Self care
What are the things that you did today that you are proud of?
I'm just starting to get familiar to the concept of being proud of my achievements , i'm struggling with a bad self esteem and perfectionism😂, it still feels weird for me but i'm going to try and stay consistent with it🍀
@schrodingerscattt Self compassion (which is kind of a broader concept then building self esteem or not being a perfectionist) is one of those habits that is just about as self reinforcing as brushing one’s teeth. If I don’t brush my teeth regularly my mouth starts to taste like poo. When I start to feel low it reminds me that maybe it’s time to practice self compassion.
@FlatenedByLife
So true! I struggle with staying consistent, and i think i always did😂 but i wanna try my best to stay consistent with this.
@FlatenedByLife haha! It makes your mouth feel like poop😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm sorry I'm a grown up and do not find poop talk funny😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 good for you though self compassion is great ❤❤gives you a giant festive tiny hug ❤❤
tastes like poop 😂😂 haha!😂😂😂😂
i went to my second EMDR session and worked on forming my safe space to return back to during our future sessions. Feeling encouraged and anxious about how my journey will develop
@Anika3118 good luck ❤ hopes and prays it goes well for you ❤
@Anika3118
That's so cool! I heard so many things about EMDR therapy but feel hesitant to try. Good luck with it and i hope it will go well and it will help you to feel better! Sending lots of positivity!
@schrodingerscattt I woke up before my alarm. Well. My alarm is at 13:00 when I don't have morning or lunchtime shifts, but oh well. I'm a famous late bed goer and oversleeper, so any waking up before alarm is a reason to celebrate 🥳
@sadcat13🎉🎉🎉🎉 yaaaay! Well done for getting up early🎉🎉🎈 and I think you and me enjoy the same sports😁 extreme hibernation 😎
@Tinywhisper11 yessss. I believe we are both champions in it 🏆😁
@sadcat13
Great!
@schrodingerscattt I don't know about me, but I know 3 things you should be proud of today ❤
1. Reaching out for support
2. Being cute
3. Always showing your strength during difficult times for you ❤
@Tinywhisper11
Omg don't make me cry Lola😭 It really made my day💗I am immensely grateful for you💗 You're amazing! And you should be proud of being such a nice and sweet person always cheering everyone up💗
@schrodingerscattt awww your sweet ❤ I could just hug you all day ❤❤ how are you feeling today?
@Tinywhisper11
Very tired😂 I'm still having nightmares every night so i wake up exhausted. I also have a lot of work to do at uni and i am sooo behind in my studies rn. I'm struggling but i have to study because i have an exam soon😭 rn i'm at the library but i will make some time this evening for self care. And you how are you feeling?
@schrodingerscattt aww you know you have your whole life to study, health comes first always. Me it's just one bad thing after another. But I'm gonna meet positive keep going as long as I can. I'm still in the stage of ignoring my feelings rather than dealing with them, like you so bravely do ❤❤ your a real inspiration and I love you ❤❤ I'm gonna go to bed now it's like 3pm. But pain level s are high, so I'm calling it a day. Hugs you goodnight ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
I'm so sorry. I really hope it will get better for you! I am so honored that i am an inspiration!! Honestly facing your feelings is so hard and do this ONLY when you feel ready because it's sooo hard, it's frankly tiring. I'm so sorry for the pain. It must be so tough. I really,really wanna help but i don't really know what to say to make you feel better. I just wanna hug you sm irl because lately you have been the only person that can make me smile. You are fantastic!!! You are! You're so strong and kind and sweet. You deserve all the amazing things in this world girl!! If you ever wanna just vent please feel free to do so i will listen. As your bestie i wanna do everything i can to make you smile and feel better💗
Goodnight! Sending positive energy your wayyy💗
@schrodingerscattt thanks sweetie ❤ but I'll be ok ❤ I'm more concerned about how your doing right now. You need more hugs than me. Squeeezzzes you tightly ❤ I just woke up I'm in zombie mode. I better get some coffee quick. I love you ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
I love you too! I would love to chat with you more because i have so many things on my mind and i'm scared i might explode if i keep bottling it all up. I'm just so tired and exhausted and i want someone by my side but i have no one. I am surrounded by such toxic people that take away all my joy and make me feel even more hurt. I'm scared i won't make it. I just need a big big hug and watch some movies with someone😭 I feel like a zombie too to be honest, but i hate coffee so i keep feeling this way throughout the day. But i also heard that coffee worsen anxiety so i don't even wanna try. My health is already so messed up and literally every part of my body is hurting. And also traumatic flashbacks are no fun. So yeah i am dealing with a lot right now but it already feels better just talking about it. Thank you so much for being here. I love you!!
