Boundaries in the Breakdown
Friends and family — they’re our safe place, right? The ones we lean on. The ones who love us without conditions, want the best for us, and aren’t afraid to call us out when we need it. If you’re lucky, they’re the people who let you unravel in front of them without flinching — and even help you pick up the pieces.
But here’s the complicated truth about anxiety: it’s messy, layered, and wears different faces. So when you let someone in — when you open the door and show them what’s going on inside your head — you’re not just sharing, you’re also absorbing. Their thoughts, their reactions, their energy. Their “personalities” start taking up space in your mind too.
And yes, talking helps. But the million-dollar question is:
Where do you draw the line between healing through connection… and losing yourself in it?
@StillnessInTheStorm
In such situations I believe in power of common sense and simple solution:
If you are a glass of honey and someone is a teaspoon of venom - don't open up. That's why we do our best to avoid toxic people.
If you are a vapour afraid of vanishing when your doors are opened up - try to become something solid state. This is what personal growth is for.
If you are sponge and someone is water - it's your decision how much of it you take. This is what boundaries are for.
If you are a well-done biscuit and somebody is a sweet cream - you can make a great piece of cake together 😁
@jacek73 you put those ideas in such pretty words. Im going to save this one 🙂
@StillnessInTheStorm it can be complicated but it's about balance for me. The true beauty of love, be it from a parent, a sibling, a spouse, friend, romantic partner is loving all of us and yes that can be messy and mayhem but it's also fun, and freeing and honest 💜🥰
@StillnessInTheStorm
That is a great question. I suppose you have to trust your intuition. If it's not feeling productive and causing negative feelings, it's time to do something else.