hello depression support! 💜
hello everyone! i hope your all doing okay (: my name is ni, and i’ve recently joined as a forum supporter for our lovely community 💜 as a forum supporter, i aim to support others in our community and spread some love and kindness around 🥰 i really am so excited to begin this journey with you all!
a huge thank-you to @sunisshiningandsoareyou for helping me write this introduction 🥰 you da best, sun buddy! 🥺
a little bit about me (:
i am fourteen years old 🌈 and i love to read books, write poetry and design graphics. i also enjoy cupsing and supporting others the best i can 💜 i’ve been battling depression for a long time now, so i understand how exhausting living with it can be (': your not alone in this 💜 not ever.
while i am *not* an expert, i am passionate about mental health and i think i may pursue something in that field one day (: hehe. 💜
my previous forum threads
if you’d like to and haven’t done so already, you can have a look at some of my previous posts as well (: the titles i’ve mentioned here are all clickable 💙
as i end this introduction 💙 i’d like to ask you all a few things :3 feel free to answer any or all of these questions, if comfy! 🌈
- how have you been? seriously (':
- what’s something you love about 7cups? :o
- what are some things you’d like to see more of in the depression support community? 💙
i’m looking forward to hearing from you! (: please do take care of yourself and be gentle with yourself 💙 you deserve love and care. sending lots of love!
- how have you been? seriously
I've had a lot of mixed feelings lately. There have been positive aspects of my therapy and my group meetings and there have been negative things, as well. I'm left not knowing what to expect from anyone anymore, so it's a little nerve-wracking.
- what’s something you love about 7cups?
I like the word games and I like to answer some of these questions. I wish more people would read my posts and respond.
- what are some things you’d like to see more of in the depression support community?
I don't know. Maybe some memes about depression and how to deal with it.
@WharfRat
Hi, Rat,
Gosh, I didn't know you'd like people to respond to your quotes. I'll try, but that is no guarantee. I'm the opposite. I wouldn't like anyone to respond to my posts, unless I specifically respond to them, or unless it is the person who posted.
@purpleTree4652
I meant the posts about my abuse and its effects, specifically. I think it's because I want people to understand me. Some say it doesn't matter if anyone understands or not, but I disagree.
@WharfRat
you deserve to be heard and understood, friend. 💙
@WharfRat
It sucks to be abused. I can relate to that directly. Are the people who abused you out of your life? I hope to God that they are.
Hi there @WharfRat (:
i get that thing where we have mixed feelings 💜 your not alone in that 💙 i understand how a lot of the time positive feelings can get mixed in with the negative ones (': and i hear you about things feeling nerve-wracking, especially because you don’t know what to expect from anyone anymore ): would you like to tell us a bit more about how you feel about your therapy/group meetings? 💜 (no pressure)
word games and answering questions are defo vv pawesome! 🐾 i’m sorry to hear not many people have been responding to your posts though 💙 you deserve to be seen and heard (': would you like me to have a look at some of these posts? :o if comfy 💜
yay, memes would certainly be a great thing to have here at depression support (: i’ll definitely think about creating a space for memes 🌈 and maybe making some posts about coping/dealing with depression 💙 thank youu for your suggestions, friend (: sending loootts of love your way! 💜
@LoveMyMoonflowers
Yes, please read my abuse story and the piece I posted more recently on one of the major effects of the abuse, on unrequited love. If you have any questions, please ask.
The thing about our group meetings is attendance varies from one week to the next. We never know who will show up each time. We can't get into any particular topic too deeply, because of time and because some people, myself included, don't feel comfortable sharing personal information with certain other people or with strangers.
The groups I attend include one called peer to peer support (we've been working our way through a book on overthinking ruminative thoughts, and now we're going through a workbook called "Better Days"), panic attack and anxiety support (I don't have panic attacks, but I attend this group just to go there on Wednesdays), dual recovery (this group is for people who are trying to get over an addiction as well as deal with a mental illness - I've never had any addictions, but I attend this one because it's just before men's group), men's group (when the first guy facilitated this group, he actually tried to get discussions on serious issues started, but he quit in June. We now just hang out and talk about whatever, nothing serious).
