this last time going talk on here because 7cups not help grief at all
this last time going talk on here to be honest 7 cup not helping like I said month ago seen my dad died need someone to talk to that being on here would help my pain and my heart ache but has not still feel same that did went my dad pass away still numb still cry all the time and that will never be better but I am worse than before I will not get over loss my dad and will not be write on here anymore about my grief and will not going to counselor because will not help either and my family not helping me either and have one in life that cares and need to these by myself for now on
@countrygirl9988 hi ❤ your not alone, we are here and we are listening, just we don't have all the answers sometime s. I know how much your hurting and struggling. I know how much your dad means to you. Have you tried talking to listeners here about all this???
hugs you tightly ❤
@Tinywhisper11 I have talk lister that did not help me at all still in pain has not gone away still miss my dad seen November 13, 2023, been four months seen died still not accept him gone still think still coming back and mind what let me know he gone being here has not help me at all and need do these own my own for while
@countrygirl9988 I know it hurts😞 hugs you tightly ❤
@Tinywhisper11 thanks a lot for that nice message been hard few months of my life seen my dad pass away he be in my heart 4ever
@countrygirl9988
Grief is different for everyone and i have seen some of your posts but was unsure how to respond as your grief seems all consuming.... Anything people say while trying to help ....cannot stop those feelings.
It is a major adjustment to lose a parent ....we all think of things in our lives we wish they could see or talk to them about. i have watched a sibling make bad choices and have issues and blame it on grief and that life would be perfect if only dad was alive ........ i could not help them through it because they were not ready now it has been decades ....
Time does help.... talking about it can help..... but others are often shy to talk because they do not want to offend you .....as many may slowly let go of the pain you have talked about still holding on to.
@toughTiger6481 I understand what said but been 4 month same as was day he died my pain has not went way I miss my dad and i love dad so much and I don't how live going on without dad and cry everyday think about my dad all the time and my heart breaking for my dad and way he died makes me sad know never being part of life anymore and go to grave every Sunday think about why had died to soon and he miss out a lot thing in my family life's
@countrygirl9988
I do understand my dad was died in a horrific accident in front of me at a young age ....
it is devastating and we can question why and miss them so much but we are not living but shutting ourselves down and most parents would not like us to stop living.... we can make them a part and share with many the person he was but shutting down will not fix this.
@toughTiger6481 I know just grieving so much and cry every day for my dad and think about all the memories at with my dad and he going miss all important things in my family life the hardest event in my life are my 41 birthday in June and father day his birthday hard Christmas and thanksgiving really hard he miss my nephew 6th birthday in January and he going miss my niece 3th birthday in July and my brother birthday in April and my man birthday in April mother day and my mother's birthday as well he even miss his wedding anniversary in December will been there 44th years together and I don't know why dad take from us and the pain never going away
@countrygirl9988 It will take you time. Your dad was a big part of your life. And you loved him very much. Your family was probably really close and every day there is something that will remind you of his not being there. I'm afraid it's going to hurt for a while. Even then there will be moments that losing him will hit hard. Father's day and holiday's. Birthdays. And other special occasions. There's no time line for grief and it doesn't go it any set direction. The pain might never fully go away. There will always be that ache of missing him. His passing was so sudden and you never had the chance to say goodbye to him and tell him all the things you may have wanted to. To tell him you loved him. I'm sorry you're still hurting so. To me it makes sense because it really hasn't been all that long that he's passed and everyone grieves differently. I am sorry that your family isn't much help but I hope that they're at least understanding of what you're feeling
@mytwistedsoul thanks still hard to think about dad the legacy and memory he had for his small family it's me my mom my brother and nieces and nephews my sister in law and my man my nieces are 16 and 2 nephew 6 the little kids so hurt by lose their grandpa and me and brother talk seen we buy his stone month ago me I am a lot pain and my heart is breaking for my dad and he did live that long only 63 years on earth my dad never got own dad's death that was 1986 he still pain about own dad I know never get over these tragic event in my life like see my dad death on stretch and hear cpr machine that tell us he gone and going to hospital see my dad dead he so white like ghost and vein pop on face and then seen him in the casket with favorite clothes on and then see them low his casket to ground see that in my mind forever and lose a parent thing ever had going through in my life
@countrygirl9988 I was with my father too when he died. They're images I can't seem to get out of my head now. Everytime I close my eyes I see how he looked that last time. So I definitely understand what you mean
@countrygirl9988
i really hope that you keep talking about it. Losing a parent is a significant loss and unfortunately nothing anyone says is going to make your grief go away. It took me 10 years to not be consumed with the grief over losing my daughter. It has only been a few months and it sounds like you are expecting a lot of yourself to just “get over it.” Grief doesn’t work that way. It’s not a linear journey. There are going to be ups and downs and twists and turns. And all of that is part of the healing process and is ok. For me, on the better days, I enjoy the reprieve from my sadness, and on the bad days, I have to have compassion for myself.
You are welcome to reach out to me anytime. I don’t have all the answers and I can’t make your pain go away, but I can be there with an understanding and empathetic ear. Unless someone has experienced such a significant loss, they can’t possibly understand. I hate that I understand grief more than I would like to.
@Kristynsmama that just wish heal my heart cry every day for my dad I wish he could back to me and my family I need my dad more than ever before I am illness that my dad had I have diabetes I wish he was there give me advice about that and I get through these illness and my dad help me with everything in my 40 years of my life and miss out a lot thing in are life's last 4 month never though my dad would die these soon and don't know deal with grief and don't how feel about lose my dad these soon in my life
I’m so sorry to hear your loss of your father. I know it can’t be easy for anyone experiencing a loss of someone so dear to your heart. I just recently experienced the loss of my mother yesterday and last year my brother died. My mother’s birthday will be tomorrow. I am so sad as she is such a god fearing woman and I felt that she died too soon. I still don’t believe she is gone. My grandson is taking it very hard and trying to understand why she was gone so soon. He still calls her phone to listen to her voice on the answering machine. I have my moments of remembering her kindness and gentleness and the time we spent together. I have to be strong so that I can support my grandson and my daughter through this difficult time. The pain will get better as your heart will heal. Also I am new on this platform and I find it very helpful as there are many areas that you can navigate in seeking support on this site. I am still exploring this site and learning my way around. As a newbie this site is user friendly with lots of compassionate folks. It takes time to get over a love one who means so much to you. I know that it will take sometime for me with my mothers death and my brothers death. I know they both will always be in my heart. Just like your dad he will always be with you in your heart.
@courageousLemon182 sorry for your loss and miss my dad and I love my dad feel so sorry for niece and nephew never have their grandpa in their life's and I know how I feel like both my grandpa went 3 years old hard thing for child to deal with and loss my dad at 40 years old made realize that life is precious and enjoy day of my life and my memories live on through me rest of my life and my dad only 63 went died he had so much life to live with his family
Thank you for your kind words and support.
@courageousLemon182 thank you as well
