Lesbian Loneliness
I'm sick of being gay. I'm 32, and I watch my straight friends find love and commitment, start family's, and have wonderful lives. I want that for myself so badly but when I go on dating sites and try to find a match of my own no one is ever looking for anything commited. It's all polyamory and hook ups. Maybe things would be different if I were less femme, less bottomy. Feels like everyone's looking for someone strong and toppy and here I am a wannabe 1950s house wife who just so happens to prefer girls. I've tried everything to make my life rich outside of a relationship but it just isn't doing anything to make me feel better when what I really want is a partner. I eat well, I exercise, I'm studying to be a counsellor myself lol. My life outside of love truly is the best I can make it, and it still just isn't enough.
@catwithtinyclaws omg I know the feeling. Im here if you want to talk.
I get why you’re tired, but I don’t think the problem is you or the way you love. It’s more about where and how you’re searching. Dating apps can make it feel like everyone only wants something casual, but that’s not the full picture of the community.
There are women out there who want exactly what you want, commitment, stability, something real. Being femme or “soft” isn’t a disadvantage, it’s just your lane, and the right person will be looking for that, not away from it.
It might help to shift away from just apps and try more intentional spaces, LGBTQ events, smaller communities, even friend networks where people are more relationship-minded. It can take longer, but those connections tend to be more aligned.
Wanting a partner doesn’t make your life less meaningful, it just means you’re human. You’ve already built a solid life, and that’s actually what makes you ready when the right person shows up.
And I’m curious, has anyone here actually found something serious, and where did you meet? I’d really like to connect with people who are looking for something real too 🤍
@catwithtinyclaws
I feel for ya 32 like women haven’t had any luck with dating sites I’m down to have a 50’s housewife woman
@catwithtinyclaws - let's connect here as friends 😊