Two new groups have started this month. There is a group on loneliness, which I attended this morning, after peer-to-peer group, and a self-esteem group right after men's group. There has been a self-esteem group before, but it had been moved to Tuesdays a couple of years ago, and I don't go there on Tuesdays. I'm happy it's back on Thursdays, so I can attend it again.
@WharfRatThis forum thread is a heartwarming display of support and empathy within a depression support community. Members openly share their struggles, seeking solace and offering encouragement, forming a safe haven where honesty and compassion flourish. From sharing personal stories to suggesting ways to enhance the community, it's a testament to the power of connection and understanding in navigating mental health challenges together
@yellowPineapple239
What do you mean? Do you mean I don't belong here?
@WharfRat
thank you for sharing your story 💜
i’m honestly so sorry life has been so tough for you 😞 you really don’t deserve that and i really am so sorry. 💙 i am proud of you, though, for feeling comfy enough to share your story on here, and for reaching out. i hope you know we’re here for you 💜 and that you don’t have to suffer in silence. you don’t have to do this alone. 💙 your never alone. 🌈
i understand how you and many others in the groups don’t feel comfortable sharing much personal info 💜 that’s certainly understandable, especially in a group setting where you don’t know many people there. 💙
it sounds like you’ve been attending many different groups, focusing on a variety of topics. would you say these group meetings have been helpful to you? :o
i am happy to hear you’re able to attend the self-esteem group meetings again (: self-esteem is certainly an important topic and i’m happy to know your able to be in that group! 🌈
again, thank you for taking the time to share. sending more love your way! (:
@LoveMyMoonflowers
The main thing that the group meetings have done for me is they have gotten me to talk. I talked very little before. I don't get to talk about anything very deep in the meetings, but talking at all about some of my issues and listening to other people have helped me.
@WharfRat
I get that. 💜 It really can be hard feeling comfy enough to talk about things deeply (': but I am so happy to hear that these group meetings have helped you talk a bit more 🌈 and that listening to others’ stories has helped you as well (:
Sending best of wishes your way! 💙
@LoveMyMoonflowers
Hey ni! Congratulations on becoming a forum supporter❤.
how have you been? seriously
I'm having severe mood swings. Sometimes I feel like I don't want to talk anymore everyone is annoying and then I sometimes also feel like I want to be with someone who understands my struggles.
- what’s something you love about 7cups?
I love 2 things about 7 cups. First one is the listeners. They are all so supportive and have many a times helped me to clear the mess in my mind. The other thing is the forums. It's better to scroll through forums than wasting time on any social media as here I can see that I'm not the only one struggling. There are many people who are suffering more than me. That makes me feel at ease sometimes.
- what are some things you’d like to see more of in the depression support community?
As you said you suffer from depression too, so something that has helped you cope with it during it's peak period. Also, now you're here helping others out so how can you manage everything when you yourself suffer from depression.
Thank you so much for this post(:
hi there @Blahblah1805 💙 thank you so much for your response! 🌈 hehe.
i hear you about the severe mood swings ): that must be pretty tough. 💜 i’m proud of you for being able to share that with me, and i’m here if you need to talk about it a bit more, okie? 💙 i hope you know that we care about you and want to be there for you. 🥰 your not alone.
awwe yay, thank you for sharing what you love about cupsies (: listeners are defo awesome 🌈 i think it can be vv important that we take the time to reach out (but i understand it can be hard, too) and have someone to talk to. 💜 i’m so happy to hear your listeners have helped you and supported you. you deserve the best!
i love interacting in the forums as well! (: i’m happy to hear it makes you feel less alone 💙 because your *not* alone (':
thank you so vv much for your suggestions as well :3 i’ll definitely think about writing more about coping with depression 💜 it can definitely be vv hard to cope (':
sending loads of love your way! 🌈 your awesome pawesome 🐾
@LoveMyMoonflowers
Hi, Moonflowers,
- how have you been? seriously (': I have been up and down a little. I am almost always depressed. But recently I have been feeling a little better. But don't take that to mean that I'm better overall. It just means that I am not deeply depressed every day. That is an improvement. Lately I've been waiting for someone to attack me because I have been attacked all my life. And lately, I haven't been attacked constantly. That is an improvement.
