Personality Disorders Community Check-in: February 8th-11th, 2021
Heya amazing people! Here we go for another week!
@StarlitSky4762 proposed this lovely picture for today’s check-in and I thought it was really lovely! Sometimes we forget to acknowledge our feelings, we only feel good/bad and we don’t try and understand exactly what kind of good/bad it is. And sometimes it’s okay not to dig any deeper! But every once in a while, it’s a good exercise to try and really understand our emotions, to understand what’s causing them so as to be able to have more control over them. That way we can maybe see a pattern, we can identify that these things tend to make us feel frustrated, whereas these other things bring us pride, so we know which ones to prioritize so as to feel better!
If you'd like to dig really deeper into your emotions, don't hesitate to go check our different forum discussions that you can find here (or ask me for the links!)
How are you really feeling today? (using the pic to dig deeper into your feelings!)
How is your day/week going so far? Do you have goals/plans?
What things (simple or not) make you happy? And which kind of happy?
I can’t wait to hear from you all! If you’re not feeling like following the questions, that’s very okay you don’t have to, you can share what’s on your mind, you can say hi, you can grab a hug, whatever feels right for you! Remember that this is a safe place for you to share <3
Sending you all much love,
Waves ~
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@LinearWaves
How are you really feeling today? I would say that I'm hopeful, proud and trusting this morning.
How is your day? Do you have goals/plans? I'm just starting my week now, so it's going good so far. This week I have plans to accomplish some things that I've been working on (here on Cups) and also to spend a little more time on tasks in other areas of my life as well.
What things (simple or not) make you happy? And which kind of happy? The current things making me happy are our 2 kittens. They are a joy to watch and they remind me of the pure innocence of play (wide open, fearless, and full of energy). That kind are happy is "inspired"
Sher
@Sher217
Heya Sher ! Very sorry for that delay, work has been hectic this week !
I really hope that these feelings of hopefulness, pride and trust maintained over the week!
How have your goals been, did you manage to accomplish what you wanted?
Animals and especially babies can definitely be a pure bliss to watch! How old are they?
Thanks for checking –in, take care!
@LinearWaves
1. How are you really feeling today? (using the pic to dig deeper into your feelings!)
Irritated, indifferent, ignored
2. How is your day/week going so far? Do you have goals/plans?
I’m already in over my head for the week. It is only the second week in a new house in a new state, and things are already too much this week. All I can do is stick to myself and Chloe the cat and do what I need to for us. Plus, unfortunately, I have to do what people I live with need me to do, too. But the rest of the time, I’ll stick to myself and Chloe.
3. What things (simple or not) make you happy? And which kind of happy?
It makes me loving/happy to see Chloe happy and content.
@purpleTree4652
Hey there! Very sorry for that delay, work has been hectic this week !
I’m sorry to hear you were feeling irritated, indifferent and ignored… did there feelings fade over time or did they stay?
I’m proud of you for sticking to yourself and Chloe, it sounds like a really tough situation to be stuck in and I’m proud of you for how you’re handling it! I do hope though that over time you can find a middle ground with the people you live with so as to improve your situation and make it more manageable for you!
I’m really happy that you’ve got Chloe the cat with you, she seems to be of great support!
Thanks for checking-in, take care!
@LinearWaves, Thanks, but there is no middle ground with the people I live with. I am leaving, sooner or later. That is the only solution. Tomorrow I was attacked mentally and verbally and no one should ever have to go through what I was put through.
@purpleTree4652
I'm extremely sorry to hear you were attacked mentally and verbally yesterday... You're definitely right that no one should ever have to go through that. I really hope that you can leave this situation sooner rather than later, so that you can be in a much better one, a situation that everyone deserves. It's not much but until then I'm all heart with you, stay strong <3
@LinearWaves
How are you really feeling today?.....Mostly just tired. I was up late, and then up early and that doesn't normally make for a great mix or combo. But otherwise, it was a decent day for the most part over-all.
How is your day/week going so far? Do you have goals/plans?......Well it was off to a decent start. Staying on track with things so far.... Its only Monday, (Right now Wednesdays tend to be my busier day since the year started). Only goals and plans are to continue my best to stay on track & plan with what I've been doing. And, Being able to get back on track with my 'daily' workouts, & back to 'better' meal-planning when I was just 'winging' things for a while during my prior ongoing self-care break.
