The lovely chat-space!
Hey hey @iloveyouxx would you like to be my penpal? XD Lol "officially" hehe!👀❤
Hey to everyone else coming across this thread, please try not to read/ follow along this thread and to not upvote or comment anything too because it's personal to Iloveyouxx and Sunisshiningandsoareyou and they'd prefer a confidential, private and safe space for them within this thread.❤ (you can wave us a hey in another forum thread if you like though🥰)
Omgeee hey hey Nadiabuddy I'm sooooo sorry for disappearing lol, smh I get how it feels when it seems the other person keeps disappearing, sometimes it's the forums nomming tags, other times it's me thinking I'll reply when I'm in a more "available" space of mind smh smh but I just wanna say, I did not mean to make you feel like I'm disappearing because I want to?! 😭
I keep hopping in and out of cupsland and life gets a little demanding sometimes, hence the snaily inconsistent responses smh but you best believe I'll always come around and get back as soon as I can. 🥲
Having said that I loooveee seeing you around and getting to know you and would looove to talk to you more. I had this pen pal thread in mind with you for a good while now but I wasn't vv sure if you'd like it too. xD #SunIsAnOverthinker
Hopefully this thread for us serves a space where we can come back anytime to talk or just share any random things too lol, feel free always. 👀❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
aww noo it’s oki xD I understand- I do that a lot hehe :P
omgggg sunbuddy you joking ? :00 so we’ve both been overthinking it huh ? xD #NadiaAndSunAreOverthinkers xDDD
@iloveyouxx
Okay now that's relieving to hear.😂😭
Lolsieees yes, not joking at all xD not to brag or anything but but if overthinking was an Olympic sport, I'd be sooo winning the maximum golds!🥲
Oof I love that hashtag and yussss, whyyy but yesss!😭😭😭
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
😭😂
nooo I’d be winning🥲 we’ll both be winning xD😭😂
@iloveyouxx
Yusss lol we can share the win totally!🥲🤝😭
XD
Ooh and my brain isn't braining enough so if you want to suggest a different title for this thread or anything else that should go in the top most/ original post that is more visible to the community people too, so they can be more careful etc then please let me know and I'll edit/ add.🤗
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
haunsnsijuiojidwdjiuq🤧 ehehem sorrysorry :'3 sunbuddy !🥺💖 I’d loveeeeee to be your penpal xDD I was hesitant to ask if you were oki with me making a forum for us hehe :P🤍 I’m so happy tho- idk why. :P I just feel like I won an award🤧💜 hehe I don’t know. todays a weird day. let me reply to the other thing :0 I didn’t get time to read :P
@iloveyouxx
Aww I can totally relate with the hesitation xD I overcame mine like 9 minutes ago lol but yayy *feels vvv nice and happy too* (but noooo you absolutely don't need to hesitate around me, I'm the sun but ironically I'm also pretty chill, okie now don't un-pal me for this 😭) 💖 You are the absolute loveliesttttt! 🥺💖 *awards you for being the bestest Nadia in the whole worldddddd* 🎉🎉
Ooh and weird today mhmm, let's talk more about it? :0
And nuu worries, I think I said multiple things together xD it was the excitement talking xD please take your time alwaysssss to read/ respond/ anything at all! 💖
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
9 minutes xDDD yippeee happiness :D💕💕
xD chill sun xD you’re so sillyyy xDDD
nuuu you’re the lovliestttttttt !🤧💖💖
*awards sunbuddy for being the bestest buddy in the worlddd*🌍💝🎉🎉
TW) hm idk. It’s just like terrible stuff happens but it doesn’t affect me :P like this kinda stuff leaves people terribly traumatized but I watch and laugh… maybe losing my mind ? …. :’)
thank you friend 💖 I love this forum heheh💕💕🐛
@iloveyouxx
Yippeee happiness indeed hehe!🥰
Lol yesss I am vv sillyyyy, the S in Sun defo stands for soooo-silly!😛
Nuuu nuuu *youuuu* the lovliestttttttt!🤧💖
Omigosh thank youu for the bestest award hehe, I'll keep it close always.😭🥰💖
TW) hm idk. It’s just like terrible stuff happens but it doesn’t affect me :P like this kinda stuff leaves people terribly traumatized but I watch and laugh… maybe losing my mind ? …. :’)
