Day 10: Showing Up, Choosing Yourself

 *criessss*

Hey hey everyoneeee, hope this one finds you super well.🌸💖

Oof and just like that we come to the close of this little Love Month Celebration series.🥹💖

What started as something meant for the Valentine’s week/ February month somehow stayed with us a little longer and honestly, I’m really glad it did hehe. I genuinely didn’t want to rush this one or do any of this half-heartedly. I know I’ve rambled a lot throughout xD and it’s only because I deeplyyy care for everything I’ve shared here and stronglyy believe in the power of believing in ourselves and loving ourselves. 

Also grateful that so many of you stuck around over these days, and that we didn’t just talk about love in the usual sense. We sat with it in quieter, more real ways, and more impactful ways. 

 💌 Being true to ourselves 💗 Showing up for ourselves ❤️‍🩹 Unlearning gently 💞 Creating safety within 💝 Choosing love each day ❤️‍🩹 Forgiving ourselves 🎀 Taking accountability without losing compassion 🧡 Rebuilding trust with ourselves 💓 Redefining what love even feels like for us  And now, after all of that…  I think what really matters is this.  

What do we do with everything we’ve talked about or understood so far? Because awareness is beautiful. Reflection is important. But at some point, it all gently asks us to step into something more.  To show up.  Not perfectly. Not all at once. But intentionally. And truthfully. 

 Because the truth is, you can know what feels right for you and still find yourself slipping into old patterns sometimes.  You can understand your worth and still struggle to choose it in certain moments.  

But you know what? that doesn’t cancel your growth or makes your progress seem insignificant in anyway. It just means you’re hoomannn, learning how to live in alignment with what you now know.  So maybe, instead of expecting ourselves to suddenly become this perfectly healed version hehe  we can focus on something a little more simpler.  (Yeah I know easier said than done lol but heyyy we’ve been trying and that’s something)

Simpler way though? Showing up in small ways. (Again, “small” is relative here, you can always choose to do you and it countsss as is)

Keeping one promise we made to ourselves. Pausing before repeating something we’ve outgrown. Choosing honesty over avoidance, even if it feels uncomfortable. Walking away, or stepping back, when something doesn’t feel like the kind of love we’re learning to accept anymore.  These moments may not always feel big.  But they’re where everything starts shifting.  Because choosing love isn’t just about what we give to others.  It’s also about what we allow, what we walk away from, and how we treat ourselves in the in-between moments.  And you won’t always get it “right.”  Some days will feel aligned. Some days you might fall back into old ways.  But you can always choose again.  That part doesn’t go away. 🫂💖

 Ahhh for the 10th time now lol, when you’re comfortable to, here’s something to reflect on-

 🌸 What is one small way I can show up for myself after this series ends?  

🌸 What is one thing I now recognise as “not love” for me anymore?  

🌸 What does choosing myself look like in my current phase of life?  

🌸 What is the one lesson from this series into my everyday life? 

 You don’t have to leave this series as a completely changed person.  That’s not the point lol. If you’re leaving with a little more awareness, a little more gentleness toward yourself and a little more intention in how you show up in your life? that already means something has shifted and that you are already sooo many steps farther away from where we started. 

  If you were my best friend irl and I could say anything to youu considering you know im always thinking in your best interest, I’d want… okay scratch that… I’d probably actually “demand” you to feel proud of yourself and clap for yourself and to borrow my lens and see yourself the way I do and remember that you become unstoppable when you genuinely believe in yourself and for the slightest amount of time you are unable to? then as my best friend you have all the right to borrow my belief in you for as long as you need it. 🥺💖

But unfortunately since we aren’t in that arrangement here lol 🤧 and I have to be a little bit “polite” without asserting my demands or telling you how you should actually feel  (😏😛) 🥲 I just really really hopeeee that you’re at least little proud of yourself.  For staying. For trying. For choosing to reflect. For questioning self. For trying to figure out patterns. For being open to different views. For constantly showing up for yourself. Because heyyy I know none of this is easy or comfortable even. 

It takes soooo much to sit with your thoughts, your patterns, your emotions… and still decide that you want to grow through them.  Even if it’s slow. Even if it’s messy. Even if no one else can see it yet.  And maybe that’s what this was never really about.  Not becoming a “better” or “perfect” version of yourself overnight…  But learning to sit with who you are, understand yourself a little more each day, and slowly… gently… become someone who doesn’t abandon themselves anymore.  And that kind of love?  The one you build with yourself over time…  It stays.  Always. 🫂💖