The Freedom of Forgiveness Thread

@Fristo

There is a long long long list of people who have committed offenses upon me without cause.

My life has been a hard one. For my own sake, this is written to ALL THE THIEVES:

I forgive you, not for your sake but for mine.

The things of mine you thieved, in your possession they are causing you harm and bringing about justice.

You have by doing this eaten poison which is its own justice.

My Master is a loving God He is all powerful; He keeps me going and my conscience clear. My bread is meager but I eat it in peace.

I forgive you all.

they do not deserve or want my forgiveness.

1- I forgive you for everything, I know we weren’t mature but I really hope you are ok and wish you the best life. You deserve good but please work on yourself too

2- I know you have you’re ways and I can’t change you but I wish you could love me like you love them, I always wanted to be more close to you even if it wasn’t vital but you are important and I forgive you thanks for everything

3- I know you didn’t want me and I didn’t have the option to decide to be in your life or not but I forgive everything even if still hurts

@Fristo I um I don't think I can forgive my owners. But I'm working on forgiving myself. I realise I wasn't in control, so probably shouldn't blame myself for letting these bad things happen to me. But it's hard not to blame myself for some things

@Fristo

Wow shades of AA.

Steps

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

I forgive my dad.

I don't really think he knows the damage he has done in our relationship and that it wasn't my fault for leaving the family. I really think because of his mental health issues he is clueless.

I hope he realizes someday how much I love him and want him to be well.

I forgive you, person I thought was my friend. I also forgive myself for being so affected by everything you do, even if it doesn't involve me. It is time to let go.

@Fristo

Maybe it’s because I’ve read a lot more non-Christian writers lately, but I really have to disagree with the premises that: (1) forgiveness is a private act that is done solely for the benefit of the one forgiving, and (2) that anyone, ever, for any reason, HAS to forgive anyone else.

For me, forgiveness by its very nature is a ritual that has to involve the person being forgiven, at a bare minimum. If you “forgive” someone without even telling them, you haven’t forgiven them, you’ve just moved on and/or written them off (both of which can be very valid and are usually a good idea as well, they just aren’t “forgiveness”). To forgive someone, you have to: (1) tell them you’ve forgiven them, and (2) treat them as if everything is cool between you two now, because by forgiving them you’ve just said it is.

Meanwhile, not everyone deserves to be forgiven, and nobody should ever be made to feel that they “must” forgive anyone—not even “for your own good.” When someone hurts you and expresses no remorse and takes no action to right that wrong, that person does not deserve to have their slate wiped clean. That person does not get to then compel you to tell them it’s okay. That person does not get to make you “forgive” them secretly or in private either. Forgiving them would only give them a free pass to hurt you again, or to hurt someone else. Forgiving an unrepentant wrong-doer only normalizes their behavior.

@Fristo

I forgive the hospital for giving me wrong meds twice this week.

1. they didnt no what meds will help as biploar ,phycosis ,did and bpd are different for everyone

2. i also thank them for helping me ovecome difficult times throughout the ten years been in their care

@Fristo

This is a really powerful thread and I think we all relate to it in one way or another. As for me, I need to forgive myself for the mistakes I have made in the past. There is no going back now but there is always the opportunity to learn and grow from your mistakes which is what I am doing every day now.