Confusion, Stress, and Validity.
Hello 7cups. I've been struggling with my gender identity off and off for a long time now and I thought instead of wallowing in fears and confusion I would reach out to a group that might be able to help.
I am AFAB but rarely feel happy when seen as such. Mostly I am indifferent, but never happy.
What does give me euphoria is being seen as or presenting as male or non-binary. On a few days to a week out of every month or two I have dysphoria. I have things to help alleviate this but when considering surgery (specifically top) I am far too terrified of it to ever go through with it.
However, indifference is the default. I suspect that this is due to depression which I have chronically, but I can't be sure.
I struggle with feeling not (gender) enough. No matter what I try to identify with/as I find myself feeling as if I'm stealing the label from people who "deserve it" more.
I find myself wishing that someone would just tell me what my gender is and I'll trust and go with it, but I know that's now how it works. However, any help or advice would be appreciated.
@Hauntedwindows
Hello there!
I'm so sorry to hear that. It must be really tough for you to gender related issues. You are not alone!
Talking to someone about LGBTQ topics can really help! There are many wonderful and compassionate listeners that are ready to support and listen to you. You can browse the listener page here: https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/
Best wishes Vision <3
im having nearly the same issues myself, although i am struggling too and have yet to come with solid terms of who i am or how to proceed with it, time has helped me. its been a long process but overall learning more about how i feel, how others cope who feel the same, has helped balance me out a bit with some reassurance. but id say dont dive too deep into overthinking any cons or fears you may be having, that shit will set u back, just take care of your dysphoria the best u can, look up how to better ur self esteem and let the questions answer themselves as time goes on.
