A Talk On Self-Care With Juul!

Talker: @Juul

What is your idea of spending a balanced time on 7cups? Share your idea of how a good day looks like on 7cups, for you.

I like to spend time on 7cups in my spare time and when I’m in a good headspace. I prefer to put my status on ‘online’ and let people reach out to me, as I feel like they’re able to choose their listener rather than connecting with a random person they have connected with by chance. Of course, if no one sends a personal request I will chat with members who have put in a general request. I chat with a maximum of 2 people at a time so I can give them the attention they deserve and can respond quickly. To me this is what a good day looks like: connecting with 1-2 people, listening to them, and hopefully leaving them feeling better and carrying on with their day.

What challenges did you face in trying to strike that balance?

Sometimes I get a lot of personal requests at once and I feel bad for declining requests. Or sometimes things in real life need more attention, which causes me to cut conversations short. At times I just don’t have the headspace to listen to others.

How did you try to deal with those challenges?

I remember that 7cups is something I do voluntarily and that I do not have any obligations. My personal life goes before 7cups.

What are the benefits of improving your balance for the time you spend on cups?

I will be a better listener if I am happy in my personal life and have full attention for members.

What message would you like to give to the cupsers who have come to be negatively attached to cups, in one of the many ways?

Allow yourself some time away from 7cups even though it may be difficult. It allows you to get away from the negative attachment. When some time has passed you can come back and start over new, with a clean slate. I understand you want to listen to people and help them out, but you are your first priority. If being on 7cups gives you negative feelings, take a step back, give yourself some time, and when you’re ready, slowly ease back into it. Start with listening to one person and then slowly increase the time you spend on 7cups if comfortable. Your mental state is most important, prioritise yourself.

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