I
@Zengrl can you not leave please?
@Lauren63 I
@Lauren63 So we
@Zengrl. Cool. Thanks! That was a great solution.
I thought this was a great idea. Wish my house looked this neat.
@soulsings yup Zengrl was thinking outside the box! LOL.
@Lauren63 I agree this was a great idea
Way To Go @Zengrl
@Lauren63 Just checking in to wish you a good day. Hope your work is ok. I
@Zengrl Difficult day, but got thru it . Hope you had a good run!
@Lauren63 @ZenGrl we are having a discussion in 50 minutes if you are available in the Fifty Plus room
@soulsings I will be there. Thanks.
@Lauren63 will open about 7:45 for the early birds
@soulsings and @lauren63 sorry I couldn
@Zengrl. Thats great! Self care.
@Lauren63 Wed night is class where we go over texts. This time it was at someones house that had two loving long-haired cats. So awesome. Hope the discussion group went well.
@Zengrl everything was fine. Thanks
@Lauren63 What is your fave thing to do? I like nature hikes.
@Zengrl. I am giving up. Listeners hate me. And so do I. Good night.😘
@Lauren63 Well you wrote back to me and that is good. ☺️Im sorry that listeners havent been working out. Ive had two so far and theyve been good. I havent done listener training yet, so I cant really help that way yet. You know Im here if you need support though. Is there something we can talk about here now? Or just name a time and we could meet here? Want to be helpful.🦋
@Zengrl Sorry I was having a rough day. Better now. Helped my coworker, then took my dog and myself, for a walk. Thanks. I think I will no longer try to talk to listeners 1 on 1 for awhile.
@Lauren63 That
@Zengrl Testing to see what happened to this thread. Not showing up on mobile site.
@lauren63 how is your day going?
@Zengrl All good. I couldnt find this thread yesterday.. Glad it is back! Hope everything is well for you.
Did you go out to dinner?@Zengrl
@Lauren63 Glad things are ok. Dinner went well. A good start considering how many years had passed since I saw him.
@Zengrl Thats great! Glad you had a good time.
@Lauren63 What will you be doing for Thanksgiving?
@Zengrl cooking, kinda, how about you?
@Lauren63 Mother-in-law steals the show but I get to make something to bring.
@Zengrl well I ordered a turkey. Now I have to plan the rest of the meal.
@Lauren63 That
@Zengrl I am sorry, I have to go . Will not be a lab rat. Be careful.
@Lauren63 Hey not sure what your last comment meant. I meant getting the turkey was a good start for the holiday. I haven
@Zengrl I read a post here yesterday, and misinterpreted it. Sorry. I think I was having a TIA. Lol.
@Lauren63 No worries. 😊
Glad to see people planning Thanksgiving. Casual meal at my house.
@soulsings when I told you it was upsetting to me that I was not acknowledged at the I guess you didnt care. You and no one else acknowledged that I was here tonight. But people who came after me were acknowledged. Guess I am not wanted in chat rooms, maybe no where. I was trying so much to have something . Not to be.
@Lauren63 I checked all the posts and I could not see any until you left the room. I am very sorry you were not recognized but if you answer the questions in a discussion people will recognize you. Hope it works better next time.
@soulsings. No no no . All people after me me were acknowledged. At least until I left. They didnt answer a damn thing. Just came in the room.
@Lauren63 SoulSings continues to talk to you in this cozy place. Ive seen people getting missed in chatrooms—it is easy for that to happen. I tried to welcome people when I went to a discussion because Im like you and dont want people to feel sad either. I couldnt even keep up with the flow. While I would type one comment someone would already be entering. We are all still here and are talking to you. We have no reason not to like you. Trust that you are a kind and empathic person and believe that people will like you. That is the truth here. This is a volunteer community so its not like people are getting paid. I see Souls name on so many threads across 7 Cups. Thats a lot of people to care for and some are facing some pretty dire situations. You may be too. Thats why it is so important for us to work hard at communication and really trust each other. Sending my love to you, most especially today. You have the power to help people too. 🥰
@Zengrl I was accused at 7 cups of being a racist. Thanks . Now my fault again. Its time to go. Happy days!
@Lauren63 Sorry somehow I didnt see your other post about this. Can you communicate to the person who said you were a racist to explain yourself? It sounds like you were misunderstood.
@Zengrl Im just going to go. Im
@Lauren63. Everything is my fault. Has been will be. Time to go. Ive had posts deleted before. But I never was that horrible. And it was not deleted. I tried in the chat rooms. I was impressed the 1st time. And the 2nd. But when I went 2 days this week and everyone , everyone else was greeted except me. Maybe I am too sensitive. So leaving is the answer.
