Confused??
How does making friends work? How do you make one? Does it come with a kit? Does it have instructions? Do I build one?
My brain isn't quite working right now. 😂
(This is my way of venting that I don't have many friends currently, if not at least one or two, and that I'm dealing with false rumors and some people ACTUALLY attempting to take me down lately, all because of someone who assumed I did something when... I was sick that day.)
(P.s: How does one continue a friendship? I get too shy as well.)
@lovingCat6978
Right???? Good, I'm not the only one who's felt like this lol
Can I be your friend? <3
@jesusredeemedme2425 Of course!! I certainly don't mind being your friend! 😊 (As long as you don't mind me as a person of course!)
Why wouldn’t I mind you as a person??? <3
@jesusredeemedme2425 Trust issues due to my past I'm guessing that's why I said that? 😅 I'm glad to say I wouldn't mind you as a person either!
Dude, if you think you have issues, I have the whole SUBSCRIPTION hehe
You’re fine, and I love you <3
I recommend you to join being a listener. You'll get training for months to understand your question. It's really helpful to be honest.
@lovingCat6978 I ask myself the same question, it feels as if when I make attempts those people don't try to be friends back so it almost seems pointless after awhile to keep trying
@lovingCat6978
Some people are familiar with what I'm going to suggest but many people are not familiar. The best way for finding friends in this day and age is "Meetups". Hold on . . . Meetups are nothing like hookups! Meetups are happening all over the world. They are groups of people who get together for a specific reason. It could be about hiking or comedy shows or Golden Retrievers or anything at all. All you need to do is Google, "Meetups near me". You will see some of the groups that meet in your area. Next, you find one or more that you might want to join. There is no charge for joining. Then you will receive emails letting you know when the group will meet and you can RSVP or not. The only cost will be whatever it might cost to attend such as, food, tickets, or whatever. Meetups are easy to attend even for the socially anxious because there is an activity to focus on. Also, you can message the group leader and let her/him know you are a bit nervous about going. She/He will look out for you. I have made some of my best friends by going to Meetups. Enjoy!! Whimsy
@WhimsicalWhimsy
This is great advice, but for some people (like myself) very hard to even find the time.
With an adult dependent child who needs 24/7 care it's very difficult to even get time together with my wife let alone strangers!
I've gone through life with very few friends and can honestly say I have but 2 of them and hope they are still there after retirement.
I feel like the ones who attract people are the ones with good character and humble towards other.I guess spending time on building character would help
@lovingCat6978
I don't actually make friends. I collect people who need a nonjudgemental space. Then they drop me as things get better for them or they find others to fill that roll. Even when I was really little I just hung around my brother rather than making my own friends. It's just not a skill I've ever had.
@Lythande I had a LOT of issues like this back then, too! Although not in the same vain, most people I tried being friends with drop me eventually if I helped them long enough. I think I did eventually grow out of the people-pleasing mindset (not saying this was your case, rather mine ^^;) and that did stop, but it can happen for a variety of other reasons that it does sadly grow on you.
@lovingCat6978
I've actually never really been a people pleaser. It's more I give off a bartender vibe so people feel safe around me and confide everything. On the flip side, I don't feel comfortable around anyone lol
@Lythande Oh I see! I had a slight (but not so sure) feeling it wasn't related to people-pleasing, but it CAN happen with that sort of vibe, too.
I can imagine it almost feels dehumanizing (if that's a word) when people only see you as someone they can easily drop information to, and then they forget about you/can't be trusted with the same in return. Regardless, it's an awful feeling.
It seems hard to make friends that fit me right. Or they live far away. My last friend group that was strong over 10 years ended from drugs and alcohol abuse. Sexual issues. Lies. Two faces etc. My daughter was still a toddler and I left the life style once I realized what was going on. I had no real understanding of how those things effect adult circles. I didn't even know they did drugs really or what it meant. (I do not mean marijuana or a bit of wine) I'm too sensitive for the games humans seem to like to play. No thanks. Isolation seems better. But I'd love for the Lord to guide me to my real tribe ! Somewhere people want to heal self and others and where my child and family are safe too. No icky spirits please. Loyalty only welcome !
Hoping you find yours too. I've b en here very shortly but have discovered there is no off app contact. So I came here hoping to make real contacts but can't here also lol
You started the hard part by asking. Now just start chatting with people :)
I'll happily be ur friend
@lovingCat6978
Just randomly going and popping in with a Hello, Hey, Hii, I saw you were doing something that excited me. I feel many of us feel shy to reach out because we are more focused on how we look and how we say rather than what the other person says and shows. When you become interested you become interesting.
There's a book by Dale Carnegie, "How to win friends and influence people" I would recommend you to read that💖
Well, I would love to be your friend just as you are all of whole as you are💞
@resilience2025 Hey, Hi, Hellooo! I've actually seen that book before, but I haven't started reading it yet, thank you for reminding me! I'd love to be your friend too. 😄
@lovingCat6978
Yayyyyy, letssss goooooo! 👀