Personality Disorders Community Check-in: April 1st - April 7th
Hi PD Support Community!
How has your week been?
What qualities do you look for and appreciate in a potential friend?
Looking forward to hearing from you!
💚 Magic
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@QuietMagic Beautiful picture! I would love to be there right now - it looks so peaceful
This week has been mixed - good and bad but productive too. I'm finally letting myself acknowledge and feel some anger over something that happened more than a year ago - I'm a slow learner. It's kind of a scary but freeing feeling 😬
hmm - friends - I don't have any in real life tbh. But I'd like someone who would stick around through the bad times as well as the good ones. Someone who's kind - patient
Thank you for the check in ❤️ Take Care!
@mytwistedsoul
Thanks, yeah I love the colors of the picture too. 😊
That makes sense that feeling that anger would be a bit scary ("Oh wow this is kind of intense") but also freeing ("I'm allowed to feel what I feel and I don't have to hold this back or avoid it anymore").
That definitely sounds like it would be nice to have someone who's patient and would still be there and stay committed at times when you aren't feeling 100%.
@QuietMagic
How has your week been?
It's been a complicated week. Ups and downs. More downs that I'd like but that's life.
What qualities do you look for and appreciate in a potential friend?
Patience. Getting to know me and communicating with me takes a ton of it.
@OneErased
Sorry that things have been complicated and that there have been more downs than ups. What sorts of things have been happening?
That makes sense that patience would be valuable. 💜 Sort of like there are a lot of things where they'd need to be understanding of the fact that they might not know or understand everything about you immediately. Or it might take time to build intimacy/trust.
@QuietMagic
Hi, Magic! :)
1. How has your week been?
a level 3.5 hurricane
2. What qualities do you look for and appreciate in a potential friend?
loyalty, listens, kindness, intelligent, trustworthy
@purpleTree4652
Oh wow, sorry that there's been a hurricane. 😅 What's been going on?
Those qualities sound like they'd be wonderful. 💜
@QuietMagic Hey there!
What qualities do you look for and appreciate in a potential friend?
@SparklingSnowflake15
Hope your exams and projects go well! And glad you've been able to find some space in between for relaxing and recovering from all of the work you're doing.
Sounds like you might not always be the one to start the conversation, but once the conversation is going, if they're kind and fun to talk with, then those friendships tend to work out and be really enjoyable.
My week was terrible. I was deeply dissapointed by people closest and dearest to me. It made me doubt my worth, and what I deserve. And most importantly it made me doubt my relations. And in a way it affects me so much that it drives me into a depressive episode, something that I havent had in a while (most of the time its just bpd kicking).
I wasnt picky that much in a friend? All I need is someone that is able to connect with me and make me feel comfortable to just be me (not the persona I unconciously made whenever I met someone new to fit in) and just appreciate me as a person at the least, so honestly, bare minimum 🤷🏻♀️.
@sushir0ll
Hi, sorry that the people close to you have been so disappointing. 😟 If I'm understanding, they treated you sort of like you didn't matter and like you weren't deserving of respect/kindness. And some of that is sticking, like your concept of yourself as someone deserving of basic kindness is in tatters because of some of what they've said/done.
That feels really valuable what you've said of being allowed to be the deeper or more honest you and being able to get past this sort of constructed self that helps just with not being judged/rejected on first impressions.
@QuietMagic
How has your week been?
What qualities do you look for and appreciate in a potential friend?My week has gone alright, having alot of sleep disturbances lately. Feeling on edge.
In a friend, I look for honesty, trustworthiness, to be down to earth and not stab me in the back.
thank you <3
@spongymoth34
Sorry about the sleep disturbances. 💜 Is it like you're falling asleep but then waking up in the middle of the night?
Can definitely appreciate the value of people being trustworthy!
@QuietMagic
Thank you!!! Yes it's definitely like that. Sometimes I will fall asleep and wake up in the middle of the night, but I then will come to the realization that I've been sleepwalking during "sleep"!
Oh yes trustworthiness is hard to come across these days!!!!
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@spongymoth34
I found a couple links related to sleep issues. The first one has some tips for staying asleep and the second one has some tips related to sleepwalking (i.e. things that help reduce the chances of it occurring, precautionary measures to avoid accidentally hurting yourself while sleepwalking 😅).
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/insomnia/expert-answers/insomnia/faq-20057824
https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/how-is-sleepwalking-treated
It’s been a rough week but I was able to overcome and I’m taking so much time to work on my self and know my self more
@toughLand5970
That sounds difficult but like it's also been helpful. 💜 You were able to get through the week and some of what's been happening has been a catalyst for self-awareness/growth.
My week has been like most other here lately... voices in my head. Things I don't remember that people say I should.
@DIDisaythat
Sorry that that's been happening. 😟 So you have some gaps where you aren't remembering things, and also sometimes you'll hear voices.
Do you currently have a therapist or someone you're able to talk to about some of these experiences who might be able to help?
I have friend who referred me here and also suggested that I take an DID Test. I scored way on the high side indicating I have DID. My first group share was about my appointment on Monday with a therapist to confirm over the following days if I have it or not.
I can have conversations with myself and often hear voices in my head. Sometimes people approach me like they know me and I don't know them and my friends are noticing that I can be seemingly different at times and don't remember things one minute but remember them later on.
@DIDisaythat
I'm glad you have a therapist who can help with figuring out what's going on and what the next steps might be. 💜
Just in case if you haven't stumbled across it yet, 7 Cups has a forum for DID and I believe they also have some weekly group chats scheduled that are specifically dedicated to DID.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/DissociationDIDUpdated_2335/
