Weekly sharing of Goals! Week #29 2024 (Monday 07/15/24 - Sunday 07/21/24)
I welcome anyone to commit to a goal here today.
But importantly, talk about getting it done..... or why it didn't happen yet.
To praise each other for our efforts and wins.
While supporting each other through trials and setbacks.
And to continue trying and not give up.
Remember:
Every Goal should be considered "Worthy".
Never belittle your achievements and be proud of yourself for your daily accomplishments!
Whether they be Complex or Simple.
Getting out of bed is a good day..... Good job I say!
Share your goals today, for support and encouragement.
@cloudySummer @mytwistedsoul @KristenHR @Tinywhisper11 @CyclingThroughLife @Psalm139 @Enthenia @anonyTortoise3336 @spicyavocado3788 @neatBlueberry5213 @AmyK1234 @ivoryLakeuk @MusokeHere @seashell145
@IsayUncle happppy mondayyy ❤❤
Ok well for me depression comes, at certain times of the year, like this month is always hardest, with my sons birthday on the 30th (he lives in heaven now) and then I find when I think to much I get depressed, thinking is bad for our health so please everyone don't do it😁 also the weather impacts me, if it's raining for days, and I can't go out in the garden I get depressed. Wait! Am I answering your question right??🤔🤔
@Tinywhisper11
Good morning and yes you are answering the question exactly right. My thoughts are with you today and were with you last week. As Joshua's birthday grows closer I'm sure you're getting more anxious but remember you are loved and remember he is loved.
Do your carers take you out shopping? Do you have any birthday banners to put up? Make sure you set up a birthday place for him to come and visit because becoming a teenager is a big big deal.
And remember to train your mind stay here with us. I haven't heard too much from you last week and I been a little bit worried so don't you go down that rabbit hole OK?
@IsayUncle I won't go down the rabbit hole, I've just needed time to let myself feel, and then distract myself when needed. So don't worry I'm not doing to bad🙂 just being a bit quiter than normal. I don't go out shopping but I can ship online with my carers help, I got a skateboard and my poem I wrote him, and balloons ready to the around his tree, and then one to carry his poem as it floats up to heaven ❤ we always get a cake, and the other residents and staff here, put flowers by his cross and pay their respects. I like to sit outside under his tree with him, and talk to him, especially on his birthday, so he knows where to come🙂❤ 13 years old, wow! I wonder what he looks like
@Tinywhisper11
Thanks for sharing the wonderful ceremony planned. And the reassurance you are being strong and holding fast. So proud of you. I love you and holding you close.
thank you but Please don't eat my ice cream/cake before I get to it..... don't do it!
@IsayUncle anyways today has been a good day🙂 it finally was a dry warm morning, so I got to go and sit outside. I ordered myself a xmas or birthday present yesterday, haven't decided which one to have it on yet😁 and spent hours playing with my 3 little piggies ❤And just now I was hungry, so I ate a kids meal... His mum was furious😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
how is my favourite uncle today???
@Tinywhisper11
That really sounds nice when you're having a good day. I love that so much! I'm on a little bit of an upswing but I have a very busy day and feel behind on things as always. But overall I'm doing really good this morning. 😃
@IsayUncle don't worry you'll catch with ❤ and after your busy day you can have this... (Don't eat it till your relaxing later) ...
@Tinywhisper11
don't eat it. go open your christmas / birthday present.
@Tinywhisper11 oh the cake still appears to be here😍 nom nom nom 😋nom nom 😋
@Tinywhisper11
yoyou still save me a piece and I'm with you. Nah Nah Nah Yum Yum delicious 
ALL GONE! thank you!
@IsayUncle 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This came across my dash in another social medial site.....I felt it was very appropriate for our little weekly thread.....
I super busy this morning on my day off so I'll get to your question some time this week as soon as I can....
@CyclingThroughLife
I agree with this 100% and practice and live it every chance I can throughout the days. It works and I think it is a great mindset. thanks for sharing.