Aw I hear you, Nadiabuddy, it's brave you acknowledge how something that happened/ you experience would elicit some emotional response by people if they were in those shoes. Help me understand more, do you feel dissociated/ disconnected sometimes when you experience overwhelming emotions/ are dealing with something stressful/ traumatizing? Or how do you really feel "in the moment" when you are in the middle of some situation as this?💖
I think as hoomans there's so much that happens and what we can cope with, very valid to feel disconnected not as affected when you're trying to numb the overwhelming emotions for you. Not losing your mind, just doing your best to cope with what life throws at you.💖
Aww you cannot call me friend and then thank me, pick one 😛 for real, for real, absolutely no need to thank hehe, I see you being the sweetest heart around always and I think you deserve to receive all the love and kindness back as well. 💖 I love this forum too!🥰
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
hehe sillyyyy xD hm I can’t think of one for my screen name :P cause mine is “iloveyouxx”
btw how’d you think of your screenname ? :0 mine is a longgg story xD
shushhhhhhhh *youreeee* the loveliesttttttt D:💖
hehe question- am I the only one that does that thing where you copy paste a persons reply (if it’s slightly long or says more than one thing) in my reply to know what I’m replying to- then delete their reply after ? :P that sounded so confusing omg T^T but I saw my reply there and I’m curious if that was for the same reason or not xD cause I’ve been accidentally forgetting to delete the other persons reply so they get confuzled :P
let me answer those🤍
yeah- a lot. but it gets really bad..really really bad.. everything goes muffled and I stop feeling physically and mentally, it feels like I’m falling or being pulled, flashbacks get horrifying and I feel so isolated and trapped.. yesterday I had to do everything I possibly could to keep me sane and conscious- to pull myself back to reality- I tried everything- I slammed myself on a bunch of stuff- I hit myself I cut myself I hit myself on a wall I kicked stuff- I started bleeding and nothing worked.. I ended up sitting still and rubbing my legs up and down trying to slow down my heart rate and breathe normally again.. and I- passed out :’3
so I guess it does affect me :P but now that I look at that big blob of text.. idk. it does affect me. but I do still laugh like a maniac at my pain most of the time :’3 it’s funny. pains funny. I mean- it’s always been funny to others- I genuinely had a mental breakdown to the point where I was on the floor struggling to breathe and there were my classmates and ex “friends” laughing and gossiping.. so yep. I guess it’s funny now :’3
sheesh what’s wrong with me that was so long T^T I never actually talked about it tho- or got to talk about it- like actually never :’3 I think I’ve talked a little in chat rooms- but that was just small stuff- and when I was new- now I don’t talk in chatrooms at all cause of all the drama- so yeah- I don’t want to delete the blobs of text if that’s oki :’3
*goes back to being nadia*💕💕
my idea of the “nadia” I am here is meant to be someone that’s there for everyone and doesn’t need anyone there for them. but it’s hard- let me make it up to you with thy rainbow hearts :P💖
❤️🩹🧡💛💚🩵💙💜💖❤️🩹🧡💛💚🩵💙💜💖❤️🩹🧡💛💚🩵💙💜💖❤️🩹🧡💛💚🩵💙💜💖❤️🩹🧡💛💚🩵💙💜💖
nuuuu there’s so much reasons to thank :0 you’re the bestesteststetsttsttt buddy ever sunbuddy🥺💖 and I’m thankful for you :3💖💖I love you💕💕/p
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
ahhhhh I forgot TWWW sorryyyy
big TW there
you don’t have to read
me just feels alone right now :P
what time is it for you btw ? :0💕
@iloveyouxx
Could it be L for LoveliestHoomanEverrr?🥰
btw how’d you think of your screenname ? :0 mine is a longgg story xD
Yay for asking xD mine is from one of my most favorite songs hehe, it's called "Sun is shining" by Axwell and Ingrosso, puts me in a nice mood always and I hope to pass this on to people I meet on here, hence the name. I had a different name for like starting 3 weeks of me being a listener here, then I changed it to this one. There's a long story here too lol!
