Milestones or Steps Completed! Share and Celebrate Here :)
Congratulations! You made it to the next level on your growth path. Share with us the #1 thing you learned on this leg of your journey!
FH:4
I am still trying to learn not to obsess with any one individual, esp if he could not care about me.
Greetings everyone!
This marks my 1,700th step on my Growth Path and today is my day 18 of the Daily Streak. One thing I am learning again (it is not a fun lesson) is that I do not like change! To the extent that I might rather have something mediocre yet remain the same, rather than risk even a medium-level change. Perhaps I should change my Word of the Year to homeostasis ! Better though, I think for me, is to talk about the change and prepare for it (UNLIKE Nov 6 2019 @GlenM) and then see which things I like or agree with .... and which parts I do not. Then I would want to take those things into account when deciding what my action will be.
Oh, and also sometimes just writing/typing out these sorts of things - even if the change will happen whether I like it or not - sometimes the act of writing is helpful by itself. It can help me to get my thoughts and feelings on the page and sort out events - especially when I need to get the sequence of events straightened in my head. ~ Platy
P.S. @Kate - Miss you lots! @Laura miss you too! Will you please give Coco a big hug for me? @Heather225 (Platy waves at Tuna) I feel sad b/c I address a lot of this sort of message to Glen - which is often because I do not know who is on the admin team, so who else I can address. I think there is a list of yous somewhere, but I really don't know where. Help please? oh, and maybe I just should use @7cupscommunity or does that even work any longer?
@cyanPlatypus6370
Tuna says hello and he understands how hard change is. he doesn't like change, either. but he really appreciates you writing it all out and venting! getting your thoughts out can sometimes clear the air.
the new admin are...
me! I handle safety and community concerns
@ASilentObserver - Group Support, Community Moderation Program, Verified Listener & various quality programs
@Hope - Internship Program, Teens, Subcommunities
if you ever need anything, feel free to drop us a PM, or you can email community@7cups.com!
@Heather225 - Thank you! Hi Tuna! My very own picture of the most beloved 'parakeet?' of all 7cups! Wow, I feel a bit specialer now. haha. I wish Coco was closer; I'm really needing some puppy love, snuggles, kisses, and hugs. In general some canine time! I'm a bit surprised that my doctor has not yet given me a Rx for get yourself some puppy loves, Platy! When I last met with her, she was surprised that I did not own a dog of my own yet. ~ Platy
@Laura @Kate
@cyanPlatypus6370 Hey Platy, congratulations on completing 1700 Steps. Great accomplishment.
I hear you and we get it - change isn't comfortable one but changes are inevitable as well. Sending hugs to you!
The current Community Management Team includes Heather225, Hope and ASilentObserver.
Step 120. These steps are still too close together. I finally have access to group chats, and I am finding that checking in with those is a nice way to feel connected at the start of what is for me (as someone who works from home) a solitary working day.
@ikomiko
It's always nice to feel part of a community. 😊
I've learnt not to expect perfection over the past few days.
People who care about me are happy with who I am, not who I push myself too hard to be.
Hello!
I just made it to step 50! I've learned how to be more compassionate with myself so far.
@Domae
That's amazing and so important! Great job!
I learned that it's okay to not be the best. It's okay to fall short of your goals sometimes. It's okay if you have down days.
I just need to accept that there are times when I stumble, but that doesn't make me any less of a person.
@ElisaBee
Very much so. Well done for getting back up.
Nobody can save me.
@GlenM
to love myself and not be overly critical. treating myself with kindness matters.
Today my therapist and I decided that I've grown enough that we no longer need to work together. She worked with me over the past year as I grieved over a hard breakup from a toxic relationship. We worked on personal boundary tools that help me understand what I need, effectively express those needs, and be okay with being assertive about those needs. We worked on my grieving over the relationship - the guilt I felt about being in the relationship and leaving it. Many times things were not comfortable during therapy. I had to do some hard self-reflection; I had to work on tools that pushed my comfort levels. But, I tried to keep in mind, and my therapist constantly reminded me that uncomfortableness comes with growth.
It took over a year of hard, self reflective work. But today I feel so much better than I have in such a long, long time :). I am so grateful for where I am at.
@pioneeringApricot824
That's amazing. I hope you are so proud of yourself for all the hard work you have put in 
@decisiveDrum5084
I've just reached step 100 on my growth path and am feeling in a much better place for it.
I've got a stronger sense of self, I know I am capable and most of all I am more able to share how I feel with family.
I don't remember what I learned. It's all a little repetitive now. Maybe it was something about not overdoing it or stressing myself out for no reason.
This week, I managed to work up the courage to see the school counsellor, because I didn't feel comfortable enough talking to my parents. It was really hard but I'm glad I did it, because they are now referring me to an external counsellor. They called my mum about it (with permission from me) and I'm so thankful that she said "I'm glad you talked to her about it". Little steps :)