What things (simple or not) make you happy?.....Family-Time/My Dog, Lazy days, Summer-time, Vacations, Shopping, Summer Drives on sunny days~
@PoliteOcean
Heya Ocean ! Very sorry for my delay, work has been hectic this week !
I hope you were able to catch up on sleep, combining being up late and up early definitely doesn’t sound like a great combo!
It’s good to hear that your week was off to a decent start, with the goals to stay on track and plan more, how have these goals been? Did you achieve what you wanted?
These are really lovely things to do! Thanks for sharing and checking-in, take care!
Today I'm feeling tired and a little depressed.
It's only Tuesday but it feels later in the week for me. I'm still working and everyday is a challenge to get up and get out. I made it today, so I'm proud of that.
Waking up to a cup of coffee and the sun shining makes me happy.
@MeeshyRB
Heya Meeshy ! Sorry for my delay, work has ben really busy this week !
I’m sorry to hear you were feeling tired and a little depressed… How did your feelings evolve throughout the week though?
I’m proud of you as well for getting up and out, it can be a real challenge every day and it takes up a lot of strength mentally and physically so it’s definitely important to acknowledge that!
Coffee and the sun, these are extra simple yet they can bring so much happiness indeed! Thanks for checking in, take care!
I'm feeling better now, thanks 😊 Yesterday I got out for a walk on my day off. It was nice to get some fresh air. Now just to get back into yoga.
Hi Waves, I could really use a hug tonight. A type of hug that says "I care about you. I care about you and how you are really doing so much more than any virus -COVID or something else-." If someone gave me this sort of hug, I would know they really do (and actually) care about me. Yes, yes, health and stuff, but I need some PEOPLE too! (Quality Time and Physical Touch!)
I can come back and write more later - like about the actual questions. Good night. ~ Platy
@LinearWaves
*the tightest of e-hugs* i feel that. If you’re anything like me you get a hug maybe once every few months.
@cyanPlatypus6370
Heya Platy !I’m sorry for the delay in my answer, work has been hectic this week!
I send you tight hugs as well ! It’s true that with the current situation, social distancing has been tough, mentally but also physically… Actions, and hugs, can definitely speak better than any word when it comes to saying that you care, especially through this covid stuff! I hope that you can get this quality time and physical touch that you need soon enough!
Thanks for checking in, take care!
I’m currently feeling just about everything under the umbrella of sad and fear. It is also getting harder to sleep and when I finally do sleep I end up waking up in the middle of the night. I’m new here so nice to meet everyone!
@NiftyBear
Heya Nifty ! Sorry for my delay, work has been really hectic !
I’m sorry to hear you were feeling pretty much everything related to sadness and fear, how are you feeling now, are these feelings lasting?
As for sleep, I’m sorry to hear you have these struggles, I can’t give any tip on that as I’m struggling with the exact same..! I feel you though and I hope you can catch enough rest!
A warm welcome to you, we’re glad to have you join! Thanks for checking-in, take care!
These feelings have been constants for probably years. And not a problem I understand !
@NiftyBear
How have you been handling these feelings? Are there some hobbies or coping mechanisms that sometimes help so as to momentarily feel less sadness or fear?
I’ve been trying but nothing yet. I play music in my spare time but I work full time and do school full time.
So not much spare time
@NiftyBear
Indeed between work and studies it's tough to find time... I hope things get less busy so as to give you more spare time sometime soon! In the meantime, it might not be the same as really playing, but could passive things like listening to music bring some kind of help?
I am feeling loved and bored at the moment. The week is going well so far, it's my birthday this week so I have been celebrating & preparing for that, which is nice. It has been snowing where I am so going out has been restricted a bit. Things like: being with my friends, spending time with family,watching TV,playing a game, listening to music & doing zen stuff make me feel relaxed, hopeful and fulfilled.
@Harmony8682
Hey there! It’s good to hear your week has been going well so far! Happy birthday whenever it is, it’s really cool that you’ve been celebrating and preparing for the occasion, especially as it gives you something nice to do if you can’t go out! Were you able to celebrate with friends/family?
These are amazing things! Thanks for sharing them, take care!
Thank you! 😃 Yes it did make the week more exciting as like you say you can't do much out and about. Yes I celebrated with my mum which was nice. 🙂