Ooh I loveee your username, it's like "yussss, I love youu tooo" hehe, what's the story behind your name, Nadiabuddy? Soooo eager to hear!🥰
"hehe question- am I the only one that does that thing where you copy paste a persons reply (if it’s slightly long or says more than one thing) in my reply to know what I’m replying to- then delete their reply after ? :P that sounded so confusing omg T^T but I saw my reply there and I’m curious if that was for the same reason or not xD cause I’ve been accidentally forgetting to delete the other persons reply so they get confuzled :P"
~ Nuuu, you're not alone, I do it too lol, and it is actually helpful to like not miss replying to something, from that looongish text message. And yes hehe, sometimes I forget deleting the actual paragraphs too but it's okiee I think, so much can a hooman brain do smh!😛😭 ~ I like to remember to put the other person's message in quotes though, so it helps differentiate, works too hehe, also maybe using different colours for different topics/ themes within the text! 🤔
It's just plain awful when we gotta use hurtful ways of trying to feel or feel as "human" sometimes, breaks my heart to see you hurting so much, Nadiabuddy.😔
I do think it's nice, in a very odd-ish way, but it's nice that it does affect you, because hey, it should, you are a hooman and you are allowed to feel, even if it gets really painful and difficult, you are allowed to feel your feelings and let out too.
Wow ex "friends" did that? Some people are simply beyond me sometimes. It's so heartbreaking when people act so cruelly. You do not deserve that at all, buddy.
Your pain shouldn't be made fun of and invalidated so harshly. I'd wish them well and hope they don't jinx karma, for they are lucky they haven't known pain yet to be able to laugh at you when you were at your lowest. (': *shrugss*
Aww I am really glad you were able to talk/ share about it a little, I really am glad you could let it out a little and heyyy, nothing's wrong okiee, it's okay to share. Not okay was you not being able to talk about things that bother you in a space as 7 cups that was meant to be supportive for you.
But I'm so proud of you for sharing a bit here, and yes yes please, no need to remove these texts, it's vv okay to let them stay here. *keeps hugging tight*
I've found the other threads/ posts I missed replying to you in and pleasee look forward to some teary tags and smiley notifications soonsieees. 😭
Coming to the mostttt important thing now, life's being meanie and hurtful to you?🥺
Do you feel like sharing more about it? How you're feeling, what's happening around, what's going on in your mind and heart, how was today for you, what you upto currently? (Feel free to reply to any and all of these, at your pace or of course we can talk about anything else too, whatever you're feeling more comfy with❤)
*hugssss super tightttt*
I love youu, you sweet hooman!🤗❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
hehehe I will xD❤️
mhmhm but it’s oki.. :'3
hehe you’re so sweetie sunbuddy🤧💖 let me reply to those xD
Do you feel like sharing more about it? hm yeah :'3 but when I do I feel bad- cause I feel bothering/annoying :P or just regret it in general- every time I talk the other person makes me regret it in some way so I’ve been avoiding “how are you?”s :'3 no one ever notices tho :P🤍
How you're feeling, broken :'3 empty- hurt. idk.
