Emotional rebirth, the art of stepping out of the abyss.

Emotional rebirth is a process that takes place in various circumstances, but especially when we fall into a negative emotional state and need to rebuild this universe in which we are stuck.

There are times when we fall into a deep abyss. We come to this dead end and wonder what to do. Although at that moment we think that all is lost, deep down we have the opportunity to accept our pain and begin an emotional rebirth.

It's not a simple process, and it's not fast either. In fact, we're going to need to exercise our faith a little, just as we believe in signs when we're driving on the road. The results will come after we make decisions and start working. In this article, I'll talk about that.

"How would you be able to be reborn without first being reduced to ashes?"
-Friedrich Nietzsche-

What is emotional rebirth?

To understand emotional rebirth, it is very practical to draw an analogy with the phoenix, which was reborn from the ashes. It is a strong change on the emotional plane, in which a person regenerates his emotional space after something compromises him. So, it's like giving rise to a new relationship with your affective field.

Like the phoenix, a person takes flight after an event that could cause him great pain and suffering. So, see your anguish in another way and, with courage, find other directions. It consists of getting out of states that cause a lot of suffering, finding oneself again, managing emotions, thoughts and behaviors in a different way, germinating, having different motives, reaching goals, seeing things differently and finding the overcoming.

How to be reborn emotionally?

There are different ways, all smart, to deal with suffering. It's not about erasing everything and starting over, it's more about overcoming adversity using the resources we have. Sometimes it's not so easy to know what they are, so one of the first steps will be to identify them.

Go as deep as possible.

It consists of making use of self-knowledge. This involves being considerate, patient and affectionate with yourself. Step by step we can find out what is happening to us. Knowing this will make everything easier to manage.

Also, to get to know ourselves, we can explore what we want to be, who we are right now, how far we want to go, how we want to do it. Knowing this information will help us get a feel for ourselves and follow what we really want.

We can profit by recognizing our strengths and our greatest weaknesses. Thus, we can use this information to face difficult times and be emotionally reborn. On the one hand, knowing what we've failed at helps us anticipate repetition, and on the other hand, knowing about our resources will help us keep in mind the skills to use when problems arise.

Learning in emotional rebirth.

After the storm comes calm, the saying goes. While it's not something that happens by magic, it can. It consists of the tranquility that can arise after facing a painful situation. To do this, one of the most useful tools is learning. Let's see why:

Makes it easy to know what not to do next time.
Favors healing.
Learning from what we haven't done prepares us to know our limits.
To ask for help.
Get out of our comfort zone.
See different perspectives.
Greater awareness.

Learning to fall and get up will help us to get out of situations of great anguish. Each time we do this, we will be able to acquire more knowledge to face future situations; after all, in life difficulties will always arise.

Knowing how to say "goodbye", a key to emotional rebirth.

This means not rooting ourselves in what has already happened or what we could have done. To do this, you need to enjoy the present moment. It consists in valuing the “here and now”. Being stuck in the past makes us continue to suffer.

Therefore, we must learn to say 'goodbye'. It is also important not to rush into the future as this can cause us anxiety. It will be difficult for us at times, but if we anticipate the facts, we will not achieve an emotional rebirth.

Knowing how to say goodbye does not mean forgetting what caused us so much suffering. It means accepting our anxieties, learning from them and doing our best to face what is to come. It's important to do this because if we add more and more burdens on our shoulders, we'll be exhausted. Abandoning the pain does not mean that it was not important, but it allows us to make our lives healthier, taking the opportunity to learn and to be able to flourish.

Resilience to face suffering.

Resilience is a skill that many possess and others can learn to develop. It involves positive adaptation to adverse situations. How to do this?

Being optimistic.
Learning from the situation.
Focusing on our motivations.
Finding a purpose.
Trusting our strengths and abilities.
Accepting, because it is necessary to move forward.

It's a way for adversity to make us stronger. That way, we'll turn the pain into something that's pleasant. There are different ways, such as through physical exercise, art, company, etc.

Resilience is so important that it has been studied by several authors. Uriarte Arciniega, from the University of the Basque Country, wrote an article in which he shows resilience as a window for optimism and the ability to adapt and constantly improve the human being.

Find a guide.

While we can count on many resources that can help us through difficult times, there are times when we need someone. It is better not to close ourselves off, either because we are ashamed to ask for help or because we want to face problems alone.

Asking for help isn't bad, that's why we have different people. We could go to the closest and most understanding people to tell them what distresses us so much and find a guide, or simply because it can help us unburden ourselves. We may even go to a professional because he will give us more confidence, because we want to be in the hands of an expert, or because we don't know where to turn.

This is yet another way to be emotionally reborn, guiding us into the light thanks to the wonderful guidance we trust. We need to have the courage to show what we have inside, but it's worth knowing that we have someone who will help us get out of the bad times.

Benefits of Emotional Rebirth.

Emotional rebirth implies having given a meaning to suffering, so that its story is part of our history without causing more suffering. Let's see what the benefits of this rebirth are:

Greater understanding.
Better emotional management.
Greater resilience.
Ease of seeing the world from another perspective.
Acceptance.
Greater self-esteem.
Don't get stagnant.
Live in the present moment.
Greater awareness.
Greater self-knowledge.

Despite the above, it is worth saying that this does not mean that we will always turn suffering into joy. Other emotions may arise, which we will gradually identify. Every emotion is important and provides us with learning. So, it's like a metamorphosis: we transform suffering into a different emotional state that serves as a starting point.