Mindfulness Daily Check-In October 23, 2017
NO-NO-NOOOOOOOOO!!!
It is one of those days you know. Oh yes- I know that you know this feeling very well
We all have inner tantrums due to responsibilities, work, family, maybe even wanting our own ways in things-idk. But we have them- no argueing WE DO
lol
It is fine to have an emotional outburst. At least that is what I'm told at times. But really how can we be mindful of emotions really wrecking havoc in our innards? How do we get emotions not to "simmer" over?
By slowing our minds, our bodies. Taking that time to walk away respectfully and find some place where we can gather ourselves and do a quick check in, or cry, or scream. We need those "time outs" as they call them. We really do-honest.
For me I am personally trying this in many ways here. I will let people know I need to go and we will resuime whatever we are doing in a little bit. Then I focus on me. Weather it be talking to Noni, getting up and playing with my animals, hitting some pillows, taking dogs for a walk, eating something sweet or spicy.
What are some ways you "calm" yourself from a tantrum- yes I said it TANTRUM lol Please share as we can all help each other
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@RumpleSteeleSkin I still needs to find a way not to thro that tantrum
lol but I'm sure one day I will succeed in getting a way to be mindfull
@sweetMango91
Hiya Mango good to ee you in check in Yes we all find ways as to not "blow our top" It will happen, we all will get there.
What I really like in what you said- your positive attitude "but I'm sure one day I will succeed in getting a way to be mindfull"
Have hope and believe you will get there
wow - I love the word tantrum for that IS what it is!
Some ways I calm myself from a tantrum :
take things one things at a time so I am not overwhelmed
make " me" time every day - even if 30 minutes
have a self care rutine
meditate
do not let others sucks my energy dry
boundraies
stand up for myself
say no when i have to
sleep in when i can - even if i have to go to bed early to do so
papmper myself
think of the facts and take out emotions
thoughts logs
and sometimes - just say, okay - if i do this adulting thin now - ill rewardmyelf later with-----.
@blissedNblessed
Hiya there Blissed great to see you in check-in
WOW- leemie say this again WOW!!!!
I really do like all of these things you shared here for dealing with uummm tantrums. If you don't mind Im going to copy and paste this to help a few of my members have some ideas. Again thank you and GOOD JOB!!
@RumpleSteeleSkin
I would be honored....and thank you.
@RumpleSteeleSkin hmm, can't seem to remember the last time I had a good tantrum not too sure whether that's a good thing or a bad thing! Definitely when I was younger it would've been the classic kicking of chairs and slamming of doors before probably collapsing in bed and crying. These days I try to block everything out with headphones or I think particularly the contrabass can be a good one for getting out anger (playing it, not attacking it 
thinking about it, it'd probably win in a fight anyway!) I guess it's sort of similar, for me at least, to listening to thunder storms which I also tend to find relaxing... Guess the tones sort of feel like they connect or ease the tense-ness, who knows Course there'll be times where there's less self control and might become self destructive, not the best way to go but hey. And then if it's a situation where there's no escape from what or whoever has brought on those feelings then I think it's usually just a case of getting extremely tense and focussing on breathing until I can relax again or get away.
@AMusicalSilence
Silence hello great to see you in check-in today hahaha Silence that so reminded me of my kids when they were little. Oh they sure did throw those tantrums-lol. For you is blocking things out good for you? It is good to hear that when things get a bit intense you focus on breathing until you get relaxed. I enjoyed what you shared here, I always get a "nugget" from everyones sharings here
@RumpleSteeleSkin Glad to hear it Thinking about blocking things out, whilst it certainly helps in the moment, I guess maybe it's not the best long term since things tend to build up internally which periodically comes out as some form of self destruction - easier to rationalise and deal with taking yourself through each issue as it comes up than to have a tidle wave of mixed up things all hit at once... But then again I guess it can all depend on the day, the situation, the mind frame at that time and so on *shrugs* (I've absolutely no idea whether or not any of that makes any sense! Appologies it not )
@AMusicalSilence
Silence thank you for openly sharing here on your houghts and how it is for you. And it makes senses cause those are your words and thoughts hugs
I don't.. I'm just so useless that nothing works. I hate me so I just live with that..
@sensitiveShade5337
hugs Shade, hope that things will work better soon so that you can start loving yourself. i found this quote, hope you like it
Believe in yourself and all that you are, know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.
i do not really have tantrums but if something annoys me too much i would walk away find space where i am alone and talk to myself, talking out my anger, then thinking sometimes also loud (provided I am alone) how i could have delt with the situation better, back at home eventually explain what happened to my husband or my gf and then meditate. so basically let it out until nothing can be said anymore and then finding peace inside.