@CyclingThroughLife very true ❤❤
Right now for me it's loss. I think anyway. I'm not even really sure. I lost my grandparents a few years ago. Then a dog. And then someone I thought was my best friend - my only friend really. Then another dog and right after that my father. There's loss of the childhood I never had. The things that can never be. I don't think I've even properly grieved any of these losses. I don't cry. Oh I'll get close but it's never let loose. It's just this heavy feeling. Nobody even really knows how I feel. I go through the motions of doing things. No matter how lousy you feel there are some things that still need to be done. Animals need food and water. Work still gets done. But there's no motivation - no enjoyment. I do things to keep busy because it's easier to keep from thinking if I'm busy. I just get quiet and keep to myself. I've tried sharing with people but tbh it seems pointless because to them - I should just get a new dog and my father was an a**hole and everything else I should be over now because they feel enough time has passed. I've been told I'm not depressed but bored or that I just need some sunshine
Like Tiny - too many rainy days can trigger it but it lifts when the weather gets better. Seasonal depression hits over winter. I'm a little worried about that this year because of already being depressed. Guess we'll see
Anyway - I hope everyone has a good week and does good things for themselves. Stay hydrated because it's another scorcher out there today!
@mytwistedsoul
Yeah, that degree of loss and sense of loss is a hard thing to manage because there's nothing to manage. It's all gone, the feelings, the commaridity..... like you said, "the purpose"
I'm glad you're using logic and doing things to keep yourself grounded until your emotions come back. Your emotions will come back, I think so anyway. Because it's something that you want and just the well written paragraph you shared with us here makes it easy to understand how hard it can be. But also it's easy to see your deep feelings.
I know what you mean about crying and letting loose and not doing it. Lucky for me, during my roughest times I would just ball like a baby if I saw something sensitive and loving on TV. I was always by myself and I leaned into it and let it rip when close to the edges. it was good and didn't seem to serve any purpose but i knew it did.
Do you have any approach idea to find you're good and uplifting feelings. I know there's all the generic advice, join clubs go to groups get involved with things and those are just absolutely true but that doesn't work all the time so I was wondering if you had any other ideas.
Being alone doesn't necessarily mean being lonely and that's been said a lot but you got me wondering with your paragraph how much do you like your alone time versus how much you don't like it because of the loneliness.
I like my alone time right now 95% and there's 5% of me that wishes that a miracle would fall out a tree that could live with me. I've become emotionless and on some level selfish with my expectations. So right now I like not having the obligations but I'm hoping to grow into that as time goes on
@IsayUncle Exactly that. It's hard to wrap my head around the fact that the things I held dearest no longer are a part of life as I knew it. In some ways it feels unreal. I mean we all know that death is a part of life - I guess maybe we figure there's always more time
@mytwistedsoul
I'm glad my own feelings resonated with you. It helps me believe that I'm OK, if that makes any sense. Because someone else found it hard to cry makes me not so silly when I was feeling like that and I just decided to pretend to cry and then the floodgates opened. Just saying,... And I think you understand what I'm saying, maybe sort of. idk. but i know what you mean.
ps... like you said, "at the wierdest of times" me too.
@IsayUncle No it's not silly at all. I do understand. It's nice to know we're not the only ones with things like this. Stay awesome and thank you for letting me take up space
@mytwistedsoul
I think you're awesome and it's fantastic taking up space with you! 😊
@mytwistedsoul I'm your friend ❤😁 I love you ❤ there's no such thing as rules when it comes to grieving, there's no time limit, there's no wrong way to grieve, and weather your father was a a**** or not, your still allowed to feel and grieve, so take your time ❤ there's a huge difference between being bored and fed up, and depression, I wish you had people who are more supportive and understanding towards you
just remember you are loved here ❤ by me😁 and I'm always here for you, gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 You're always so sweet ❤️ You've been through so much and you're just this amazing and wonderful person. Thank you for being you Tiny *gives you a bear hug* I love you too ❤️
@mytwistedsoul gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ cute pfp by the way ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 Thank you ❤️ One of the teens made it for me 😊 I thought it was the nicest sweetest gesture
@mytwistedsoul
You're honestly one of the most considerate and kind souls I have came across here on 7cups. It's disheartening to hear that you are not receiving the support you deserve in real life. ☹️ I honestly appreciate every comment/reply you send. It has motivated to be better and do better. I feel supported when you're around, and deeply appreciate you. 💖
As for the people who have dismiss your losses-- it IS valid to feel forlorn, especially since your grandparents and wonderful dog who have been a significant part in your life are gone...It's not easy to just "get over" that, especially when you have so many amazing memories with them. People who say "get over it" have either A) never experience loss or B) are honestly heartless...So, again, looping back to the "get over it crowd", it isn't easy. Not when you're going through traumatic events. It's difficult to just shut that part off. This is YEARS of build up.
