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Control and let go

User Profile: SmileyRainbow
SmileyRainbow July 20th, 2025


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I think if we'd work on what we can control life might be easier.... It reminds me of the serenity prayer in a way. If I learned how to control my responses to situations life would be better. Still learning how to let go of the things I can't control 😅

What does the image remind you of?

What could you work on today that is in your control circle?

How would you let go of things you can't control?

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User Profile: SmileyRainbow
SmileyRainbow OP July 20th, 2025

Tagging people who can tag others ☺️☺️

@Asilentobserver @annasilverberg @jenna @Heather225

User Profile: fossilfellow
fossilfellow July 20th, 2025

@SmileyRainbow Thank you for sharing this 🤍

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User Profile: nuvembrilhante
nuvembrilhante July 20th, 2025

The fact that i can't control how people feel it's important to remember. Thank you 🤍🫡

User Profile: JaniceWang
JaniceWang July 20th, 2025

@SmileyRainbow

Thanks for sharing !😽

User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 July 20th, 2025

@SmileyRainbow

Thank you 💜💕

We waste too much time controlling what others think of us, but in the end, their opinions don't matter 💜

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User Profile: SmileyRainbow
SmileyRainbow OP July 22nd, 2025

@Amanda84

Yesss 

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User Profile: Lovingswan22
Lovingswan22 July 22nd, 2025

@SmileyRainbow

The Circle of Control reminds me of all the things I often worry about—and how many of them are actually beyond my control. I’ve spent a lot of time and energy thinking about what other people say and do, the mistakes I made in the past with my addiction, and everything going on in the world. As much as I want to fix all of these problems, I’ve come to realize that it’s simply not possible. There’s only so much I can truly influence.
What I do have control over are the choices I make, my attitude, and my willingness to ask for help. These are powerful tools that I can use every day to support my recovery and personal growth.
One thing I can work on today is choosing to focus my energy on the things within my control. By doing this, I create space for healing. I don’t have to micromanage every situation or chase down every worry that enters my mind. When I catch myself thinking outside of my control circle, I can gently redirect my thoughts back to what I can influence.
To help let go of what I can’t control, I’ve decided to write those thoughts down as they arise. I’ll leave them on paper and revisit them only if necessary. This practice gives me a way to release what I’m holding onto mentally and emotionally and hopefully change the way I see the world and my place in it. It’s also a step toward acceptance—toward taking things one day at a time and giving myself permission to let go.

User Profile: GoldenRuleJG
GoldenRuleJG July 22nd, 2025

@SmileyRainbow very good post that is simple to understand for all - thank you for this Smiley. 

From my own experience I thought if I acted the exact way others wanted me to be they would still judge anyway but as soon as i said allowed "they are entitled to think whatever they want" I was met with hostility and wasnt surprised

User Profile: GoldenRuleJG
GoldenRuleJG July 22nd, 2025

@SmileyRainbow

What does the image remind you of? a drawing that doesnt care of judgement 

What could you work on today that is in your control circle? sleep, tech time

How would you let go of things you can't control? peoples shock when i set a boundary

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