My seclusion 🍂
Hiya Sweetie's 💕
How r y'all doing today? how u have been today ? hope the best for y'all. ❤️✨
Lately, I’ve been noticing something abt myself that I didn’t plan, didn’t decide, and didn’t even realize while it was happening.
I slowly… quietly… stepped away.
I still talk. I still reply. I still share sometimes.
But I no longer attach.
Ppl come. Ppl go.
n Instead of feeling hurt by it like before, I now feel a strange kind of comfort in the distance.
It’s not hatred.
It’s not anger.
It’s not sadness either.
It’s more like… a deep, growing seclusion - that my aching soul needs n it seeking n craving.
The kind shown in this pic — sitting in silence, looking outside, knowing u have words inside u… but also knowing that saying them won’t change anything. So you keep them to urself.
I’ve started feeling that human presence exhausts me more than it comforts me. ( no offense )
n Solitude feels safer than connection.
Maybe silence isn’t always because we have nothing to say.
Maybe it’s because we’ve said enough in life… and learned that not everything needs to be heard anymore.
So I sit with my thoughts. n strangely, I feel at peace there.
Have you ever felt yourself slowly choosing distance without even realizing it?
And did it feel lonely… or did it feel like relief?
Have a peaceful day / night ahead. ❤️
Hug you'll closer to my heart 🤗💕
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
I get what you mean.
When we suffer and struggle in life, more than people could ever possibly understand.
We get used to depending solely on ourselves
Our reality is insults.
Abuse.
Hardship.
We are used to people distancing themselves because they think it's too much to deal with.
We don't want to bring someone into the drama.
Or continue explaining ourselves.
So loneliness becomes easier, not better, but something we understand and find a strange solitude in.
But ultimately the hardest thing is always fighting to have connection, to have peace, to be happy, not lose ourselves behind a long list of problems but let the light shine through , no matter how small 💚
@Amanda84
Wow, you just conveyed it in the best way possible 😭. Thank youu <3 , my heart alway's goes for u 💞.
Hug u closer to my heart, love youu 💗✨
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 (sadly relates) I was emotionally detached for years but started to work through things. I allowed attachments. Then a few things happened back to back. And everything shut down. As you said, people come and go. They leave on their own, they pass away. One moment they're here and the next they're gone (poof)
@mytwistedsoul
Hey love 😊
I'm just want to say this: idk why, but I'm so happy to read ur replies for me. it always brought some warm smile to my heart n soul i felt, tysm for ur support 😊 My gratefulness for ya <3
I'm so sry to hear that we walking the similar path, ik the weight we carry each day. i wish u the goodness every single day ahead.
I completely agree with all u said, n yeah.. obviously I'm in safe hands rn lol. I'm also working on it. after so many years n still living into such environment doesn't helping me to move ahead further. For some reason I can't change my circumstance rn. But, also... being here slowly eating my inner-self up away.
The most painful part is, I'm afraid - as i used to cruelity, I'm afraid what if I'll be slowly become a heartless n cruel person?? i can't let go this feeling 💔.
I'll take ur words with me 💗, n I write journal but skip day between. but yeah, i do... it help me understand myself n i got the great vision of my inner self 💓 ✨ I'm still growing.. tho 💕
Thank you for your supportive word's 😊. hope the best for you 🤞.
Hug u closer to my heart ❤️.
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 Thank you for saying that! 😊
Heyyy again 💖
I’m doing… I don’t know, honestly. Definitely not at my best, but could be worse 😞🫠
I can relate in some ways. The feeling that sharing won’t help, won’t change anything. That silence feels more comforting than talking. The thought “the things I have to say don’t even matter for the person I’m talking to”, so in irl conversations I tend to just listen and keep myself from talking too much.
I get the feeling of wanting distance, though I think in my case it’s a little different than in yours, I rush into friendships just to want distance like a year or so later 😅
And please, even if you feel detached, don’t let all people around you fade away, keep contact. Make sure you won’t be alone when you’re ready for attachment again. 🫶🌼
take care, hugs! 🤗💗
@Butterfly723389
Hey hi loviee ❤️
I'm so sry to hear that:( But yeah... me neither, not really so good TBH 😕
I hear you... ik the weight of heaviness, it slowly tightens out heart.
n yeah, i completely agree with you... we're in same show but different path, it's out environment speaking from us that who we are now.