@Lauren63 I dont know anything about fault here but Im sure it is fixable whatever it is. Its true that you can choose to leave or choose to stay. If you leave you give up the chance to practice communication and kindness with the safety of an avatar. You also lose the Spirit Path which helps to build positive habits and the check-ins. I think the most important thing you would lose is the potential of friendships. I used to end relationships and friendships in the past with excuses. I would say people didnt care or just imagine they didnt want to spend time with me. I learned that in psychology that is called sabotaging relationships. It was because I was too scared to face the fact someone may actually like me or spend time with me. So Im sharing my story hoping you dont make the same mistake I did. You are starting to form relationships here and people are talking to you. Maybe you can also start reaching out instead of waiting for people to reach out to you. Everyone needs practice with communication, especially when we rely on text. So Im encouraging you to stay and to take the chance of friendship. Im here and others are too. 🦄
@Zengrlits always up to meI cant always make the decision. I was berated ,with approval, from 7cups of Tea. I m a racist I have no one that backs me. I was told I am a racist. No one here helped me. NO ONE. So you all think Im racist?
@Lauren63 Hey I just read the chatroom rules and it sounds like there are bots that can give warnings. So maybe you typed a word and the algorithym of the bot thought the word might be racist. If that is the case then no one would have seen the message except for you. So, did someone actually say you were racist or did the app give you a warning?
@Zengrl. I was told I am a racist and a bigot. I should not be supported by anyone. So I guess this is the end. Hope your room gets used by a lot of folks. I am not racist or a bigot, but the people here will not tell a teen that they are wrong. And they will let an older person be berated. Just like the rest of the world. As I have said before, I have had posts deleted. But when told why, I eventually accepted it. But dont ever do that to a teen.
@Lauren63 I am sorry you met a person that was so blind they could not see that you are a compassionate person.
I respect your decision and hope you find a way not to react whenever people say or think things. This will make you stronger and more resilient.
When I was a kid we had a saying that we said when people called us names "Sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me." This is true when we do not react.
@soulsings I remember the Sticks and stones saying too! That is the perfect thing to bring up. Im hyper sensitive so its good to remember that other people dont decide who we are; only we can decide. 😊
@Zengrl. Yup! Thank you.
@Lauren63 Hope the rest of your day is great. I just got done cleaning my place and I
@Zengrl Im going to try the discussion tonight. I may be a little late though.
@Lauren63 I can
@Zengrl. Have a good dinner then!👍🏻
@Lauren63 Thanks 😊
@Zengrl I think I am going to get thru this Thanksgiving without stressing to much. Being able to come to 7 cups has helped and so have you. Im thankful for you messaging me!
@Lauren63 I
@soulsings Thats the way Thanksgiving should be! Same at my house, casual. At this point Im not even sure how many are coming. Not going to stress about it (hopefully)!
@Lauren63 that is a very open minded way to approach that. My dad would take all the leftover turkey and put it in freezer ziplock bags and freeze it for quick meals later.
@soulsings So do people all bring dishes?
@Zengrl Happy Zen day!
@Lauren63 I like the sound of that. No stress holidays-yea!
@Zengrl we have a club we belong to and they put on a Thanksgiving dinner so we just show up and help clean up and serve although I help in the kitchen when they let me! I used to cook for a hospital when I was going to college.
@soulsings That sounds great because you get a group experience without the arguments of a family dinner.
I can only have pets low on inhalent allergens, so now it's fish and snails. My husband has just reduced the number of tanks, as they are really moreso his thing, but I tend to think of them as pets more than he does.
I like the picture, it's nice and bright, the sun is setting way too early for my liking at this time of year!
@AffyAvo Aww Affy I
@Zengrl No cats, I'm super allergic and the allergen is still in their skin, saliva and urine. I have problems with the fish as it is sometimes, as the food can trigger my asthma when I feed them.
@AffyAvo Wow that is interesting to hear about the food. I have an interest in air quality, so good to know.
First time here.
Hello 
@gracefulBlanket31Hi Graceful—do you do anything for Thanksgiving?
hi @gracefulBlanket31 - welcome to the 50+community. Let me know if you want a link to discussion schedule and feel free to post in the subcom.
@gracefulBlanket31 welcome! My experience here has been enlightening.
@gracefulBlanket31 Hello..............I am new here, also
@Zengri Hi am I talking to anyone on 7 cups now?
