I am absolutely disgusted....

@mruggiero95 Hey, I really dont know what to suggest, but, I feel that there isn't much you can do about it based on what you wrote, and it seems like this is between the 2 of them, and it's possible you don't know the whole story, I mean, who knows if your mom knows something already, a lot of times people know and put up with things they shouldn't. You do live with them which makes it very difficult on you, I am sure. It's great that you have the family support. I wonder if there is something, anything you can do to help them in other ways that have nothing to do with their relationship. I feel the only way as their daughter is if you can be supportive back to them in some way or the other. Maybe your dad is going through a hard time for whatever reason. I am not excusing the behavior, it's just that it seems to me like there is nothing you can do to solve it, and it shouldn't be your responsibility either. I am not saying you said anything of the sort, but I can see where you are coming from, and why you would feel the need to do something. The best you can do right now is probably to support your parents in any way possible, and if that means keeping quiet, and eventually living your life as best as possible, while helping them in other ways, then that is all you can do

@mruggiero95 p.s. not really sure why u would argue with your dad or have an argument, maybe you could confront him still and find a way to talk to him? Once again, I don't really know what the solution is here, but it sounds like you have to try to make a decision about whether to confront your dad or mom or both and possibly act as their psychologist which is not your responsibility or keep your mouth shut. One thing is for sure that if you do decide to confront anyone, you will open up a can of worms and have to be open to the possibilty that your dad or mom do no want to go to counseling or solve the situation at all; it sounds very complicated. Also another possibility is that you could confront your dad and stop him from doing anything further, or find out if he has already done something; you could still stop him from going further but ultimately it's up to him if he decides it's worth ruining his marriage

@mruggiero95 went through something similar. i remember going online and asking people the same thing anonymously. I received the advise of not confronting my father. At that point I detested it as I didn't take a stabd for my mom who did SO much for my father in return for his lies. But I'm glad i stayed quiet. Now that i am myself married, im sure my mum knew. She remained to stay quiet for her own sanity as confronting him, with nowhere else to go, would have brought her shame and embarrassment. Im glad i didnt share with my brother too. I guess he knew too but we all pretended it didn't happen. Fast forward 10 years, my dad left that habit in few years time. But if it were to ever come a time when the elephant is addressed in teh room, i will blame my father. Not question my mom. But question my father for his doings as he has a married daughter now and how hurt would he be to see something of that happen to his daughter God forbid.

Your day will come. Ignore that scumbag. Make your mother happy.

I understand that this upsets you. However, it is not your business, it is between your dad and your mom. Stay out, leave it with them.

@mruggiero95

Hey I am going through the exact same thing and I completely understand how you feel. We are three sisters and my elder sibling is a working women. And we have lost all respect for my father. I feel disgust when I look at him. Whenever he does something a father would we all hide our feelings of hurt from him. I just cannot look him in the eye ever since. He had subjected my mother to domestic violence when we were very young and it eventually stopped. We forgave him for that ! We taught it was right as he did love us or rather seem to love us and provided us everything we could ever imagine to have. All sorts of toys good education everything. But what he did has caused my mom PTSD, anxiety and depression. So we chose to be silent fearing that she'll not be able to deal with it and Because he provides for us. Although my sister works she cannot afford our education. We haven't told my mother either. She would only freak out. We think she has doubted it but my dad gaslighted her to thinking he did not. He does that everyday to every single one of us. It's never his fault. But once we all are earning.. and when the time comes we'll confront him. It seems like you are almost alone in this situation unlike me. But you'll have to stay quite till the time you can go about alone with your daughter. I know it's very hard, but you might want to consider working in the future ? I am pretty sure you'll be able to reach a place where you don't need him anymore and he'll have to admit what he has been doing. I know it's supposed to between our parents.. but it feels like he is cheating on the family. It's hard to stay silent. But you'll get through it i am sure. The same way that we'll get through it someday. We are in the same problem and I hope we get through it. I hope this helps. Hope is very strong. Never give up on hope !

My cousin went through this as his mother was dying of cancer. He went and told her and refused to have anything to do with his father, I don't know if that helps but that is my experience with this type of situation. NightWitch

I am writing this as the mother being cheated by the father. My husband has been cheating on me for years. Initially I got to find out when I checked his HP. I confronted him once. He denies. Thereafter I confirmed it when I install tracker in his car. I didn’t confront him anymore. I kept quiet for my children‘s sake. I hope I can hold out till my kids become adult. But at least I know what he’s doing behind my back. And I can protect myself from any disease.

I am sharing this so that maybe you can decide what’s best for your mum. Hugs 🤗