Mindfulness for self and others
Hello 50+ sub-community
Check-in Dec.16th-18th
If we do something nice for someone. How does it make you feel?
What nice thing can you do for yourself?
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@scarletPear1945
I don’t feel anything, but doing “nice” things for others is a great habit to have.
@Iamwhoiamwhoami
I don't get anything from it either. When i do help others it is out of a sense of duty.
@Gettingbettertoday
I am so sorry that helping someone does not give you a sense of gratitude, when we do things out of a sense of being our duty or is hard to feel like you have been helpful when we do things out of duty or obligation. I have experienced this myself, so I get what you are saying. I have learned that it helped me to be true to myself and honest even if they get offended by my choice, to say no.
I thank you for your honesty, that shows character. Thank you for replying and for just being here😊
@Iamwhoiamwhoami
You may not realize it, but you do nice things just your kind words help others. We give our love and support but when it is received back by your kind words.
Thank you for being here, you are respected and cared. Keep being who you are, remember one step at a time😊❤️
@scarletPear1945
Do unto others as you would do unto yourself and/or as you would want others to do unto you is the correct thing to do.
But we are selfish humans so we do things for others in the guise (not always apparent) to get...
I don't feel anything
@Barltik2065
You are so right. Sometimes we find it hard to be true to our own selves presenting a false image to others because we don't want to upset anyone or want to be liked. I used to have major problems being real and my authentic self. I had to learn how.
Thank you for checking in today, it is so nice to have you here and I hope your holiday is full of joy and peace😊❤️
If we do something nice for someone. How does it make you feel?
The Bible says there's more joy in giving than in receiving. And it's true. Think about it... when you get a gift... might be something you've wanted for a long time and when you get it, you're excited! But, that excitement wears off. When you give someone something that they really want the collateral feeling for you is that warm, satisfying feeling of 'good' inside you. THAT, doesn't disappear so easily, in fact it's like a building block for your self-esteem that doesn't ever have to go away.
What nice thing can you do for yourself?
Don't stress out over what I can't get done by Christmas!! 😅
That's the best thing I can do for me right now... I'm working on some stitchouts to send to family. Stressin' big time but I gotta let go of that and just do what I can.
What I really need to do today, and every day is move more. Maybe today I'll get myself on my elliptical and do at least 10 minutes. Do it for the next few days... and then get myself to the gym on Monday and have a little more energy for it then.
I'm really trying to work on my activity level. I spend way to much time sitting in my room at my computer...
@EmbStitcher33
Wow, great answers and I love how you creatively dressed up your response. Brought a bit of life to the post.
Thank you for answering and being apart of this community❤️
@scarletPear1945
Hi, Pear,
Helping someone else makes me feel useful instead of worthless.
If I do something nice for myself, I have to tell myself that I deserve it.
@purpleTree4652
Great, I feel that way to. Giving back to others some of what I have received. I like that you have to talk to self and tell self that you deserve to be rewarded. That has been one of my struggles.
Thank you and😊 have a very merry Christmas.
@scarletPear1945
If we do something nice for someone. How does it make you feel? I always feel good when I can help someone else, somehow it warms my heart.
What nice thing can you do for yourself? Tomorrow I'm going to pamper myself with good food, dancing exercise and lots of me time.
@amiablePeace77
Ami, that sounds great, and I appreciate all your support.
Thank you❤️
@scarletPear1945
If we do something nice for someone. How does it make you feel? I feel great and life feels worthwhile.
What nice thing can you do for yourself? Rein in the negative emotions that disrupt my life and make me feel bad.
@soulsings
Very well put, and so right❤️
@scarletPear1945
I love your pfp so adorable! I love chihuahua 💝
@Wayward7Good7Intentions
Thank you, His name is Max, and he thinks he is a Doberman🤣
@scarletPear1945 that must be some fierce dog.
We had a Yorkshire Terrier that was 6 pounds "soaking wet" and he would really bark at all the big dogs. They were not sure what to make of him.
@soulsings
Right, that is the way max is. 10 pounds and the big dogs run from him.🤣
@scarletPear1945 I do not know what it is but little dogs seem to be very territorial.
Gift for myself? I’m giving myself the gift of time. I just retired and am giving myself a month or two to decide what to do in future. Do I want to work? I’m limited on how much I can work to not lose my pension. If I work, what do I want to do?
@purpleAcres4174
Pros and Cons of going back to work is a deep decision to make. Enjoy some time off for plenty of self-care, and time to just reflect on your future❤️
Thank you for being here and for sharing😊
Happy holidays🎄🎅
I always donate to toys for tots, each year imagining the joy the children feel when they receive a new toy they weren’t expecting. For me, I try to spend time with friends and family and enjoy their company.
@purpleAcres4174
That is very nice of you and I am sure the children love it🎅❤️
@scarletPear1945 When I help others, it makes me feel really good in side.
It is a great mood lifter.
@calmMango9611
I totally agree.
Happy holidays🎅🎄