Dealing with Mister perfect

@GentleFish

This helps me a lot. I used to strive for perfection. It still bothers me greatly when I make a mistake. I have a new approach I'm trying to live by: progressive adaptation.

We live in an ever-changing world. Such is the nature of time, and so we must change within it if we're to find contentment.

One can still find perfect states to rest in. It's when we celebrate victories, and be happy with all the progress we've made. But perfection is stagnation, not growth. We must grow with everything else.

So radically accept yourself for who you are, but make changes as you go. It is how evolution works, it's odd to try and prevent it in my opinion.

I hope this makes sense. It seems to work for me, but now I feel even more equipped to deal with life with the advice you gave.

Omg thank you I really needed to hear this right now.

I have a performance coming up 🩰 and dealing with the pressure, the critical voice.

Thank you so much 💖

You are your own worst critic.

Cheers!

@GentleFish

@GentleFish this is really helpful for people struggling to accept failure and grow from it, thanks

@GentleFish Thank you for sharing something very thoughtful and honest. Giving that critical voice a name like "Mister Perfect" is such a powerful way to create space between yourself and those harsh expectations   it brings a kind of clarity and gentleness that so many people might relate to but never thought to articulate. The way you’ve paired mindfulness questions with mantras offers both self-awareness and compassion, and it’s evident how much work you’ve done to nurture your inner world. There’s something deeply human in what you wrote the yearning to do right by others and yourself, the fear of letting people down, and the quiet strength in saying, “I can do hard things.” Your reflections invite connection, not only with others but with the parts of ourselves we might often push away. You’re definitely not alone in this  and your words might be exactly what someone else needed to hear today.