@schrodingersca
I understand, i have no self-esteem. For me an accomplishment is something that moves you ahead.
I have done nothing today that has moved me ahead.
@Gettingbettertoday hiii ❤ gives you a giant festive tiny hug ❤
@Gettingbettertoday
I'm sure you still did great things. Even if they are small they still matter! As long as you tried that's what matters.
- Listened to meditation in the morning
- Brushed teeth
- Flossed
- Tongue scraped
- Washed face
- Showered
- Moisturized
- Toned
- Face oil
- Hair treatment
- Dressed in clean clothes
- Did an Exploration Session
- Had breakfast
- Wrote
- Did Stress Management group
- Had a healthy snack
- Updated advent calendar journey
- Listened to music
- Charged headphones
- Took out earplugs when they hurt
- Meditated
- Connected with feelings
- Set a couple goal
- Focused on positive memories
- Drank water
- Reached out for help
- Took things off my to-do list
- Put dishes by the sink
- Filed my nails
- Etc..
@communicativePond1728
Wow! That's a lot! So proud of you!
@schrodingerscattt
It's not a lot. I'm just an INTJ and revvie cusper. Those personality and ego types bunches things together to looks like we're doing a lot when we're not.
Different personalities and egos will expend just as much if not more energy yet do much less.
It's also about priorities and the diversity within each aspect, depending on four different factors.
Furthermore if one is managing from a sense of trauma they'll be busy putting out fires and living from a sense of urgency rather than prevention and building...this also expends and expels energy differently.
But I think you were just being encouraging and supportive. And I appreciate that a lot.
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By less I obviously as you know mean "less". And please excuse the other grammatical and typing errors.
@schrodingerscattt
That's a great question.
What did I do today that I'm proud of?
I tried to be a good friend to a friend who needs some calm emotional support.
I finished a work project that I wanted to finish today :)
That's it, but that's enough!
It doesn't have to be a huge achievement to feel proud of something. We can be proud of the little things we do everyday.
@GoingInCircles365
Exactly! That's so cool that you tried to support your friend! That's definitely something to be proud of!
@schrodingerscattt you don't like coffee😮😮😮 my bestie doesn't like coffee 😮😮😂😂😂 I'm so sorry you have to go through all this crap. It's just not fair. It always seems like the best people suffer so much😥 you can be yourself here, if you need to vent and just get it all out then do it sweetie. I'll always be here to help if I can.❤ I wish I could take away your pain. And mayo he can fly, so I'm sending him over to cuddle you for a few days. Unicorn hugs are the softest🤗 mayo neighs is on his way😁 gives you a giant festive tiny hug ❤❤I love you
@Tinywhisper11
Yayy!! So glad to receive mayo hugggs!! Unicorns are really amazing, just like you💜but maybe you're a unicorn then🤔😁 hugggs you back💖💖💖
@schrodingerscattt 😂😂😂 I'm not a unicorn I dont eat hay and have horns🤔🤔🤔 oh actually 🤔🤔 maybe I am😈😂😂😂😂 merry Christmas sweetie ❤
@schrodingerscattt
I admire the positive attitude you're cultivating. i struggle with perfectionism too in some aspect of my life so i completely sympathize. you should be proud that you are realizing this and trying to change your outlook. i am cheering you on! every small step is closer to building your self-esteem.
@Heather225
Aww thank you so much!!! It means a lot! I think i got perfectionism as a result of trauma because i never received any positive feedback or praise from my dad, and that's how my perfectionism and wish to impress everyone to prove that i am good enough started, but now i am aware of it and knowing that i am not the problem is already a huge step. For the longest of time i thought that i was seriously not good enough and that if i would try harder i will finally receive the recognition from my dad that i used to crave. Now i'm just trying to navigate it all and starting with praising myself is a good idea.
Once again thank you sm it really means a lot💜
Sending positive vibes your wayyy!!
I'm proud of trying my best to help members when I chatted to them today.😀
@valkyriecain0507
Cool!!