@tealSailboat6716 Hi Teal and welcome! This is a forum, so it
is there anyone here wanting to talk about life & love after 50?
@moonbramble Hey Moon, in this cozy place we certainly can. Where would you like to start? I
Hi all, I am new here. I have 2 cats and had animals I had to give up in Oct 2015 that still breaks my <3 ....I had a rescue my bf came home with in July 2014 and he passed in Aug 2016 at his foster home (vet tech found a place for him and my other dog when we had to give up our animals---we were able to visit). Kasey Lynn aka Crabby I got at 6 weeks old, full bred Mal and put her down June 1 of this year and am still heart broken over that, too.............thanks for letting me talk
@Lauren63 Sorry I havent been around as much—too many holiday things. How are you? Did your familys fave team win? How is the new person doing at work? Sending hugs for a good day 🥰.
@Zengrl Holidays! I understand. How was your Thanksgiving? Pie come out ok? I stayed in the kitchen mostly. Everyone seemed to have a good time.
@Lauren63 My in-laws house was good-no drama. However, we couldn
@Zengrl sorry I didnt get back to you yesterday, I couldnt concentrate. I was too tired from work. I hate working those long stretches. But glad you didnt have any drama.
@Lauren63 That
@Zengrl OMG! I finally found this forum! Thanks I did get some rest. Met 2 of my sisters for lunch on Thursday to celebrate my older sisters birthday. How are you doing?
@Lauren63 That sounds fun to spend time with your sisters. I always wanted a sister! I went to the funeral with my brother so we got to spend some quality time. Then my cat needed an operation for a mass on his neck. It was pretty serious and he is old, but he survived the operation :). Also working on college application, so that is why I havent been here as much. Wishing you a great day and sending holiday hugs.
@Zengrl Glad your cat survived. Pets are great to have around. My dog is 11. But we still take a walk everyday.. congrats on the applications, I dont think I would have the courage to go back to school again. Im happy that you do! All will go well! Take care.
@Lauren63 @zengrl just a reminder we have a discussion at 8PM EST in 7 minutes on Lonelyness and social isolation
@soulsings Thanks
@Lauren63 Hey how are you? Im just finishing my resume and now starting the essays for school. I saw you posted something about alcohol so I wanted to see if you were okay. This is always a tricky season and I know Im glad there is this community so I have some support. Anyway just know Im here for you and I really do care. Hope your weekend is going ok. Im taking a break tonput up the xmas tree but my husband has football on the tv 🤷♀️.
@Zengrl I cant respond to the alcohol thing, because I dont know what you are talking about. My tree is already up. I am thinking about baking on my day off Wednesday. Maybe. Hope you get all your stuff done for grad school. Then you will get really busy! Take care.
@Lauren63 Sorry if this was confusing. Thought you posted about a drink, but its very possible it was someone elses post. Sounds like your holiday is coming along just fine. 🎄 Have a good night!
@Zengrl I said I don
@Zengrl Im sorry. But a reply about dying alone? Being a pharaoh in the chat rooms? I evidently am a horrible person. Why you even message me is a mystery. You take care.
@Lauren63 Hmm, my turn to be confused as I dont know those references. I think you are a nice person and have never said anything negative about you. Sometimes you refer to yourself as a horrible person, but it is not true. Dont listen to that voice.
@Zengrl wasnt you who said it. Someone else. Its fine, all good.
@Zengrl I will try not to listen to that voice. I do appreciate you and that you are here and created this wonderful room. Thanks.
@Lauren63 All good here too. Yes this is a safe room and we can always take time to figure out what people are saying. Sending hugs to you and your cute doggy today! 💖
@Zengrl I think I am not going to chat rooms anymore. Thanks for the hugs. Hope all is well with you TC..
@Lauren63 I will miss you in discussions if that is what you meant. Discussions are different in that they are moderated and they are not as wild as chats. I hope you will attend some of my discussions. Take care.
@Lauren63 Some of the chat rooms have some really rude people and I know someone recently posted what to do if you need help—there
@Zengrl you dont try the chat rooms. 3 days not acknowledged that I was there. Until I respond to something. Why? Cause no one wants to talk to me. Except you. You should give up. I was doing what I could to feel better. I am sorry. Tc
@Lauren63 Oh Ive been to some chat rooms here where no one greeted me either. However they werent the 50+ group. Anyway, you should only do what you are comfortable with. This cozy place is always safe.
@Lauren63 I am sorry that you are not getting responses in the chat rooms. I find the discussions much better for getting involved than just open chat. In fact if I want to talk to someone I find the browse for a listener can be good too. https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/
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