Course 3: PL 102 - One Key Metric (Discussion 5)

@GlenM

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

This exercise impacted me in a sad manner to be honest, it was very sad to see the people around me being at my funeral. Good things to say of course, but a sad exercise. My compass is God.

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

Balance. It helps to train one's focus on something, and not scatter our efforts too much into different fields to the point where it becomes too slow to show results.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

As someone who likes to imagine things for no reason, I'm no stranger to being at my own funeral. Personally I've settled for having no funeral. I don't like eulogies, I don't like speeches and performative mourning. The people who want to mourn me shall mourn in private. I like leaving things where they are. I'd also like to be cremated and hopefully scattered into the ocean. For environmental and personal reasons. I think it's down to my taking life as it comes and not thinking too much about how others perceive me or how I want to be perceived by others. I will do as I do, according to my principles, which are very simple: don't hurt myself, don't hurt others, don't do illegal stuff (and get caught).

@GlenM

The eulogy from my family and friends was quite predictable. While I was writing I really imagined them speaking about some familiar topics. The co-worker came up with some interesting topics. I really thought of myself as someone who values helping people as I believe it to be a worthy skill and much better than just working really hard to make big international companies make money. It is a great exercise that really made me think.

@GlenM

Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

My single metric is Improve the quality of my responses to the members.

Not every interaction with members is perfect but I believe that I can always make improvements with my experience and also my research through reading 7 cups manuals and conducting my own research online into ways that I can help members.

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

1. Supported members by listening to their issues and making them feel better.

2. Got involved in leadership roles and guided listeners to improve their listening skills as a mentor.

3. Currently involved in LDP Program to gain leadership skills and insights - to contribute it to the community


The goal of choosing a single metric is important to help me stay focused and have an aim to achieve something. Professionally it keeps me productive and motivated and personally it shapes me into a discipline individual by leading a healthy life and prevents me losing track through distractions.


2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

This exercise made me realize that my behaviour towards loved one's would greatly impact on how they would perceive and value me at the end of my life. My wish is for them to view me as someone who deeply loved and genuinely cared for them, and left a positive impact on their lives that they would cherish forever.

@GlenM

Question 1a:
Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward.

Answer 1a:
"I want to support the Rainbow-Community as best as I can. I would like to do that by

1) Hosting supportive sessions and open-chats in the LGBTQIA+ and MOGII Support Rooms

2) Being active in the LGBTQIA+ and MOGII Sub Community forum and welcoming new Cupsers there

Question 1b:
Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

Answer 1b:
By setting a goal for myself, I can see the path in front of me much clearer. I can see in what ways I am able to support people, which is the reason I am here in the first place. Setting too many goals can lead to frustration, as we might not be able to reach them all. But by thinking of only one thing I can do to help the Cupsland improve, I can support the whole community in the best way possible.

Question 2.
(TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

Answer 2:
I don't feel comfortable in sharing the words I imagined. But I will try to summarize it. I have a very vivid imagination, so the first people to speak were my friends. All of them were only sharing nice things, words I don't even associate myself with, and still can't say it is wrong.

For the other friend group, one of them couldn't talk, they, in my imagination, felt just as uncomfortable as I did in the exercise, but with grief. So someone else spoke, and again, I can't say it was not true, but I never think about myself like that. I don't see myself as a supportive person, until someone literally says it in my face.

And lastly my little sister spoke up. I won't share what she said, and it was not about her not liking me or anything, it was just something that made me feel guilty. Something I would love to change, but at this time it is simply impossible. I am sorry.

Thank you for this exercise, Glen, I really do appreciate it. And thank you, awesome hooooman, for reading this! You are so much more worthy than you can even imagine ❤️

@GlenM

Self-love is a key metric I am hoping to help move

Because Self comes first . We can't do anything properly in our lives maintaining a proper mental and physical well being if we aren't aware about ourselves. Low self esteem , self confidence , insecurity and loneliness will hinder happiness in our daily lives if the root of happiness that is self love isn't strong enough.

The thing is . no matter what people will always find something to say . If a couple for example goes out on a bitch and the man rides on the back of the camel alone , people will say " Look how selfish he is , making his wife walk ". If the man lets the wife ride on the camel , people will say " What a fool he is letting his wife ride while he is taking the trouble of walking" , If both rides on the back of the camel people will say " Poor camel ! How they are tourturing the animals with both of their weights on its back" and finally if none of them rides the camel people will say " Stupid couple , the camel is standing right beside and they are using it for nothing but walking alone". So thats the thing , no matter hwat , critisism always follows . All of us are villains in someones story and one can never be perfect for this reason . So its never possible to impress everyone and inturn we will end up alone . So tI believe the ones in whose life we have our values , the ones who truly love us and understand us we'll eventually stay till te end with all the good and bad memeories and at the end of the day , we will be missed by those who deserved us when we were there. So really its no point caring what others think . We all have both good and bad inside of us , what matters is the part we choose to act on , thats who we are . We must try to keep on doing what is right . And the rest will follow. I always feel that all the love we give eventually find its way back to ourselves one way or the other.

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Â

My single metric would be to expand the kindness, growth and support to other listeners.

I'll do this by becoming a Listener Chatroom mentor, taking part in LSC and LDT and spreading kindness in all the rooms!

As someone who is very enthusiastic and gets distracted easily having a single metric or goal to focus on helps enormously. It's hard for me to do but it prevents me from comitting to too much and reminds me of where I was orgionally headed!

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â

This exercise impacted me deeply. It highlighted areas where I feel like I'm not feeling fulfilled right now and the ares in which I would like to focus on. It also helped me see that in some ares of my life I am living to my values in the fullest way which was wonderful.

@GlenM

The key metric I want to move is: opening myself up to feeling a wider spectrum of emotions during a 1-on-1 conversation. I am not utilizing empathy to the degree I want to. This helps me professionally as I co-own a private therapy practice. It also helps me personally in relationships and friendships when I want to support people special to me.

Choosing a single metric is important because tackling many goals at the same time can leave you feeling burnt out or demotivated (nothing is ever completed), it can get chaotic and overwhelming (losing track of where you are, how you’re progressing, or what task comes next for instance.

My family members get up and tell me I was a strong son, someone who endured in the face of every possible obstacle, and who would have continued to do that.

My partner tells me I was passionate about human beings, I wanted to see the good in people even if I was painfully aware of the bad and had experienced so much of it. My partner would tell me that it was this desire to see good in others that drove me to accomplish what I did, and to be the supportive person I was. The shoulder that she could always lean on.

My long-term friend tells me I was inspiring, a melting-pot of ideas and creativity, sometimes to the point where I saw patterns where they weren’t. Discussion was interesting and fulfilling, and something that allowed both of us to grow.

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Â

1) the metric I need to work more on is balance. Learning to balance self care and 7 cups and taking care of my kids and doing my professional job, its all got to be balanced to help the others i need to help.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â i learned that if its the end of your life and the things they told you were negative.. Chances were you didn't do what you wanted to do to fulfill your life, you didn't have the love or support because you didn't put out the love and support. I want to be able to demonstrate humility when i pass away at that time i am meant too… so people remember me for the courageous loving person i was …