Yeah, sweetie..!! tysm for those words, i really needed to hear that today. I'm slowly letting Ppl's in... but I'm tremendously afraid abt it ngl. 7 cups playing a huge part of life rn. n every single ppl's in here helping me without even realising they lighting up someone one's heart with their warmth 😊✨
Thank you for sharing this with me, sweetie!! it mean's a lot for me <3
Hug u closer to my heart, love youuu 🤗
Heyyy 💖
I hope you get better soon 😓💞
You really understand me, the weight is so heavy rn… I’m glad I found 7Cups, it’s really the only place where I can feel like myself and don’t have to lie about how I feel. And thank you for making this place so much more welcoming! Your posts keep the community going and make me smile so often 🫶🤗
And it’s ok to be afraid. That’s completely understandable. But you still improve, making these small steps, letting people in and I know that’s hard. You are brave ✨
Tight hugssss 🤗🤗🤗
There is solace in loneliness but not for long..
It's in the art of giving that we receive , Nevertheless You aren't alone remember that!
@OrganicHope1067
Aww <3, i completely go agree with ya. n tysm for ur support. it mean's way lot for me, truly 😊❤️
Hugs 🤗
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
HI dearest🥰
قال عمر بن الخطاب رضي الله عنه: “خذوا بحظكم من العزلة
As hazrat Umar ibn al‑Khattāb (رضي الله عنه) says: “Take your share of seclusion.”
In other words, ʿUmar ibn al‑Khattāb (رضي الله عنه) is advising that everyone should spend some time alone for reflection, worship, and self-purification🙃, each according to their own ability or circumstances🥰.
So yeah, you are right when you say you sometimes want to be alone with your own thoughts.😁
well when you asked do we do it?,yes i do it often. I am a very extroverted person, but sometimes we do need some introvertedness(not sure it's an actual word😅).
You mentioned that some things are best kept inside, and I think you’re right. Self-reflection and solitude have helped me a lot, especially when I need guidance or want to reflect on my day before sleeping. (Though sometimes, it’s just imagining castles on the ceiling 😭😂😭🤧)
These are the few things I think I know about it.
A very tight hug to the most precious girl (independent woman👻)
@curiousbookishness
Hey hey… lil boy 😅
H r ú doing lately??? Hope u steady n smiling too.
Jazakallahu khair for reminding me of that narrating of Umar ibn al-Khattab رضي الله عنه. ( i love khattab رضي الله عنه 💕) It hits different every time when Convos rooted in Hadith n Qur’an. it always calm my chest… it’s like the noise of the world just lowers its volume for a while. I’m genuinely grateful u brought that up 🤍
And That's so true, every word… seclusion teaches lessons no classroom or anything ever could. Silence can either break u or build u. When I was a kid, I used to resent it. I remember nights that felt too long, too quiet. Sitting there w tears n not understanding why I felt so alone, it's aching too much. But now looking back? That was construction season. That was where the foundation of my strongest inner self was quietly being laid.
Now, I see solitude way different than before. It’s not emptiness. It’s alignment. It gave me self-education, emotional discipline, n the ability to stand on my own feet. I don’t run to ppl for every small thing. I ask for help when it truly matters n that’s strength, not pride.
And u absolutely right..!! every soul needs that personal retreat. Extrovert, introvert… or whatever ❤️ “introvertedness” we decide to invent today 😆 Language bends for us, not the other way around. No grammar teachers in sight, ur safe. 😄😂
Also… building Castle on the ceiling? Oh, I'm ruling an entire kingdoms up there 🤣. Seems like our shared brain cell is working overtime again 😂
Your hug was received ( lil boy 😆 ), warm n steady. Ty for sharing your thoughts <3
Hugs back tight 💕
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
Alhamdulillah I’ve been as fine as a silk thread 🥰
And honestly… reading your message felt like someone poured warm water on my chest. The way you explained solitude?? 😭 “construction season”.You’re right… Silence can destroy a person, but it can also shape them into someone strong. And the fact that you grew into someone who knows how to stand on her own feet… that’s not just independence, that’s tawakkul mixed with strength.