- what’s something you love about 7cups? :o I love being able to go to a sharing circle and talk to people about what is on my mind, and they'll listen.
- what are some things you’d like to see more of in the depression support community? 💙 I don't know.
Awwe hey there @purpleTree4652 💜 thank you for taking the time to respond to my post (:
i understand what it’s like to feel a bit up and down ): and i hear you about almost always being depressed. i get how difficult it must be for you, i really do 💙 but i’m honestly happy to hear things have been getting better for you 💜 especially when it comes to feeling a little less depressed every day and not being attacked constantly. i am so sorry to hear you’ve been attacked a lot in your life ): you absolutely don’t deserve that. would you like to tell us a bit more, if comfy? we’re here for you, and your free to share as little or as much as you like 🌈
the sharing circle is always vv awesome! (: i am so happy to hear you’ve been able to feel comfy and safe enough to share what’s on your mind there 💙 you deserve to feel seen and heard and i am so proud of you for being able to share (:
i’m sending lots of love your way! 🌈 be safe and please look after yourself, my friend. 💜
@LoveMyMoonflowers
😃 Aww! Hii Nii, you're such sweetheart, thank you for support in the community! 💖 And yay for becoming FS, congratulations! 🎉
- what’s something you love about 7cups? :o
- Best part of being here is getting to meet a tons of amazing people. May it be 1-1, forums or chatrooms, there's always someone who will give support to who needs it forming a safe and supportive community for everyone 💜
- what are some things you’d like to see more of in the depression support community? 💙
- Discussions would be nice, about how to cope and manage our depression, where we could share strategies and such. Memes and ice breakers for fun times too. And perhaps gentle reminders too (which you're already going awesome in this regard, yay!) 💜
Keep up your great work 😃💜 Wishing you all the best in your future endeavors 🚀
@HachiBee
awwe, your so sweet, hachi! 💜 thank you so much (:
that is so very true, i agree completely. 💙 there really are so many precious hooman beans here 🥰 spreading lots of love, kindness, humour and so much more. 💜 it’s so beautiful to think about, really. i’m so grateful to have met so many wonderful people here (': and that includes you. 💙 it’s so vv lovely to see you around :3
awwe, thank you so much for sharing your ideas! (: i agree, having more discussions about coping/managing depression would be vv helpful 🌈 and i love the idea of including more icebreakers (: i was literally thinking about memes too! :o
thank you so much for your sweet wishes! 🥺 i’m sending loads of good vibes atcha 🌈
@LoveMyMoonflowers
😁 Your positivity is soo contagious, you're truly one of the incredible hoomans here 🌈✨ Really appreciate your work here to make our corner of the internet more supportive and safe. Sending you more hugsss if okie 🤗💜💜💜
@HachiBee
*hugs* always okie! 🌈
@LoveMyMoonflowers
Awww you're always welcome, Niibuddy. This is amazing and you are just the most incredible hoomannnn. Sending lots of love and best wishes for this new role!🤗💗
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou catches some of the hearts 😁😁 yaaay hearts
@Tinywhisper11
you deserve all da love, lola! 🥺💕
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
*huggle wuggle if okay* 🌈
@LoveMyMoonflowers I loveee everything about cups ❤❤ me honestly struggling a bit. But also excited 15 days to go 🎅🎅🎅 I would like to see more🤔🤔🤔🤔 icecream being given out freely 😋😁
and yaaaaay! Congratulations on being a forum supporter ❤❤ gives you a giant festive tiny hug ❤
@Tinywhisper11
i love everything about cups, too! 🥰 hehe. 💙
i’m so sorry to hear you’ve been struggling lola bean ): me always here if you need to talk about it a bit more, okie? me here for you 💜 *huggle wuggle* 🌈
ouh thank you! :0 i’ll definitely work on giving out more free ice cream 🍦 we love ice cream hehe. 💙 sending lots of love for lola bean 🥺
@LoveMyMoonflowers I'm struggling but I'm coping ok🙂 staying positive ❤❤ squeezes you tightly ❤
