CDM Talk: Get in Touch with your Inner Child

@azuladragon34

<3 When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with:

Learning

<3 When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to:

Seek attention and appreciation

<3 Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place?

I was always moving so never got the chance to explore such a home. But, I miss how one of the houses I've lived at felt so soothing. It was a comfortable place and I was so innocent, I had many friends I'd play hide and seek with.

<3 When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions?

I'll pass on this question.

<3 How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet?

There are different-different things that I do, depending on my mood. I prefer to give myself space and pamper myself. I prefer to take a shower, get dressed, and go for a walk. It lifts my mood and lightens my heart. If I am too sad, I play songs and dance till I sweat. It feels much better after sweating it out.

<3 Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child.

You're a survivor and you've become a warrior. I am proud of you for taking care of yourself in such harsh conditions.

@azuladragon34

1. When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with:

   I always loved to read and escape to different worlds.

2. When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to:

   I used to showcase my talent to show my family how far I've come and how I've put my learning into practice.

3. Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place?

   The house I spent my childhood in was haunted! I still had good memories of being outside in the garden bouncing on the trampoline. The emotions of that house was both positive and kind of scary!

4. When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions?

   They used to validate how I was feeling and help come up with a solution to make me feel better.

5. How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet?

   I turn to reading or doing something artistic. I enjoy playing with my dogs and listening to music.

6. Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child

   You're doing great! You're going to grow into an amazing person who is kind and selfless. I am so proud of you!

1. When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with Barbie dolls.

2. When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to my friends.

3. Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place?

   I had a lot of traumatic memories that I do not like to think about . I also had some very good ones.

4. When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions?

   My mom would comfort me and hug me.

5. How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet?

   I work through it with self talking or talking to someone here. My outlet is coming here or listening to music.

6. Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child

   It was not your fault.

1. When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with Cars

2. When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to

   Try to get approval from my parents, Who didn't know how to support a child.
   

3. Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place?

   That is where 'The Ogres' lived (my abusive parents)
   

4. When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions?

   What are you crying for? I will give you something to cry about. WHACK!
   

5. How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet?

   I try to learn new ways to express myself thru Art.
   

6. Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child

   In IOP (Intensive Outpatient Therapy) I learned how to write a 'Good Parent Letter'.
   Imagine you are a supportive, non-judgemental parent. Describe a tough situation and let your 'Good Parent' tell you that you did a good job dealing with it.
   

@azuladragon34

1. When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with finding new music, singing, and poetry

2. When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to my best friends because at the time, they were my family. and to prove to myself my worth.

3. Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place? love, hope, unity, tradition, growth, happiness, purity.

4. When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions? we didn't communicate so i was withdrawn and always went to my friends.

5. How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet? my outlet now is using social media and writing.

6. Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child You are worthy of taking up space and time. You are resilient and beautiful and you will make it farther than you believe and you earned your happiness so don't give it up. Make plans for your life and make sure no one makes you feel that you cannot accomplish anything! You are capable of beautiful things in life.

@azuladragon34

"They have often been forgotten and buried for a long time. By identifying these issues, people can work to heal their inner child wounds and move on with their lives."

I'm not saying this is wrong, but it's a very controversial topic in psychology. I urge you and anyone else to read about this first: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_memory_syndrome when trying to use the "inner child" model.

@azuladragon34

• When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with dogs

• When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to no one. It was immodest to showcase. But I yearned for anyone to notice.

• Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place? Safety and security.

• When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions? don't be silly.

• How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet? music. Getting angry or tearful. Self validation. Support from friends, family and 7 cups.

• Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child it was never your job to solve the problems. You have needs that are not being met and it is not your fault that they arent being met. You deserve better. You are good and important and you will achieve amazing things. You deserve to be loved.

@azuladragon34

1. When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with animals.

2. When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to my parents and friends.

3. Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place?

   For some reason I'm having a hard time answering this one.

4. When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions?

   Almost always they listened to me and made me feel heard. They never invalidated me. They also tried to rationalize things for me.

5. How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet?

   Coloring. Fashion. Music. Dancing. Singing. Writing. Cosplay. Physical activity.

6. Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child

   You are such a gift to others. More than you may be able to see. Try to see that.

@azuladragon34

1. When I was a child/younger I loved/ was fascinated with ______

   comics, superheroes, cats, Twillight (lol) and overall with my own fantasy world.

2. When I was a child/younger I used to showcase my talent/achievement to ______

   seek approval and make my parents feel proud of me

3. Remember the house where you spent your childhood. What emotions best describe the memory of that place?

   loneliness, helplessness, anxiety, depression

4. When you were scared, sad or hurt as a child, how did a parent/caregiver respond to your emotions?

   I do not have any recolection of someone responding to my emotions.

5. How do you deal with emotional discomfort now? What is your outlet?

   I compensate a lot through work, in order to take my mind off of emotional discomfort. I also write about my emotions and write letters to myself while pretending that I am giving advice to a really good friend who is in trouble. I have regular dates with myself alone, reading or writing on my laptop while having a cup of coffee (this has proven to be a necessary routine for me now, as it worked so well in maintaining my wellbeing!), having long walks with myself and listening to music, dancing and jumping around when alone... also, talking to someone close to me (my mom, boyfriend, friends etc.)... and in some cases, having just a really good cry also has been an amazing outlet for me.

6. Leave a short caring and comforting note to your inner child

   I am so proud of you. You have come so far, despite of all the obstacles... You are so strong and capable like nobody I have ever seen. Great things are awaiting you, child.