Challenging Thoughts Activity!
Let's challenge our critical thoughts to give them a positive direction! Here is the activity:
Say a statement and reply to it too!
The statement could be any criticism of anything about your life or about 7cups and should be such that you could also offer a counter-argument to it.
Let me show you how to do it!!
Statement: I faltered again. I am a failure.
Reply: I did falter again, but I had made progress too! If I keep trying, I will falter less and less.
Simple?
Here is a 7cups-related example:
Statement: Listening does not solve any problem, so there is no use of connecting with a listener at 7cups.
Reply: True that we aren't allowed to give advice as listeners but just being there for a member is very powerful in itself! It helps to feel heard by someone in a compassionate and empathetic way.
Got it?
Now you do it! Make a critical statement and reply to it too!
Make sure to keep the inner monologue healthy and constructive!
@Fristo
Statement: Oftentimes I feel like no one wants me around.
Reply: I may have a down day, but I can always practice self-care to lift my spirit.
Statement: I'm alone feel lonely all the time, there's no one for me
Reply: You have yourself, you don't need the world, enjoy ur own company, laugh with your own self
Statement: I don't feel like I've accomplished anything in life and I've just been taking up space by existing.
Reply: Just surviving the abuse and its aftermath had been an accomplishment, and I'm still alive, so I may yet go on to do something I feel is worthwhile and will justify my existence.
@Fristo
Statement : Ugh! It's too much, I hate this ocd, I want this intrusive thoughts gone, just have peace, but how? I can't get help and no one listens to me or understands. Nothing works really..
Reply : I know it's too much and there is said that old does have a cure but can be helped by therapy. I could try to be calm and use coping strategies, though they don't help. I don't know what to do but I can hope to get better and try to tell my problems. Just keep hopes, to get better.
@calmmoon2104 *ocd doesn't have a cure
Statement: I'm unhappy and feel increasingly like life is pointless and lonely.
Counter Statement: You're being too hard on yourself. You're doing your best and life is challenging for everyone.
@oliveThinker8423. I love your counter statement. Such a powerful reminder. Great reframe.
Ok I can try atleast.
Statement
What is the purpose of joining 7 cups if it is only a temporary cause, I will be stressing out again..
Reply
Yes it's for temporary but there is someone who listens to you with no judgement at all. Atleast there is someone who listens to you continuously..
@Username283
I think you came up with a great one!
At some point I also thought, why bother coming here if it's just temporary.
But I realized that whenever I needed it, this was the place where I could always find someone to listen whenever I felt like there was a knot in my throat because I felt I was about to yell as hard as I could.
7 cups helped me, not only by being listened. But by being around others who I can listen to.
This then made me realize, it's not temporary. 7 cups is now continuously in my life in small doses at a time as I need it.
Take care 💛
I am so happy for you, you found this and able to cope with it. And yeah same thing. You spoke my heart. I also thought the same that 7 cups is now my part of life. Which keeps supporting you like a family. Best wishes to you🌸💕. I pray that you always find the right path and the happiness you are finding🌸. Take care
@Username283
Wish you the best, as well!!
🌷
Statement: I was authentic to a friend and now have been ghosted. The real me is too much for people.
Reframe: you deserve to be you. I believe there are people in this world that will love me for me.
@Fristo
Neg: I choose the path of giving up. I don't have it in me to start again and again. like it is a norm.
Pos: Accept and embrace the path of giving up. Because it is to be honest the most joyful thing I've tasted.
Neg: 7cups Path exercises I really don't know where the answers go. but there are comments. so, they go somewhere.
Pos: I like them because, I understand even better some. Or at least I can get things in focus more.
@Fristo
Statement: I am not able to stay by myself wihout thinking in a negative way. I must be busy.
I am able to stay by myself and think about good things about me and my life. I will be ok alone.😊