@Tinywhisper11
*massiiivee squeeziiees* 💙 you da best. stay strong, sweet one. 💜
@LoveMyMoonflowers
If I am being honest not so good last few days,trying to be strong and go through the storm but it seems like every time I get win something bad happens again just like leach you get one another pops out
@littleWater1579
hey friend 💙 thank you so much for being honest about your feelings. i know it can be hard sometimes but i appreciate your bravery and i am so proud of you! 💜
i hear you completely, friend ): life can be crazy and messy and definitely like a storm 💙 i’m proud of you for trying to be strong. your trying means so much (': even if it may not feel like it at the moment. 💜 i’m so sorry it feels like something bad always happens after you win ): do you think you’d feel comfy telling us a bit more about that? no pressure, of course, but we are here for you and we want to be there to listen 💙
me sending loads of love your way 💜 be safe, buddy (: and remember - we’re here for you, always. 💙
@LoveMyMoonflowers
Hey I would be glad to tell you more,I live my life as a professional athlete and my season started like 2 months ago had one tournament in which I did so and so,it wasn't so bad but not so great anyway I did improve my self a lot in meantime and and everyone saw it and also I felt it how much of progress I made and when the big tournament came it more championship I didn't get the opportunity to play because other player got my spot I was on the stands just chearing on my team.
It hit me really hard because I know not all of this is gone to waist cuz I improved my self physically and mentally but still it hurt so much and now time has come to go home and to new club for next half of a season but unfortunately I'm stuck here until my paper is done and the thing her is everything is so slow you need to call everyday to get something done and I don't have much time because other club is waiting for my arrival soon and by soon I mean next week Wednesday and I still don't know a thing when my flight is and when I'll get the rest of salary.
@littleWater1579
thank you for taking the time to share. 💜 life as a professional athlete can be tough 💙 i’m proud of you for being able to share this with me. your not alone in this and we are here for you! 🌈
i’m so sorry to hear you didn’t get to play at the big tournament ): and i get why you would feel upset about that, friend. 💜 it sounds like things have been a bit mixed for you lately - with you not being able to play at that tournament and with you improving yourself. 💙
i really hope things get better for you, and that everything works out soon. 💜 we’re here for you if you need someone to talk to. 💙 you can find a listener to speak to here 🌈 the filters there are helpful as well.
sending loads of love and best of wishes your way! (:
@LoveMyMoonflowers
Thanks for everything,I will do my best to get better and keep on fighting. Thanks for kind words and just being there ❤️🫂🫂
@littleWater1579
of course 💜 we are always here for you, friend. sending loads of more love and good vibes your way 🌈 i believe in you. you can keep on fighting and you can keep going 💙 stay strong (: and please look after yourself. 💜
@LoveMyMoonflowers
- how have you been? seriously
Feeling unreal, I guess. Like out of touch with reality almost.
- what’s something you love about 7cups?
Games and icebreakers, they're really fun. Make me laugh and the people are very supportive, kind, and funny.
- what are some things you’d like to see more of in the depression support community?
Personally, icebreakers, prompts, games, word association, and so on. Something that not only brings a lot of users together, but it requires the person to take a minute and think which I personally appreciate.
hiya @JollyRacher 💕
i hear you’ve been feeling unreal ): and almost out of touch with reality. 💙 that sounds tough to deal with (': but i’m proud of you for being able to share this with me. 💜 would you feel comfy talking about it a bit more? 💙 only if comfy. there’s no pressure to talk, of course 💜 i hope you know we’re still here for you and we care about you.