“introvertedness” is officially a word now, approved by the council of lonely thinkers and ceiling-castle architects 😂😂😭🤧But listen… if you’re ruling kingdoms on your ceiling, then I’m definitely applying for a visa to that world 😭😂
Reading it all gave me a stupid wide grin all the while i was playing chess with my older cousin (a very serious 2hrs standered)😅
May Allah keep your heart calm, your mind clear, and your soul always close to Him 🤍
A very tight hug again🥰(might charge your birthday cake😑)
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
I feel you, I was reasonably content with casual acquaintances for a few years, it was partly self preservation but equally to protect others from my insecurities.
I'm struggling more at the moment mainly when I'm not at work and alone for extended periods, it;s not just the communication its's the presence of others that I'm missing, someone to walk with, clean the dishes with and just care for. Be a little careful about withdrawing too far.
@RunningMachine
Hi running…
First of all, I’m giving u a nickname 😭 I honestly can’t keep calling u “running” or “machine” like some robot in a lab. Do u have one u’d prefer? Or should I create one that actually fits u? 😌
I feel every word u said. N it’s real. After searching for love or support for so long, we either drown ourselves in distractions… or we just shrink back. We convince ourselves we’re “fine” w casual connections. Sometimes it’s self-protection. Sometimes it’s protecting others from parts of us we think are too heavy.
But the thing u described? i felt that depth of my heart. that’s not just communication. That’s presence. Someone to exist beside. To walk w. To wash dishes w. To care for w/o it being dramatic or complicated. That quiet companionship hits deep. ik the suffering, i see u 😞
N yeah… I’ve suffered too. I completely see u 😔 That kind of absence can cripple the heart slowly. It’s not loud. It’s not dramatic tho. It’s just this steady ache when the room is too quiet for too long.
We’re not weak for missing presence. We’re human. N that longing? It means our heart is still alive, still capable of caring i feel 😕
Hey, n I'm just playing around when i talk abt ur name ( pls NVM me 🤧 ) hope i don't but suggestt me 😭
N forget the hugs...!!!
Warm Hugs ur way 🤗
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
All those characters each time I respond on my phone !!! I'm barely awake and you want to rename me, NVM ?
It's made me smile and I appreciate your humour. Reading through sone of the response is awesome to see how much people care and value you, I hope you can see that ❤️❤️
@RunningMachine
Yeah..!! same here, it's like almost everyone is inside my phone xD. how funny it sounds 🙃.
Yeah, i going to pick a name for ya 😁 or would u have any name to suggest? that fits u?? 😄
NVM > Never mind ( sry 😅 )
Thank you so much, that ur happy to read all those. even me sitting here n wonder..!! it feel's beyond the level TBH 😊.
Hugs ur way 🤗
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
@RunningMachine
yes , sometimes self preservation is a part of it
You're not alone. I'm struggling here as well i guess we are in the same boat. It's so unbearable.
You're so damm right on this. People have so much self assumption & false analysis when it comes to seclusion. We are humans. We live and prefer in other's presence . That's how it has been , and it will be till the end of the time.
Seclusion should be like that holiday break from work that we take after a good long gap, to refill ourselves with some life. And seclusion also works on a similar way as a self reflection of thoughts or such.
But self restraining one self, distancing people, it feels like solace at first, but will intoxicate the person from inside, so much, that the quietness and peace that once was the lemonade , now becomes the cancer.
Seclusion & solitude are something that should be considered & chosen with very careful thinking.
Especially these times where we are stuck inside offices, behind displays or desks , still feeling alone in a herd of humans
#hile the old days used to be so much opposite of this
@magicalTouch154
It's a lesson I've learnt the hard away, protecting myself and others by isolation, reached out to Cups as the loneliness was crushing and accepted I have to face the root cause behind it, my fear of getting old !!!
