Signs someone is gas lighting you
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Definition of gas lighting: A form of abuse that would make someone doubt their sanity, reality and memories. This is where someone manipulkates you into think the way they want you to think.
Gaslighting is when another person can manipulate you through gaining or maintaining a way in to controlling you. They make you believe or do as this person wants you to. It is a form of emotional abuse. This form of abuse leave you feeling leary about what you use to believe or do. It is sometime done over a period of time by someone close to , a partner or spouse.
Signs you may be gas lighted:
Constantly invading or minimizing your feelings
Avoiding taking responsibilities for their own actions
Lying to you in order to make you believe what their saying
Recalling events that had happened in a different way
Experiencing self-doubt
Gaslighting primarily happenes in relationships, the other person is the manipulator. Their not just manipulators, they want full control over you and can at times verbally abuse you with,: If you go to the police, I will hurt your family" "N one will believe you over me ". The person manipulating you suffers from narcissistic, antisocial and bordeline personality disorders.
What to do is you think someone is gaslighting you:
Distance yourself from them - Take a step back, refocus on what is happening and leave the situation if possible. Try some relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or grounding exercises.
Save any evidence: You work on preserving certain evidence by keeping a journal, text conversations with the person, and emails to prove the person is hurting you.
Set boundaries: This is by telling a person what you expect our of the relationship and what you will not accept. You make it clear and keep to the boundaries you have place for yourself.
Getting an outsiders perspective: asking family and friendsabout what your going through and what they would do in your place. This will help you have a visual on what you need to do.
End the relationship: End the relationship with the person gaslighting you, so you may rebuild your mental health and emotional health back to who you were.
You are NOT to blame for someone else trying to control you. We sometimes let our guard down because we want a nice and safe relationship with someone. Remember the person who is doing this to you might of had it happen to them in past relationships and feel this is the way it is to be.
How can we look for signs of gaslighting in relationships?
How can we not have this happen to yourself?
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@pamharley003
What a helpful graphic!
So easy to follow.
Thank you 🥰
@Amanda84
Your welcome, I am glad it was east to understand
If someone makes you feel less self confident, shifts the blame onto you, lies to you, minimizes your feelings, that means that they are gaslighting you.
Walking away and ending the relationships is the best way to not let that happen to you again. Additionally setting boundaries, and having a supportive network are some ways to heal and cope after being in a narcissistic relationship.
Thank you for posting. Have a great day ahead!
@pamharley003 Thank you for sharing something significant, and I want to acknowledge the courage it takes to put this into words.
Gaslighting is deeply harmful, and recognizing the signs is the first step toward protecting yourself.
Reading your post, I was struck by how clearly you explained the definition and signs of gaslighting: minimizing feelings, twisting events, lying, and creating self‑doubt.
These are all tactics that can leave someone questioning their own reality, which is why it's so damaging. The image you included reinforces that sense of confusion and imbalance; it visually mirrors the way gaslighting makes someone feel "off‑center" in their own life.
What stood out most was your reminder that gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse. It's not about misunderstanding or miscommunication; it's about control. The manipulator often wants power over your thoughts, choices, and even your sense of self. That's why your advice is so valuable:
Distance yourself: when possible, to regain clarity.
Preserve evidence: journals, texts, emails, so you can trust your own memory.
Set boundaries and hold firm to them.
Seek outside perspectives: from trusted friends or family, because they can help you see what's really happening.
And when necessary, end the relationship to reclaim your mental and emotional health.
I especially appreciate your reminder that you are not to blame for someone else's manipulation. Many people fall into gaslighting situations because they want love, safety, or trust, and that vulnerability should never be exploited.
Your post is not only informative but also empowering. It provides others in the community with a roadmap for recognizing gaslighting and taking steps toward healing.
Thank you, once again, for sharing this. It's the kind of message that can help someone realize they're not "crazy" or "overreacting," but instead experiencing something real and harmful.
Sending you strength and gratitude for bringing this discussion forward.
@LeoInPerpetuity
I am glad some you you found this post helpful. And yes, We are NOT to blame for actions from other people. People who are like this may have been taught or had it done to them so they feel this is appropriate to do, not knowing the outcomes of the actions.
@pamharley003 Thank you for adding that perspective; it's so important.
You're absolutely right: we are not responsible for others' choices, especially when those choices cause harm.
Understanding that some people repeat patterns they've learned doesn't excuse the behavior, but it can help us step back and protect ourselves without carrying guilt.
I have dealt with gaslighting most of my life, as it is a common family technique. I wonder, though, what is the difference between gaslighting and someone just correcting you? I also struggle with memory issues, so it can be tough to tell the difference...
@HappySpecter
Hi Happy, Here is a link explaining the differences between gaslighting and someone correcting you. I hope the link helps you understand it more, it helped me to understand the differences: https://refreshtherapynyc.com/the-difference-between-gaslighting-lying-and-misinformation-why-not-everything-is-gaslighting/
Awesome TYSM!
@pamharley003 This post is so important. Thank you for this!
