Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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Hi, thank you for letting me know. It is good that I took part in the application process. At least I tried. Maybe another role would be a good fit for me. Do you have any feedback on what role best suits me? I am open to hearing from you. Thank you.
@Admirablerainbow2825
Great response! Not only showing willingness to grow, but also seeing if another position would be a better fit.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello, thank you for informing me! While it is dishonest to say that I am not in the slightest bit disappointed about the results, I completely understand and I appreciate you for letting me know. If you have the time, I would appreciate if you could offer me some pointers or advice so that my next application process can turn out more smoothly. Thank you for your time.
@greka7
Tthat's definitely the right way to go about things if your get a rejection for a role! As it means you can learn and then re-apply using the knowledge you have gained :)
Hello Leader ! Hope you are doing well.
I just want your help about the leader role that I applied to before. Thank you
@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
As this has happened to me before, I reached back out to the leader to see where I needed to improve and what areas I needed to look at, I then worked on these areas and re-applied for the role. I always think that we should take anything like this as a learning opportunity to improve on our skills as leaders!
@Always25
Awesome! Well structured response in which you've expressed your concern as well.
@Always25
Definitely! I agree with what you say! Growth oriented mindset makes things easy!
@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hey there, I'm a bit confused to what made me get this role. I would like your feedback, it would benefit me a lot. Thanks in advance for taking the time to do so. I'm sure I'll be able to use it in the future for other applications.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I am so impressed by that line; everyone has their own pace of getting the roles that they desire. If I found out that I were not given the role I desired, I will take that as an opportunity to brush up more on the skillset needed to get the role after giving myself the time to stabilize emotionally. I will have a growth-oriented mindset.
However, I will definitely ask the leader who has informed me about what areas are there to improve upon to be stated precisely and will patiently wait for the answer. Meanwhile, I will look up to my self-reflection.
@resilience2025
That's professional and accepting!
@FrenchToast
Thank you for letting me know. While I’m naturally slightly disappointed, I respect the decision and appreciate the opportunity to be considered. If possible, I’d love to receive any feedback you can share on how I can grow or improve for future opportunities. I’m still committed to supporting the team however I can.
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Ans: Thank you for letting me know about the decision. I’d appreciate any feedback on how I can improve or what skills I should develop to be considered for similar roles in the future. I’m keen to continue contributing positively to the team and looking forward to other opportunities.
@Zaxoosh
A lovely message that asks for feedback and also shows your enthusiasm to keep supporting the community in whatever way you can :)
@FrenchToast
Dear @Sompo2402,
I really like your answer considering self care at first, and how important self care, making us stronger and better.
@Yourstranger1
Thank you and yes I agree too!💟
@Sompo2402 Great response!