It's OK to take your time to grieve. It is trauma you have gone through-- those of us with PTSD don't really "heal" fully. The trauma will always be there, in the back of our mind and form something similar to scars. Sometimes our scar wounds reopen based on certain triggering factors (ex. I'm back with living w/ an abuser -- I was "OK" I guess, until I had to go back temporarily). We all have our own ways to cope with it as well -- some days are harder to cope than others. Sometimes we're unsure about how to cope and might need some outside help, and that is OK as well.
Furthermore, I wanted to mention that it is OK to not feel OK...sometimes we just need to just let the emotions out instead of bottling them or masking them. I think you mentioned in a different comment about being unable to cry, and it feels kind of similar to having a lump in your throat? For that, I have tried watching sad movies that remind me of certain things to force the tears out and release the "stress hormones" and feel better. Sometimes, it helps crying in the shower so my face doesn't feel swollen. I've been too angry though to cry recently...and other mixed emotions...
Lastly, I can relate to the loner bit as well...I'm unsure if I truly being alone or if it's just that I don't have to try and reach other people's expectations. I'm currently friendless in real life. I feel paranoid and scared after dealing with stalker situation and friends who took advantage of kindness...I have a partner but...I panic sometimes if maybe I'm meant to be alone and will merely drag my partner down. I have self-sabotaged myself in the past... I think I'm just going to take every step-by-step and try to rationalize my thoughts...I eventually want to try and make friends in real life, it just hasn't been plausible for me since I move around from town to city, state to state...and maybe eventually country...will see...
Anyhow, I hope things get better for you, sending good vibes your way. 🍀✨
@ImpudentIncognito Thank you for this. ❤️ I don't know what to say. Lately it feels as though every wound that ever was is open. I don't think that people who say to get over it realize that if we could we would. I would love to let go of the things that torment me. I'm sure you would too. Too many people seem to dismiss or disregard what they haven't gone through
I had to check if this was the correct date. A response showed in my notifications yesterday and I thought it was for the new week. Saw the posts and thought people were unusually motivated for a Sunday. Didn't realize until after the fact that it was for a previous week ^^;.
So I still need to tackle the 6th assignment, work, dog, and get pictures done now that I have paper again...
Looking at the instructions for the assignment again. A little late to start on it today but I can get it done tomorrow. This assignment has seven parts to it. I have to do a network diagram and I guess, depending on how long that takes, I can pick a cloud service and justify why I chose that tomorrow. The rest will take some time to figure out.
@Enthenia
yea, i saw that hehe. you went backk to week 25. lol
it seems You've taken a little bit of a breather between exercise 5 and exercise 6. I mean probably not really with work and everything else you got going on but it seems like you got a little bit of a cusion between the two exercises. you deserved it anyway!
Welcome back to the present and good result wishes for assignment 6!
@IsayUncle I knew you saw it because you left a ❤️. As far as I can tell, you can't close the barn door after the horse has bolted so I left it there.
Don't know about a breather. It seems like my overwhelming stuff just shifts slightly. And while the workload is lessening, the stuff I have to do is taking longer so I'm not really gaining ground. And I've got seven tasks to address on one assignment and three more to do before mid-August which is coming fast.
@Enthenia good luck, you can do it ❤ give doggy and kitty a kiss from me ❤
@Tinywhisper11 the dog will be easy but the cat can be difficult. Cat likes to hide to avoid the dog. She can't play for as long as the dog.