awwe yes 🌈 games and icebreakers are defo vvv fun :3 i’m so happy they make you laugh 💕 and that you’ve met people who are vv kind and funny (:
icebreakers, games, prompts etc. are certainly awesome ways to connect with more people on here 🥰 and it really is lovely how we can take the time to think about different icebreakers/prompts. thank you for sharing! 💙
@LoveMyMoonflowers
ive been better just having boy issues
i love how everyone helps each other
and id love to see vines and memes they always make my day
hope your having a great day too <3
awwe hey @MentalyUnstableFrog 🌈 thank you for responding to my post. 💜
i’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling ): would you feel comfy talking about it a bit more? 💙 we’re here for you, if you need to talk (: you could also talk to a volunteer listener here. 💜 you don’t have to suffer in silence 💕 we’re here for you.
awwe! it’s definitely so sweet how we all help each other here at 7cups 🌈 it’s certainly one thing i love as well (:
thank you for sharing your suggestions 🐾 i’m sending lots of love your way! 💙 be safe 💜
@LoveMyMoonflowers congrats on becoming a forum supporter! I appreciate your time and all you do for the community as a supporter.
To answer your questions:
- I've definitely been having ups and downs. One day I feel like the world is crashing down around me, and the next day I feel the sunshine and think things are going to be ok. I try hard to remind myself in the dark times that it won't last forever, but it's so hard to see in that moment.
- I love pretty much everything about this community. Everyone here has been so kind, compassionate and accepting. It is really a joy to see so much support amongst the community.
- I honestly can't think of anything I'd like to see more of, but if something comes to mind I'll reply again 😋.
awwe hey @VintageDougers 🌈 thank you so much (: i really appreciate you, too. 💙
i’m sorry to hear you’ve been having some ups and downs (': i get that. 💜 i hear you about feeling like the world is crashing down on you one day ): and then the next it feels like everything will be okay. 💙 i understand what that’s like, and i’m sure many in our community would be able to relate 💜 your never alone in that, friend.
it really can be so hard to remind ourselves that dark times won’t last forever, especially when we are right in the midst of them. 💙 i hear you. i hope you know your not alone in this, friend, and that we are here for you if you need a listening ear. 💜 would you feel comfy sharing how you’ve been coping with these ups and downs? ):
i am so happy to hear you’ve met people here who are kind and compassionate 🌈 and accepting. you deserve to feel safe and supported and i am so happy you’ve found that in our community (:
awwe, that’s completely okay. you can always post again if you have any ideas! 🌈 sending loads of love your way (: thank you for your response. 💙
Well I've not been dealing with the ups and downs in the best ways. I've been leaning on alcohol a lot since my mom passed a few months ago. I know I'm drinking too much and need to change that, but it's just so difficult right now. I'm trying to cut myself some slack with it though, and have committed to doing a "dry January" with my wife and some friends. I've also reached out to my doctor just yesterday and am supposed to be getting a call soon from a mental health counselor to schedule a psychiatrist appointment. I hope they call soon.
@VintageDougers
i am so sorry to hear about your mother’s passing ): and that you’ve been leaning on alcohol. i can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling right now. sending massive hugs your way, if okay. your not alone in this 💙 we’re here for you, okie? 💜 i’m so proud of you for being here and for sharing this with me. your so strong and i appreciate that 💙
i hear you 💜 and i understand it’s difficult, friend ): but if you ever need someone to talk to about this 🌈 we are here. you can find a listener to talk to here, and you can use the filters to find listeners who have had experiences similar to yours. 💙 you’ve got this. 💜
awwe, i am so happy to hear you’ve reached out to your doctor 💙 and that your supposed to get a call from a mental health counsellor. 🌈 speaking with professionals can be helpful 💜 how do you feel about the appointment? :o
I'm a bit nervous about the appointment. I've been to therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists many times and never felt like I got much from them. But I know I need to do something and feel like it's time to try again.
@VintageDougers
I hear you about feeling nervous ): and about how you’ve felt like you never got much from professionals in the past. 💜 I’m proud of you for trying again, though 💙 and I hope you’ll be able to find the care and support you deserve. 🌈 Sending lots of love! (:
