Inadequate response?
Icw depression I was wondering if it is 'normal' for a parent to respond to their (adult) children's distress in depressive episode with sending a list of all their own problems.... As if to belittle my own
in my opinion yes. This has been happening to me a lot lately. It makes you feel like you’re not really being heard or your emotions are being diminished.
I've had similar happen before, it's rough. :(
It's certainly common. It's very sad to me how few people are taught to handle feelings. How can a parent teach their child about feelings when they don't even know themselves? Sometimes I think people who do this are just trying to express solidarity. But, yes, it completely comes across as dismissive and unhelpful. I hope you find the support you are looking for.
As a mom of a depressed child and known to have depression myself :
Apparently it's common for people to dismiss what they don't understand.
But it is not okay.
No matter how bad our relationship got, I would never think of adding my problems to my child's. Because that is just not okay. Your feelings matter, your problems are important, no matter what hardships others face
