Did you just earn a new badge??!! Let us know which badge, how you earned it & well give you a high five!
Have connected w/5 listeners and methinks I have +50 'compassion points'..I think group chat access is re-opened for me.
I got the Talker badge for talking 100 times on the forums. Oh.
I have talked to 90+ people in the span of a week!!!
50 compassion hearts!
Hi guys,just completed surviving break ups course & earned the badge.
@listeningtocare wow! congratulations, i hope to someday accomplish that too! thanks for being a beacon lighting the way
Hey Guys, just completed Parenting Course!!!
Hey Guys, Jump Start Badge earned!!!
Hey guys i just earned the " Too special for accomplishments and any positive effort in the real world like planting a tree or something " 7cups badge
Yay aint I awesome ? I feel like i've reached the pinnacle of my existence. We are all, all of us here remarkable people standing on the shoulders of giants. Unsung noble heroes
Hello I'm new here, can I please please ask for your opinion?
I'm quite introvert/ambivert I don't really know. But I can hardly open up to new people. Especially when my friends (a girl and her bf) brought me to meet their circle. And fyi I'm from a different city, different island with totally different language and humor with them. It's quite upsetting because I don't know anything about their friends and both of them kinda forced me to start a conversation.
And what hurts me the most is when both of them keep calling me "stone" over and over again because I can't really open up with their friends. And I told them repeatedly that I WILL TALK to their friends but I can't open up that fast, but it's like my words just vanished to thin air because they always forced me like that. I explained it over and over but they looked like they just don't care and don't want to try to understand. And what's worse is when I tried to explain it, my friend's bf said this "What? You think we're gonna pay attention to you when you talk? For godsake don't think the world revolves around you and just talk to them and have some conversations. Do I really have to make a list of what you need to ask them? No, right?" And what's even worse my girl friend just nod along and agree with him. And that annoyed me so f-ing much
I know they have good intentions and want me to be more friendly but that attitude isn't helping AT ALL and keep calling me 'stone' definnitely won't make it any better. I'm just disappointed that both of them are my friends but they forced me to do something contra with my personality and get irritated when I didn't do well. And now tbh it's more draining to see them and hear them talk and complaining about my personality. And please please help me how to cope with them, I'm really afraid I'm gonna hate them so much.
thank you
@lilacxorchid
@lilacxorchid
Hi @lilacxorchid. We are all different in the ways we engage with the universe. There is no universal "right way" to do and I would think it would be very boring if we were all the same as your friends. Its OK to be as you are and also to be open to incremental change as we journey along our lifes pathway. (from someone who has seen a lot of change from being painfully shy towards more accepting of how I am).
I think your friends calling you stone, I hear rock. Someone to be relied upon. You rock girl!
You can't change how your friends behave but you can change how you respond to it.
Be kind to yourself and take care.
PS. I am glad that you are here as a Listener as you will have sensitivity and empathy for our members.