@IsayUncle I lost my mood ring😮 I'm not sure how to feel🙁
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11
Lost maybe???? 🤔 uh hu uuh uh. i'm funny 😂
@IsayUncle
@IsayUncle *-* I would like to enter this sacred realm of sharing goals. Love the idea and really appreciate how you are helping others while helping yourself<3
Finding new ways of improving has always been something I have been curious about. I try to get into things with all the strength I have and I'll give it my all but when it still doesn't work out I just resort back to whatever state of mind I was in before I started.
I think the goal that I would like to set for this week would be to not take the losses personally. I would like to remind myself to hold on to the little progress that I make instead of the want to want some kind of result cause someday that progress can turn into the result that I so badly want.
For today I will try to work on my patience.
@BlueDarkAurora
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, I like the way you think!
I think the worst thing about blaming ourselves for failures is the great amount of time lost not looking for another solution and it also leads to some loss of hope too. 😔
Not taking losses personally and having patience are like magic powers to get through the hardest of times. Great thoughts; thanks for sharing and thanks for bringing them up.
Build up your magic, you'll love it!😀... and you can do it.
@IsayUncle I agree ^^ loss of hope is hard but I've got plenty of hope, it blooms like flowers every morning :)
I wasn't able to follow through with what I said but I did have the thought of having patience in the back of my mind so I guess that's progress. For today I do have some things that needs attention and I'll try to complete them.
Thank you for your kind encouragement.
@BlueDarkAurora hiiii ❤ yes take it little by little, and you'll get there ❤❤ here's your welcome to the thread gift ❤ don't leave those chocolates unattended for to long, uncle is a known food'napper
@Tinywhisper11 Thank you for your sweet welcome<3 *runs with the chocolates* :D
@BlueDarkAurora well done, don't let anyone steal them😂😂😂😂😂😂😂he
@Tinywhisper11 All gone :D
So I didn't get all that I wanted to do on my assignment done today. Thinking I'm caught up at work, looking at various diagrams and trying to figure out the best way to tailor one for my company (found a site that has diagrams from actual companies so I was able to use one as a reference) and I get an email wanting to know where a report is. The actual writing of the report is easy but gathering the information is tedious.
Then saving things 3x (which I nearly forgot to do), connecting to the VPN to put the report on the software we have to use, doing checklists, sending emails (& my email wouldn't work)....
@Enthenia
Saving things three times? I bet you learned that lesson the hard way.😩. That's awesome you learned it because it's a whole lot easier than redoing everything even though it could be a pain in the ****. It's well worth it.
So what's the company model you're trying to tailor towards?
@IsayUncle They want the same thing in three different locations. Four if the customer turns up on a monthly report. Today they changed how they want one of the background documents named at the time of saving. I had to explain the file location and process to a girl who mainly works from home. She wasn't aware of it. She thinks multiple copies of the same thing is dumb also. But we don't make the decisions.
As for the technology stack, I found one for Fit bit which is close to what I want. The rest of the assignment is basically explaining the components of the diagram and why I chose certain things like programming language.
So things are not going as well as hoped. Simple things at work turned out to be not simple. Xcel crashed three times and I had to pull the data over.
My headphones kept cutting out and when I finally went to look at the paper I had downloaded as an example for the assignment, I found that it had been removed. I think a network administrator did it because I don't remember removing it.
But, I managed to get the diagram and one point of the assignment done. Hoping to get the programming languages down before I leave.
@Enthenia
ohohh my goodness. Sounds like "one of those days" on steroids. I'm so sorry ☹️.
But I did notice you got a piece of something done! That's the fighting spirit. I guess it would be kinda nice to have some easy days all in a row. You deserve it.
@IsayUncle I rarely have easy days. I think they're called weekends. At least I don't have to get a new set of headphones. One was just dirty. I can't work without them. Outside noises and mindless chatter are annoying.
I got some programming language put down but not the justification for them still have the servers, database, and something else to write down.
@Enthenia
I think I misunderstood about you saving 3 times or places. I thought you were talking about your school work and so I thought that was a great idea.
But now I think I get it, you're talking about having to save things in three or 4 different places at work which is good for them but a pain in the **** for you.😠 awwww, bummer. but still smart for them.... and make sure you back up your work too.
Current Goal: Finish my real estate classes this week, study for the remainder of this month, fly to different state and take final test for license.
