On the bright side...
What has been a positive outcome from your healing journey?
For me, I used to get angry a lot and I have through my mental health struggle, learnt forgiveness.
I would be interested to know what lessons others have acquired through their respective problems.
@Creamyyy probably that I've been more empathetic to others :) even tho empathy has always been a natural trait for me and never hard to incorporate but I think now theres an increase in patience and understanding also specially with others
@optimisticempath empathy is such a valuable gift to impart. 👍🏻
@Creamyyy
I stopped isolating once I started to share on 7Cups.com and started to host the Sharing Circle
chat room !
@hounddog2021 that sounds like success.
@Creamyyy
There are so many things I've learned throughout the process of healing and introspection asfsdfaksjdh.
-All of us have what I like to call the 'parent wound', in some way or another our parents never validated us and we do things subconsciously to make them proud of you.
-The holes and emptiness left from not having a parents validation is a wound that stays with you forever.
-Our parents greatly effect how we see authority figures. For example if one parent was hypercritical and made you feel threatened we'll have the exact same 'trauma response' if you will, to all assumed authority figures who are hypercritical as we did to the parent. Conversely, if there was another parental figure who made you feel safe and valid, we'll gravitate towards authority figures or people who do the same.
-If you pull back the layers far enough, most everything we do has its roots in a fear of being hurt, and responses to being hurt. In our deepest most primal level we are still young children frightened of being invalidated by our parents.
-Alot of the friends we choose usually have traits that remind us of a family member, rather its a parent, a brother, a sister, or yourself. That's one of the things you can do to avoid toxic friendships-ask yourself 'does this friend remind me of a family member and if so which one?' and if the family member they remind you of was toxic, chances are your friend probably will turn out to be as well
-Vulnerability can set you free, help you to see things about yourself your trying to avoid and help you learn how to better control them
-Immaturity has its roots in self-denial + emotional dysregulation and poor responses we learned from childhood
-Worth doesn't come from other peoples skewed perceptions of you, worth is a power that comes from within.
@Calytrix6 Really liked your insight about the parent wound and authority figures.
@Creamyyy
I appreciate you saying that :D <3
@Calytrix6 do you think the hurt from not being validated by parents stays forever? Once you become self aware isn't it possible to rewire your thoughts and get past the hurt... Just thinking. For me, I used to be a parent pleaser, but I've gradually aligned myself to my own expectations.
@Creamyyy
That's a good point I've never quite thought about it like that I guess, because I myself am still working past the hurt and getting rid of those parent pleasing habits
@Creamyyy
I learned how to ride the emotional waves and learned so many people in the world goes through so much. Got some insights about afterlife too, and I can understand my favourite books a little bit more now.