I used to feel how you do so I think I get it. There is a lot of peace to it, yet tbh it’s also a form of running away. Nowadays however that peaceful seclusion has turned into unbearable crippling loneliness.
@skob11
I feel you, it's not easy trying to open back up either...
@skob11
Hi Skob ❤️
Yeah, it's true TBH... at the very first when i do feel this way, i used detachment as a safe zone, hiding like run away as u mentioned but now the way i see seclusion different from what I used to...
It brings peace, calmness to my heart... yeah, sometime's it's heavy to endure ngl but verily the solace remains 💗
Tysm for sharing, sending you lots of love and happiness ur way ❤️
Hugs 🤗
Hi Ailura,
At some point you will need to come out of your solitude..
Isolation may be comforting but it isn't healthy.
@OrganicHope1067
Hi hope, how have u been?? i missed u, i still can't access our chat 😞
Yeah, ur right ngl, but u know me r8?? do u think human presence can help in ways? 😔
I'm certain that it can destroy my mental peace remains:(
But I'll take ur words with me!! Tysm... for ur concern towards me <3 ❤️
Hugs 🤗
Hey Ailura,
I'm fine, hope your well too..
I'm not saying lower your guard completely but the Almighty and Mother nature have provided you with an instinct. Sharpen that discernment, In the long run a good soul will come, have faith!
Stay strong and brave. Once again wouldlike to reiterate your not alone!
@OrganicHope1067
Heii 😊.
I'm so glad to hear that ur doing good:) I'm recently going through a hard phase... hope things will soon ease up 🍀
Oh, i see that what u mean...❤️ I'll make sure take it to even better place. I'm still processing stuffs tho.
N also, I'm not detaching or isolating oneself.. but finding solace in seclusion, peace in solitude.
As I'm living in an harsh environment... isn't it better to navigate this path?? 🤔 I'm stammering, will soon rewire my thoughts i guess 😕
Aww <3 that's genuinely feel's nice to hear u r here for me n I'm so grateful..!! that ur being supportive to me, it truly mean's a lot 😊 Tysm!!
Hugs 🤗
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 nice word to say
@organticUnicorn9398
Hiya Buddy!! thank you, thank u 😊!!
Hugs 💕
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 your welcome, hug back. hahahahahahaha
So aggresive ah...
hahahahahahaha, just kidding,
just trying to be kind.
@organticUnicorn9398 🤗
Dudeee...!! I'm a tender girl to be honest 😣..... I'm way kinder than you..!! 🤣
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 hahahahahahaahaha,
tender girl? really? I feel like you were a bit tough to handle but well,
it is within my expectation and ability to handle. LOL
Just kidding. hahahahhahahahahahaha
We can just laugh on these amuzing words.
well ofc, if you find it funny.
@organticUnicorn9398
Alright, alright..!! I'm kinda stubborn girl too ngl 🤣!! uhm.. maybe I'm tough. i suggest you to call me Demon Lord 😂. i would love that 😂😣 Ghahaha !!
Hey, do i sound humour, u made me feel like one 😆??
Hugs 💕
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
well, isn't better to laugh and smile in life,
to be able to expereince the goodness in life the focus on the negativity and being depress?
Alright, Demon Lord.
What is your wish?
hahahhahahahahahahahahaha
Just kidding.
Anyway, do you have any spesific topic to talk about?
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 
@tearstruck
Heiii ❤️
Aww <3 thank you so much 😊!! Seems like u've changed ur pfp 😍...! hru doing? 😊
Hugs back 💝
@Ailuraphilelove8tear9
Hiii 💕 yess I changed it today haha to something sparkly :)
I'm ok, trying to rest enough and trial medications and stuff (I'm bedbound with health issues) and recently I was playing an online game a bit because ✨️social interaction✨️ which was fun :) also been listening to some audiobooks lately! Oh and I joined the Allentine/valentines event thing this morning!
How are youu? Have you been doing any more riddles??XD Hugss and happy valentine's day for today or tomorrow! 💖