what's happening around, chaos :l🤍
what's going on in your mind and heart, hm not sure I understand this question- my mind is just kinda switched off right now- or switched to that mode where idk. I genuinely don’t know :'3 I just study- like a robot :P I never talk irl- I’ve been mute for a while, I’m just there- *nothingness* :'3 🤍
how was today for you, scary :P🤍
what you upto currently? hehe I’m answering your questions and hoping I don’t regret it :P🤍
*adds 🤍s to all the answers to make it less depressing*💕
*hugsss sunbuddyyy backkk*💖💖🤗
I love you more🥺💜 you’re the bestest oldie in all of thy oldie land xD/lh/lh/j/lh
also you ask such good questions :0 gets a convo starting and your brain thinking hehe :P🧠🤍
@iloveyouxx
Aww I get that, it's not a nice feeling when we share something personal with someone and they make us regret it in someway, acts as a sad little reminder to self to not open up again. (':
About feeling like a bother or annoying people, oof sweet Nadiabuddy, you're too lovely, i don't think anyone who cares about you would be really bothered or annoyed if you share something with them, but I know how our brain gets all brainy sometimes and makes us question if it's okay or not. Perhaps we can try asking people if they are feeling bothered or annoyed, mhm? The kind people would never hesitate from assuring you that it's okay for you to share as well and that doesn't make you seem annoying. So I hope you're around lots of kind people on and off cups who provide you safety, comfort and assurance as often as you need. (And its absolutely hooman to need all of this💖 you deserve it too)
Hehe sometimes it's not really easy nor comfy to answer how are you questions and its okie to avoid them, I'd like to remind again, most people who ask do genuinely want to see how you are doing so its totally okay and brave too, if you try telling them, even a little honesty countssss. Of course no pressure and its super okiee to find your pace around people when it comes to talking, sharing/ opening up.🤗
I find it rather paradoxical about people not noticing the avoidance, like sometimes when its absolutely hard to share or we don't feel like sharing it's good because they didn't notice and they wouldn't pester into sharing but other times it's a little sad, mhm? Like what if they did notice and tried being more assuring and patient with us, reminded us it's okay to take our time or in general find a way to be more caring and mindful? Would be nicerr, I think. (': What do you think? :3
Feeling hurt and empty amidst all the chaos, mhm? :/ what's the chaos about and what made today feel scary, if you're comfy talking about it, Nadiaabuddy?💖
Hehe the "what's going on in your mind and heart?" was just a little let out space offer to share what thoughts you're having at the time, how does it feel in your heart at this time? (Sometimes we tend to bottle feelings in our heart and store thoughts in our mind, mhm?) But I think you understood well enough and heyyy its absolutely okie to not know, when things get a lot at once, it's understandable to not be or willing to be fully aware of our thoughts and feelings. Tis okie to feel and also okie to sometimes feel *nothingness*, its our brain's way of shutting out when put under a stressful environment. *hugs tight*
Aw mute and not talking to people irl because, friend? Do you have people to talk to where you live, neighborhood, or your school? How are these people towards you?
(I think you did an awesome job at trying to share here and I am sooo glad you did, it's the smallest of steps that count and you're doing vvv amazing, i mean itttt, I'm happy you found these questions good hehe and they encouraged some thinking allowing the conversation to free-flowww💖 lol I love that brain emoji)
Mhmm hehe I hope you don't regret either but even if you did, its okie to embrace how you feel. How do you currently feel about answering these though? (Yes you can be vv honest lol, I don't miiinddd🤗)
Awww bestest oldie in the entire oldie land?!😭 lol tooo cuteee, you are vvvvvv sweeeet and totally made my day! (Okay, night xD because its night here hehe)🥺💖🥺💖
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
ahhhhhhhhh sunbudyyyyyyy omggggg❤️❤️❤️ I love you and your essays🤧❤️❤️ so so so much❤️ let me read🤍no no they all assure me- but- it’s just. Idk. my brain doesn’t make sense :’3 and you’re gonna get confuzled, but when people say something like they’re soooo proud of me for opening up when all I’ve said is something like “not good” it just makes me kind of feel- like idk tbh I genuinely don’t but I just don’t like it. like they make it a big deal when it’s not :’3 and then if I actually talk about something they’re like “oh that must be upsetting/frustrating/ scary/ stressful” etcetc- it’s like- yeah :’3 obviously :’3 but it doesn’t do anything.. everyone I talk to just replies like an AI/bot, it doesn’t make it feel real, no one can make me feel cared about- so it ends up feeling pointless. but yeah- when I talk about myself I just feel like such a burden- a waste of space and a waste of the other persons time :’3 like I’m wasting your time right now- and this forums space- over some random stuff no one wants to hear…