Why?: In order to have a better career and move to a safer place with the little one.
Motivation: I'm currently in a bad situation. I used to live alone with little one, but due to my medical issues, I had to quit my job and move back in with a relative who used to abuse me physically and verbally in a different state.
Plan: Going to try and finish two to three chapters of online classes a day(some modules are EXTREMELY long, so it's possible I might finish in the middle of next week. I stay up in the nights too to finish.
Progress: I have completed 4 out of 19 chapters for the real estate classes. Hoping to progress to 5 tonight at lease.
Going to update this here frequently with end of the day reports to keep myself accountable.
@ImpudentIncognito hi sweetie ❤ how is things going with your son? Did he start therapy after?? Please stay safe, living back home *pulls worried face* not to far away from graduating your course, yaaay! Well done. Soon you will have a great job, a great house, and a great life for you and your son ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Hello Tiny! ♥ My son is...OK, I guess? He doesn't always get along with his grandma/my mother(the one that used to physically & verbally abuse me). He also happens to have trauma with women/girls, since he was in temporary custody with my ex's sister and both her and his female cousin(ex's sister's daughter) who's a year older than him used to bully him...very badly...
I've been working every day and every night on these classes so I can except. I didn't get him in therapy yet, since we currently live in a state called **Planaterra with my mother -- I plan on moving back to **Solterra where my real estate classes originate from and where my partner currently resides.
So at the moment... No specialized therapy for son until I move, unfortunately. Since my insurance and everything is still set in Solterra. Using government insurance but plan on getting my own once I work in real estate.
**Anonymous names for states just for simplicity sake.
@ImpudentIncognito it'll all work out ok for you ❤❤ as for your son, he's just like his mamma, strong and able to get through anything ❤ hugs you both ❤
@ImpudentIncognito
OH WOW, you are really in it to win it. Please don't get discouraged, it is so much harder when you have a negative situation or environment that's out of your control.
That has nothing to do with you even if the situation makes you feel that way, don't believe it. You are your own power source and it sounds like you're making a lot of good decisions and putting a lot of effort in it.
I'm encouraged by your fighting spirit. I hope you and your son grow stronger together because of the struggles you face together.
You have a lot on your plate but you can do all of this one nibble at a time. Easy does it, keep pushing in the right direction and when you have to fight on occasion you fight with all your might. You got this!
(other post) PS.... Tiny is telling fibs. She's the foodie stealer, especially big breakfasts and ice cream.
@IsayUncle
Hey, thanks for the words of encouragement! I'm trying not to let the negative/toxic environment pull me down -- it's actually been motivated to push myself harder to improve my situation. Anyhow, i appreciate ya! Hope all is going well with you as well. 🍀✨
@ImpudentIncognito
Your welcome and you're doing all the hard work to be proud of.
@ImpudentIncognito
Progress: Currently on chapter 5 of 19 for my online classes! Hoping to reach chapter 6 here soon. Trying to power through it this week. My updates may sound redundant for a while, however...it helps keep me on track! I don't want to back down.
@ImpudentIncognito
Progress: I have now progressed up to chapter/session 6 of 19! Unfortunately, the website broke down, so I sent a tech ticket to receive help. I was getting closer to session/chapter 7. I'll treat today as a nice little break, and as soon as the issue is fixed, I'm going to work hard. I found a way to cut down on notes to go through the classes even faster. I feel like I retain the classwork better when I'm more focused on reading vs rushing with taking notes.
Emotions: I've been feeling pretty exhausted and drained lately...I have some comments to reply back to on the forums, but will get to it a bit later. I'll feel more free and more social next week when classes are done. I'm just extremely anxious, tired, and somewhat lonely right now as well as feeling all over the place.
@ImpudentIncognito
Yea, a lot of computers went down. I guess there was some type of cyber attack on our Internet across the nation. I hope they finally got your computer back up and running.
You are really chipping away at those chapters. 
Keep it up,
it seems to me when we work really hard on something, other things have a way of getting disorientated and that really affects our emotions. I think it's a good thing to recognize that your emotions are all over the place but I'm not saying that it's a good thing. It's just a good thing to recognize it. Stay focused on your classes but also take a break when needed without feeling bad.
