Communication skills

Hello everyone,

I think the biggest reason we misunderstand each other is because most of the time we assume the other person knows what we are thinking. Especially when we are emotional, we expect someone to know that we are upset, stressed, or disappointed without actually telling them. And when they don't understand, we get frustrated even though we never explained how we felt.

I also think many arguments happen because people sometimes listen to respond instead of understand. To put simply, we are already thinking about what we want to say next before even considering the other person's point. I know so many times I argued with someone, and instead of trying to understand what they were saying, I was already thinking of counterarguments to say. When we become so focused on proving our point we consequently stop trying to understand theirs.

Something I noticed is that good communication is not about saying the perfect thing, instead its about being honest, listening carefully, and making sure the other person feels heard. Kind of like 7cups. 

I think communication is one of the most important skills because our relationships depends on it. The way we communicate with each other can bring people closer together or push them apart.

Have you ever had a misunderstanding with someone that could have been avoided if both of you had communicated better?