Course 3: PL 102 - The Problem is the Path (Discussion 1)

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of Concern - the housing market as I look for a house
-the company I work for successfully going public or not
-upcoming elections

Circle of influence - how I manage my money
-how much effort i put into my relationships
-my work

It's important to remind myself that success comes from controlling what you can.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

He was able to adjust effectively. Rather than see how the president was and complain or criticize him, he learned how to make the most of the situation he was put in.

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Concern-Cannot change.

Worrying what others do.(Can understand why they do it, and accept or help them to fix it)

Assumptions.(Going with the flow, as they say, and seeing what happens, ultimately staying positive)

Always thinking the worst.(Giving the benefit of the doubt, and finding out what happens!)

Influence-Can Change!

Taking responsibility

Accomplishing things.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

This gentleman, instead of gossiping and criticizing, learned.

He Adapted. He Evolved. He was a good teammate.

Made it good instead of being forced to be bad.

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things in my circle of concern: world peace, economic stability, the general safety of my family members under any and all situations

3 things in my circle of influence: my inner peace, my efficiency, my communication skills

1 thing to remind myself to focus on my circle of influence is to always give myself 3 seconds to digest any strong emotion i'm feeling, then ask myself if this is something that i have any measure of control over. if i do, what can i do about it? if i dont, then i should go with the flow.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

taking the initiative is the key here, i think. being proactive is mutually exclusive to being reactive, since its only ever the person who acts later that bases their actions on the previous one(s). compensating for other people's shortcomings is also a good trait to have. instead of forcibly establishing one's own expertise, we find ways in which our expertise can fill in existing gaps in communication, efficiency or productivity.

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

circle of concern: War on Ukraine, Climate change, civil rights
circle of influence: learning coding, exercising, practicing gratitude

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
He worked with the president's strengths and utilized empathy and understanding. He helped shore up his own people, so that they weren't as affected by the president's gruff leadership. He focused on what he could control.

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things in my circle of concern

The economy

The climate

Covid

3 things in my circle of influence

Work on relationships with people.

How I gather feedback.

The way I seek to understand people.

1 thing I can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Think about the things that I can change and things that I cannot change and do my best to change them for the better.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive?

The executive took the time to analyse and understand his bosses’ motivations as a leader.

What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

They helped the boss focus on his strengths and reduce the visibility of his weaknesses.

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things in my circle of concern

1. My family health and well-being

2. My education

3. My physical and mental health

3 things in your circle of influence

1. Check on my family member often by calling them and visiting them. Offering to help them out with resources and emotional support

2. Studying hard by managing my time well and completely focusing to improve on the subjects I'm weak in. Being proactive to prepare well before the examinations

3. Eating healthy and clean, exercising, sleeping well. Surround myself with positive people for mental well-being

1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence

By making a mental note to remind myself everyday. If i ever felt like giving up or demotivated i would look up for inspirational and motivational quotes to inspire and help me stay focused on my circle of influence.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive?What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

What stands out to you about this executive?

The executive was proactive by focusing on his circle of influence rather than the circle of concern contrary to most of the employees who were focused on by complaining about the president. The executive also took an nitiative to work on solutions diligently.

What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

He was empathetic with the president's underlying concern and build a healthy relationship of productivity and understanding with his work mates. Apart from that, he recognised the president's weaknesses instead of criticising it, he compensated them with strength. He build his own circle of influence without being a threat to the president because he complemented him well by working as a team and growing together

@GlenM

Those resources were really interesting, thank you for giving us all the opportunity to go through them! So let's get to the questions!

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of concern:

• My future and the future in general
  
• the health of my friends and my family
• Disappointment in my abilities, rather than trying to improve

Circle of influence:

• how I treat others
• the way I receive and give feedback and learn to improve
• seeing issues from the perspective of someone else

What can I do to remind myself to stay in the circle of influence?

As my goal on 7Cups is to support others, rather than judge them or critizise them, I can always ask myself: Is what I am going to say helpful? Is it comforting? Is it validating and reflecting? Or is there judgment and unwanted critic in it?

By raising my own awareness, I can start to stay in the circle of influence and not waste my energy on things I can not change.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive?

Very outstanding about him is how he reacted to the situation. Rather than being frustrated, he noticed the weaknesses of his boss and compensated them, while still being empathetic and not at all criticising.

What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

Instead of giving up, they tried to find a way. A way that can only be found if you work together, as a team. This way you can compensate for each other's weaknesses, build a strength in teamwork and find creative solutions.

Thank you for reading through this, you amazing, wonderful fellow Cupser! 💙

@GlenM

Circle of concern ~ 1. Self-love 2. Family and friends 3. Career

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

He was proactive and focused on his circle of influence and read through the situtaion and he compensated them and empathized .. He made weakness Irrelevant .. recommendations .. his circle expanded and his strength seen as success . great leadership skill !!!

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of Concern

1. My health in the future

2. Climate change

3. My mum's health

Circle of Influence

1. My next step to take

2. How I spend my time (mostly!)

3. How I choose to view others

I can remind myself that there are other people who are in positions of power and influence to change the things I worry about. Also remembering that uncertainty is a part of being human. I can bring the focus back to myself and try to be aware of spiralling thoughts.

He wasn't critical and instead saw the other person's weaknessess as a chance to show his own strengths and work in harmony. He was empathetic and sought to understand where the other person was coming from.

@GlenM

Three things in my circle of concern are: (1) finishing my studies, (2) extracurriculars, (3) my relationships with other people.

Three things in my circle of influence are: (1) makes schedules for when I do what course/when I study for what exam, (2) checking what extracurriculars will be valuable to me in terms of future opportunities and in terms of what fulfills me the most, (3) taking breaks from work and going out with people, planning trips.

The executive focused on his circle of influence rather than his circle of concern, he analyzed the president’s strengths and tried to compensate for his weaknesses, such that he didn’t come across as threatening. His circle of influence expanded until he was always involved in decisions and asked for his thoughts.