yeahhh :’) me agrees :P also yayyyyyyyyyyyy I got you used to using “:3” !!! hehehehhe it’s a kittycat :33🐈💓
.. :’3 everydays scary.. it’s so scary :’3 but I can’t talk about it :/ it’s the one thing no one knows about- I wish I could tell someone/open up but idk.. trust is hard :’3 talking is hard.. and just you know when you’re talking about something you have to remember it to explain it.. yeah :’3🤍
you’re so sweet and understanding sunbuddy💕 thank you💖🥺 *hugs sunbuddy tightt*💜
.. >: people are….. “nice”.. :’D and I don’t know. I have no one to talk to. no one wants to hear me talk anyway- no one cares about what I have to say :P teachers gave up on me a longg time ago- so none of them ever pick on me to answer questions or something. school is.. “an amazing safe welcoming and supportively loving environment”.. :’D /sar heh :’3🤍
awwwww🥺 I’ll miss you friend :P💖 I’ll be here when you come back :0💕💕
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
*waits patiently for sunbuddy to wake up with a smile on their face cause I hope so*💕💕💕🐛🐛🐛🐛🐛🐛🐛
hehe💖
@iloveyouxx
Omigoooshh 😭 why you so sweeeet?! I defo *woke up at cups* with a smile XD seeing these super adorable messages from you hehe. Thankieees, Nadiabuddy, I appreciate you lotssss.💖
Lolll the "already 😒" on this gif has me laughing so much right now.🤣 Too too cute smh! xD
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
random but this g.i.f reminds me of you xD🤍
@iloveyouxx
Hahaha I love me a random sunny, smiley gif that makes you think of me.🤧🥰💖
'Tis vv cutuuuu. :P
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
*me sending love wherever you are*💫💕💕
@iloveyouxx
This is the cutest thing I've seen all day smh!😭💖
*feels happily embraced with love hehe*
Aw thank youu, Nadiabuddy, you are too sweet. Sending a ton of love backkk.🤗💖
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
i got scared for a second :P my 7 cups page disappeared and there was a number then it said “bad gateway” I have no idea what that means :P
@iloveyouxx
Hehe yes, sometimes I've noticed this one too, I think it happens when the site is slow/ when there's site maintenance techy stuff happening and the server's down. Also could happen when our device's internet is slow or something. XD
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
ooohh :0 xD
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
question :0
what’re the reasons someone on cups can get banned ?
cause one of my amazing friendos on 7 cups had her member account get banned, she got a notification about it at 3 am, but she was asleep then, last time they were online they only complimented one of my other amazing friendos posts(at 8pm)and right now they don’t recall anything wrong they might’ve done, soo just wondering cause it’s really confuzling right now-?
@iloveyouxx
Oh noes, I'm sorry to hear they were banned, it's definitely confuzzzling when such happens. :/
I think the mail or notification they received intimating them about the ban should mention a brief "why" as well. (Or it should if it doesn't alread😮)
Sometimes bans are more instant/ for recent rule-violations, other times it could mean a couple of behavior points being accumulated on someone's record leading to the ban.
This page has all the information on behaviour points and the consequences, Nadiabuddy: https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/7-Cups-Behavioral-Points-System-70ccca9adfef4babba74119da05a91d4
(Can I also just say, sometimes it could be a techy issue as well if they didn't receive information about the ban and/or have no possible reason to be banned👀)
Whatever the case though, they can try submitting the account reinstatement form and hopefully have their account back soon. Form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScqva6u9GVllcKFBro2ZOg2tugEknrU8cMoi__JJClisFZzJw/viewform
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
ooOooOhh :000 hehe. thankyou :3🤍 I’m gonna look at it- and show them too :P🤍
@iloveyouxx
No worries and yes please, I hope they get their account back soon.🤍
They can always mail community@7cups.com too with any questions or concerns.🤍
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
xD I like spamming forums but feels weird when it’s not my forum- I’ll stop in a second hehe :P
butttt if you wanted to be my friend you have to agree to the terms and conditions xD
i should actually make a list tho :P a warning xD T^T
@iloveyouxx
Do you mean feeling weird spamming this forum? :0 You are absolutely free to, Nadiabuddy, I created this space for the both of us hehe so it's as much yours as it's mine xD I looovee sweet spams xD please feel free hehe! 🥰
Ooh and yesss, I do remember signing that TnC document sometime, mhmm, happily toooo! 😛
Lol I'd love a list of warnings and more terms/ conditions any time! xD For real though, whatever helps you feel more *you* here is more than welcome and okiee.💖