Stay focused, keep pushing in the right direction and through all the rough waters you will get where you wanna go. BUT when you sneak a little time, Relax. You deserve it!
@IsayUncle Hey thanks! Getting closer to the goal each day.
@ImpudentIncognito
UPDATE: So, apparently I'm only allowed 10hrs per day to do my online classes, so I couldn't do my goal of finishing ALL of my classes the week I wanted to [15/07/2024-21/07/2024], HOWEVER I should be done by THIS Saturday[27/07/2024]!
Progress: Currently on Chapter 15 of 19! Almost at the finish line. Really excited!
Thoughts: These past few weeks have been exhausting -- however, I've been determined more than ever to get these classes done. After this, my next step is to secure a plane ticket and travel BACK to the state/city I was originally living in, **Solterra, complete the final test, then fly back to **Planaterra, where the (toxic) parent is at. Start working remotely ASAP, buy a car, and drive BACK to Solterra, but live in a different city this time in ***Pratignis Urbem.
**Pseudonyms for states.
***Pseudonyms for cities.
@ImpudentIncognito
We never get done what we plan to because of things that come up but the fact that you're pursuing the same path and you push past the obstacles means you will get that stuff done that you wanna get done.
I don't think there is any reality where we think it should go this way and it goes this way. So you're doing great.
The fact that you're gonna face your toxic parent again is unavoidable but try to remember parents were once young, got disenchanted or lost trust or for some reason or another, don't believe in themselves. It is not your place to fix it but if we keep chasing the same rabbit down the same rabbit hole form 20 years to 40 years and on ain't gonna change anything and sometimes that's what happens to parents. You stay focused on what you need to do and give a little grace where you can. But no one needs to be undermined, belittled or dismissed. Stay strong in those beliefs.
You have an exciting plan and you're working hard on it. Stay at it and get those chapters done. Good job
@ImpudentIncognito
Progress: I FINALLY finished ALL the online classes!
Next Steps: Now, I need to study hard for the exam to obtain my license -- which I scheduled for the end of August.... Will need to purchase a plane ticket -- just waiting on my security deposit to arrive. Need to figure out a safety plan for son -- don't want him around his grandma/my mother...because she used to [TRIGGER WARNING: sexual abuse, physical & verbal abuse] touch me inappropriately and hit me, as well as be verbally abuse. She also doesn't "believe" in autism, and thinks it's OK to slap children. //End trigger I'm thinking of putting son in a daycare temporarily while I fly out of state to take exam, get my finger print clearance, and fly back. May have my oldest brother (who lives with mother, and whom I'm staying with temporarily) pick him up from daycare...If not daycare, then a babysitter. Just in a complicated situation... Once I have the license, I can move out of **Planaterra and go back to **Solterra to reunite with my partner -- as we both figure out the job and housing situation. He is also in a toxic/unsafe situation as well...It's long, complicated and dangerous.
Final Thoughts: Just feeling relieved, but also slightly anxious to get everything done ASAP. I'm ready for a new chapter in my life. Might not update for a while. I need a small break from 7cups and I guess from being online in general. I posted on here so I would hold myself accountable and finish my classes -- and I finally have. I'll post if there's anything major but...Just feeling down lately and exhausted...Already dealt with a physical threat from the household I'm staying at and the craziness of it so...I'm sorry. See you guys around!
@IsayUncle good morning uncle ❤ I'd like to kiss ya..... But I just washed my hair😂😂😂
good morning everyone ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Good Morning, and i don't care. loving kisses are always welcome!
Good Morning 
@IsayUncle 😮😮😮😮 where did my face go😱😱😱😱😱
@Tinywhisper11
Probably with your mood ring somewhere...... HEY, I just thought of something. Maybe you don't have to "face" your problems today. hyuck, hyuck, hyuck!
@IsayUncle ha..... Ha.....😂😂😂😂😂 I hope you enjoy your day off ❤ not facing my problems is a good idea😁❤
Ha....ha..= Sarcastic laughing
Ha!ha!= Almost funny
Ha!ha!ha= very funny
Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!= Staying alive, staying alive🕺🕺