Weekly Prompt #29: What is something you can let go of today?
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This week's prompt- What is something you can let go of today?
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@crimsonMaple811 I am doing okay, maple. how are you doing?
I'd like to let go of the importance I place on not upsetting or bothering someone I live with who has shown very little consideration for my feelings and has actively one out of her way to hurt, belittle, manipulate, and control me. I don't feel I ought to live life walking on eggshells, afraid of what she'll do next.
@Zeraphim It sounds like living in that environment has been very difficult and taken a toll on your well-being. You deserve to feel safe and respected. How have you been coping with this situation?
I've been playing music through my earbuds to try to drown out the nasty things she says while I'm downstairs, but I still have no solution for the controlling behaviour, like how I can't be in the kitchen when she is and have to wait because otherwise she'll raise her voice at me, or she'll leave controlling notes around the house she expects I should follow. Or her listening on me when I'm going to the bathroom to tell me what things about my diet I need to change. Haven't figured out solutions to those things yet.
What can I let go of today? 01/19/2024
I've let go of a lot of items this month. I really appreciate having a less cluttered space. It's given me new appreciation for the things I have and use regularly. Mentally, though, I want to and *can* let go of the belief I need others to "get" me. Some people refuse to understand me. Some people just made the choice to never have empathy or sympathy or even try for me, and that doesn't reflect negatively on myself. I don't have to make myself smaller for everyone to accept who I am.
@JarofSeeds627 Thank you for sharing your reflections. It sounds like you've gained a helpful perspective in letting go of possessions you no longer need while making room for what truly matters to you. Continuing to learn and grow in a way that feels right for you is admirable. You value looking inward at what brings you peace. what inspires your willingness to release beliefs that no longer serve you well?
I can let go of worrying about what others think about me.
@azureAcres1605 That's a insightful thought about letting go of worrying about what others think. You've recognized an empowering step towards freeing yourself from unnecessary burden. How does focusing less on others' opinions and more on living according to your own values make you feel?
@ASilentObserver letting go of mean comments my husband is saying. I know the truth of who I'm.
@Hopefaith2011 It sounds like you are experiencing difficult feelings due to the mean comments from your husband. It takes courage to confront these challenging situations. Please know your worth is not defined by others' words. You are stronger than you might think.
@Hopefaith2011 thats the same with my dad. he says shat that he shouldnt say to his daughter, and my mom has it even worse.
@ASilentObserver im not sure if ill ever be able to let go of my daddy issues, stuff like that hangs around. but ive been trying to get to a place where it no longer causes me to feel so angry inside.
this week imma try to let go of the fact my step dad who raised me has been ignoring me for a month. hes caused a lot of negative emotions in my life and is the main cause of my stress and anxiety. im going to try to overcome that
@EmmyMarie06 I am sorry to hear about your stepdad ignoring you. That must be really difficult to deal with. How are you feeling about trying to let go of the negative emotions surrounding him?
@ASilentObserver its rough. i care too much about what he has to say to the point where his negative words keep me from doing what i want to do. its hard to let go of him ignoring me...but i can do this.
@EmmyMarie06 I am glad you feel determined to move forward.
@ASilentObserver hope you're having a great weekend
@StompingOnCP Thank you CP. How are you doing?
@ASilentObserver I love this I would think my favorite thing looking back at is my childhood
@StompingOnCP I am glad you like that question! It is always good to look back on fond memories. Is there anything about your childhood that you miss?
I I wanna try and let go of My past and the pain that it may have called after all it made me stronger and I forgive everyone
@Countrygirl095 It sounds like you are ready to move forward and find closure. Forgiveness is a process, and it's okay if it takes time. Please know, you grew because of your experiences, and that strength is within you.
How do you "let go" of things that have already become a part of you? With the things you would tell me to let go of...you might as well tell me to let go of my right arm.
(This is true literally as well as figuratively...it has been a b***h lately with pain in my elbow, sometimes the wrist or shoulder. The only way to let go would be to amputate it)
@slowdecline48 I understand how certain things can feel like such a big part of us that letting them go feels impossible. It's almost like trying to cut off a limb. But sometimes, we need to find ways to release ourselves from these things so that we can move forward. What would happen if you were to lose the use of your arm?
🤦🏼♂️ Moses on a pogo stick...this is another one of those really obvious questions that is meant to be therapeutic but just comes off sounding stupid. Sorry to say it but, really, it's the truth.
I would have to do everything with my other arm; what do you think would happen?! I'd have a harder time scratching one cheek than the other.* My body would probably become more unbalanced than it is. Carrying groceries would be a pain in the a** & most likely I would need help. Some people would probably call me "One-Arm Bandit" for the rest of my life, but I would use that as an indicator to not take such a person seriously as a human being.
*Yes, those cheeks.
@slowdecline48 It sounds like you're experiencing frustration with this line of questioning. I appreciate your honesty in sharing how it feels. Please know we are all here with you to support you slow. thank you for your thoughts and being with us here.
Thank you, & it's sweet of you to say so. I should tell you for the sake of honesty, that is one of my drawbacks: I lack patience. Always have. My father was the same way when he was alive (he was brilliant, but sometimes he was an a**hole). Whenever someone asks a question that is so obvious it doesn't need to be answered, my patience tank reaches "Empty" & I immediately turn into a flaming d***, regardless of the intention behind the question.
Yes, I know I shouldn't act like that. But I've never been able to develop much patience for humans.
The only real exception is a woman I dated in college for a while...I was tremendously patient with her, more than once. But that was a long time ago.
@slowdecline48 I can relate and get your struggle with feeling patient with people, especially when they ask questions that seem obvious. it feels difficult.