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Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want

User Profile: FrenchToast
FrenchToast December 5th, 2022

Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!

Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.

Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:

- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!

- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!

- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings

- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!

- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!

- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!

- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!

*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*

✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

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User Profile: Dash0
Dash0 February 14th, 2025

Hello!

Thank you for considering me for the current role. Could you provide some feedback on what skills or areas I need to improve for the role I was considering? Your insights would be valuable for my self-improvement. Thanks again for this opportunity!

Best,
Dash

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User Profile: wonderfulBlueberry7326
wonderfulBlueberry7326 June 2nd, 2025

It's great how you're taking the information and automatically showing that you are willing to grow and improve on top of asking for feedback.

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User Profile: HarveyOfficially
HarveyOfficially February 17th, 2025

Good morning/Evening [Listeners name],

I want to express my gratitude for the opportunity to apply for the position. I was disappointed that I did not make the shortlist this time. To enhance my prospects for future applications, I would greatly appreciate any feedback you could provide regarding areas for improvement. Thank you for your consideration.


Best wishes, 

OfficiallyHarvey

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User Profile: globalWillow3000
globalWillow3000 February 26th, 2025

@HarveyOfficially

Great answer!!

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User Profile: globalWillow3000
globalWillow3000 February 26th, 2025

@FrenchToast

✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Hi, "username" 

Thankyou so much for getting back to me with this news. I am a little dissapointed that I did not get the exact position I wanted but I am assured in the fact that you have taken the time and consideration needed to determine what position I should take. I would love some feedback on how I can improve in the future in the hopes that one day I might be able to reapply.

User Profile: Phoenixthepoised
Phoenixthepoised March 4th, 2025

@FrenchToast

Hi, 

Thank you for taking the time to consider me for the role. I’m a little disappointed but I completely understand. If you have any feedback or areas I can work on, I’d love to hear it.

I’m committed to improving and hope to have the chance to apply again in the future.

Thank you.

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User Profile: beeyoolee0001
beeyoolee0001 March 4th, 2025

@Phoenixthepoised

Feedback! I love that part. It's always important because that'll help you know what to do better next time and help one grow 

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User Profile: Phoenixthepoised
Phoenixthepoised March 5th, 2025

@beeyoolee0001 Absolutely!

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User Profile: beeyoolee0001
beeyoolee0001 March 4th, 2025

@FrenchToast

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

😊 first, I would drop a smile emoji and thank them for reaching out. Then I'd ask them for help and more feedback on how to get or be better and how to help in the way I can at the moment. Coming from where I am right now, I strongly believe rejections are not the end, and sometimes we really need them to grow and see our weaknesses.

User Profile: lovelyBlossom5344
lovelyBlossom5344 March 6th, 2025

@FrenchToast

✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Hi there 'Leader's Username',

Thank you for taking the time to let me know. I am a little disappointed of course however I am greatful for the consideration of my application and happy to know that the best candidates have been chosen to provide strong leaders in this course :) If you have a minute I would love to hear some feedback to work on for future applications. 


Thank you for your time,

Lovely 

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User Profile: jaboo
jaboo March 8th, 2025

@lovelyBlossom5344 I love how formal this is! 😊

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User Profile: jaboo
jaboo March 8th, 2025

@FrenchToast ✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Hi, I hope you are having a great day! Thank you so much for the opportunity in the first place, I'm really grateful for your time and for giving me an update and response 💗 I would love to know what feedback you would give me and why I didn't got the role, so I can grow and understand what can I improve! 😊

User Profile: BPDBadee
BPDBadee March 12th, 2025

Finding out you weren't selected for a role can be disappointing, but it's crucial to respond professionally and graciously. I would begin by thanking the leader for considering me and for their time during the selection process. I would express genuine interest in understanding the decision, asking for specific feedback on areas where i could improve. I would frame questions positively, focusing on growth and development rather than dwelling on the perceived loss. Emphasize my continued enthusiasm for the team or organization and inquire about potential future opportunities. Maintain a respectful and positive tone throughout the conversation, demonstrating my resilience and inner compass commitment to professional growth, even in the face of setbacks.@FrenchToast

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User Profile: Bismil66
Bismil66 March 27th, 2025

@BPDBadee

That's a great way to handle this situation. I really like it. 😊🌸

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User Profile: Bismil66
Bismil66 March 27th, 2025

@FrenchToast

✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Thank you for informing me. Of course, I feel a little sad, but I really want to understand why I didn’t get the role so I can improve myself. I would love any constructive feedback on where I can do better. I see this as an opportunity to learn and grow, and hopefully, I’ll be more prepared next time.





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User Profile: SparklesFly
SparklesFly April 8th, 2025

@Bismil66

You've got this,  doing so well.

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User Profile: HereToHelp135
HereToHelp135 April 2nd, 2025

@FrenchToast

I would react politely and professionally, expressing thanks for the chance and respecting the decision. In order to become better for next chances and to reaffirm my dedication to helping the squad, I would also welcome constructive criticism.

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User Profile: decisiveLemon8530
decisiveLemon8530 April 23rd, 2025

@HereToHelp135

Like it 

User Profile: RyanListen
RyanListen November 6th, 2025

@HereToHelp135

Looks like the perfect way to do it!

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