No positivity
I listened to my morning affirmations today and they fell on dead ears.
Each statement was a lie.
I am not hopeful.
I am not overflowing with gratitude.
I am not living a life i love.
@Gettingbettertoday hi sweetie ❤ you changed your pfp it's cool. Did you draw that?? You may not be hopeful, you may not love life, you may not feel a lot of things. But you are here and that makes me happy. I wish I could make things better for you, but a virtual hug is the best I can do ❤ hugs you tightly ❤
@Tinywhisper11
The imagine is based on me from about 20 years ago. Its from a game i designed and they used me to represent one of the characters "Dr. Alias".
@Gettingbettertoday well it is a striking lookalike😂😂 ❤ just 20 years ago life was good for you 🙂 it's crazy how mental health and time can destroy us🙁 but I see you, and I hear you, and I definitely care about you ❤ I'm really glad we are friends hugs you tightly ❤ I wonder what I would look like it I were animated🤔🤔🤔probably like this...😂😂
It's not that the affirmation statements are a lie, it's because it is NEVER a good idea to do affirmations when you are already in a bad mood and having negative thoughts.
This is the time when you re-focus and divert your attention to pleasing thoughts and find some things in your life and be grateful for. This is the time when you look at what you already have and express gratitude for your blessings. This is the time to pivot from those thoughts and beliefs that don't serve you. To notice them, accept them and release them.
Always do affirmations when your energy is high and you are vibrating in a place of joy, contentment and satisfaction.
@Gettingbettertoday
Wow. I'm so impressed with you trying that thing of positive affirmations. I totally understand. I often find affirmations like this jarring. Things that only work when you are in the right mood can be so frustrating.
Can you find some that better suit you? Maybe "I am here". Or "today I will keep trying". Or "I have friends on 7 cups who care about me". Or whatever suits you.
I'm trying reading something thought provoking, like a philosophical short essay, each day, as a way to introduce something like meditation in my day.
@Clio9876 very wise suggestions about more realistic sounding affirmations💕💕 positivity doesn't have to be all things roses and sunshine... it can be acknowledging the clouds and still making space for the sun..💕💕
@Gettingbettertoday
I totally understand how you feel I hope you start to feel better soon.
@Gettingbettertoday I can completely relate to this. I think it's incredibly hard to have a positive, optimistic outlook when life seems grey, benal and joyless. When life seems like a series of obligations rather than a peaceful experience, it can get dark. But hang in there, man. Sending positivity.
First time here. I feel you.
There is nothing that we have not yet not survived somehow. I feel your pain. Just keep trying to make every day better than the one before. Somehow. Some way. Doesn't matter how small it is. Sometimes all we can do is stand up every day.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. It’s okay to feel disconnected from those affirmations. Let’s talk—I’m here.
@Gettingbettertoday
I see nothing with those affirmations. It makes you who you really are. Having passive negative thoughts can really distort how we see ourselves. We see and hear you man, hope all gets better soon 👍
@brightCake1421
*I see nothing wrong*
Proofreading isn't a strong suit of mine
Its the I AM Statements that work ....if your not feeling it add Yet to each statement. There is no finality to yet. Keep trying find one thing to be grateful for. I say thankyou for a simple meal or the sun peaked out on a rainy day.
@generousCherry344 practicing gratitude for even the smaller looking things is so so nice 💕💕 they aren't as small when we focus on them with a grateful mindset
@Gettingbettertoday
I can relate and understand completely. I'm sorry that you're also going through this. For me, I'm really living through the motions. No goals, no nothing. Just living, day to day. Feeling without purpose, no family of my own, feeling like a shell living a life that it doesn't enjoy and value as much as I should, or as much as others think I should.
It's not all positivity, rainbows and bliss. it's life. There'll always be days where you're downtrodden, tired and just not positive at all. Some days, you're just living. I don't think it's a cause for alarm. You're human, going through very human things. Don't feel any aversion to "I'm not okay! I have to do something!". It's okay to not be okay for a time. I allow myself the disservice of "I'm not okay, I'm not happy, I'm just going through motions." and I allow it to feel and happen in my mind and heart. Like all things, it requires energy. Let the bad things wear themselves out, you blow off steam, the negativity, or apathy, (yes, even apathy needs energy to operate as all emotional and mental aspects do) tires themselves out, now you have room for better things.
Not so savory thoughts and emotions creates what I think of as steam. Without letting out steam and depressurizing, eventually it has to come out and getting to that point is never good. I hope you have healthy ways to decompress and relax.
You may not feel okay right now, but that's at the moment. Just make it through the day to see another. The next always has the potential for improvement. It's something I tell myself often, "I'm not okay, I'm not happy, I'm depressed...it's...it's...right now. it's....for now. It won't be forever. And it's not who i am or want to be, it's for now. I'm human, I have my weaknesses and days where my best isn't good enough. It's not the end of the world. There are days where my best is more than enough just as there are days where it's not. No different than anyone else. It's...just right now and it's not who I am."
@CreativeAltruism
Thanks for this. I was going thru a "now". Thinking it was forever. Thinking I'd never get better.
I needed someone to understand.
@Clio9876
Great and I hope you understand that you're not alone in these emotions and situations. Sometimes, when someone else puts these things into words instead of you, it makes it easier to absorb, read, learn and grow from there. It's never easy, but the best things in life are the hardest things to achieve. That's what makes them the best things in life. If they were for everyone and so easily achieve, what problems would anyone have? The hardest steps to take are the ones towards something better. The easiest steps are towards things that leads you to roadblocks, ruts and instant gratification that ends sooner than you'd like and you're left seeking it again, only for it to elude you. The things in life, though you have to go through the longer, harder steps, they stick with you, they mold you, they improve you in ways NO amount of easy, instant gratification can achieve. Don't give up. You're not the only one who believes in you.