Personality Disorders Community Check-in: March 26th–April 1st
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💜 How has your week been?
💙 What is something that you're significantly better at than most people?
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@QuietMagic Thanks for doing these check-ins for us! 😀
How has your week been?
My week has been going good so far! More good than bad, so I'll take it. 😀 Plus, I've gotten drastically more sleep each night where I sleep hours through compared to the past months. This, too, is a great thing!
What is something that you're significantly better at than most people?
Hmmmm. Let's see. I'm not sure what the average person is good at... but I would like to think I'm pretty quick when it comes to mental math. I don't know for sure. Now I do math the way I was taught as a kid... not this new stuff they're teaching kids. I have no idea about that. Lol.
@YourCaringConfidant
Thanks for replying to them! Getting more sleep than usual is a pretty big deal 💜
If both you and @PoliteOcean were confused by the "I don't know what the average person is like", then yeah that probably means the question was weirdly phrased. (I feel like there's a weird sort of adversarial/comparative undertone that can be read into that question, like: "How are you coming along at defeating all of your fellow humans that you're competing against? Are you winning yet?" lol)
I imagine mental math comes in handy from time to time. I've been out of school for a while and don't have children, so I'm also not 100% sure how math is currently being taught. But every so often I'll see something online of "this is the new/improved way to do multiplication" and it just looks like the old way but with a UI/skin change 😊
@QuietMagic
☀️ How has your week been?… It was well. But definitely ready for the weekend!
☀️ What is something that you're significantly better at than most people?… I don’t know about “most” people & what they might be good at or not?.. But whenever I’m in my Dance or Zumba classes I can pick up the Choreo very quickly & feel I appear to be the most coordinated. Lol
@PoliteOcean
Glad that it sounds like your week has not been terrible 💜 That definitely helps in terms of feeling comfortable/confident in what you're doing with dance/Zumba if you feel like you're able to adapt and pick up things quickly
My Week is rotten. I have given up.
In the past month my 3D printer died, my car died and I got hacked 2 times.
This week I got hacked for a 3rd time, my Social Security Disability was sent to the old account I can not access anymore, and a mechanic told me my $2,000 car will cost $2,000 to be fixed.
I am isolating. Not even going outside, Not going to appointments. I don't feel like it.
Homer Simpson: "Always remember boy, no matter what you do or try, there are a million people better at it than you."
Bart: "Got it. Can't win. Wont try."
I am good at solving design problems using Art + Engineering at the same time.
@Positron2
Wow, that's a lot of things going wrong all within a pretty short period of time (3D printer dying, car dying and expensive to fix, getting hacked multiple times, losing disability payment) 😢
Understandable that things feel pretty overwhelming and it's difficult to find energy to do things that you might normally do. (Is the isolation also possibly connected to the car issues?)
That Simpsons quote is on-point in terms of the risks of telling someone "there's always someone better than you" 😊
Art + engineering sounds like a pretty unique/interesting intersection of skills that probably a lot of people wouldn't have. Were you able to get the 3D printer fixed/replaced?
@QuietMagic
💜 How has your week been?
it kinda been hard week due to flashbacks related to what happened in January and guess we feeling safer to deal with some memories of the abuse done by brother that gone
💙 What is something that you're significantly better at than most people?
thinking outside the box we seem to be very good at coming up with ways to do things most would never think of this has helped us all our life and still doses today
@stormieandpaws
Hi, sorry that the flashbacks have been tough this week, but sounds positive that the baseline situation feels safe/stable enough that you're able to process memories 💜
Makes a lot of sense that creativity and experimenting to find things that work would be something you've developed a lot over time and become an expert at if a lot of standard advice doesn't work or isn't applicable to your situation.
@QuietMagic
thank you we feel the memories of things in the abuse come when mind ready to deal with them it to us like layered so this just another layer in healing but even understanding that we still dislike the flashbacks and well being triggered by things that we never was triggered by before but triggers are like information that telling you what you need to work on so they not a bad thing but can be hard at the time
thinking outside the box for us is coming up with new ideas and ways to do things we always had this gift but lol sometimes got us into trouble like the time think we was about 3yr we got in house paint now most kids would put hands in the paint and put hand prints on thngs but not us we decided to put butt prints on a cement path way from house to small tool shed lol but dad was not happy he thought brother did it until he checked our butt saw paint on it
this memory is to us now funny but at time the punishment for doing it was awful so the thinking outside the box came to us naturally we see it as a gift
@stormieandpaws
That feels like a balanced perspective on the memories. There are layers there, they pop up when you're ready for them, and it's the next frontier in healing/working through things when they do arise--and at the same time it's pretty unpleasant when something comes up 💜
That's a very creative way to make paint prints 😊 I guess they weren't careful enough in securing the paint. 3-year-olds are going to put their hands (or butts in this case lol) in everything they possibly can
@QuietMagic
thanks yes seem a new layer is coming up think due to our brother who abused us badly has passed away some inside did not talk much about him but still had fear he come get us think now they feel safe to talk about the abuse more it mostly kids within that been this way
yes our parents never watched us and never made sure we could not get in stuff so under 6yr old we had drank bleach eat potato bug powder poison drank keratosis that was in a drinking glass dad was using we also go behind them when they was drinking booze and we finish what was in the glass that they was drinking started that around 3yr when older like 5yr to around 10yr we get moonshine out of the glass jars in refrigerator and drink that we put water in the jar so they not know after some of the really bad abuse stopped we no longer drank but after losing our kids for about a year after leaving hubby we went off deep in but we drink alone at home at night binge drinking in July 2005 we end up in coma not expected to come out of coma told parents but 3 days later we did and walked out of hospital about 2 hour later no lasting effects but we did not stop drinking until jan. 2 2006 we drank and took meds was how end up in coma
all 3 of us kids started drinking early and had issues even as adults with it
sorry so long s you said parents should up things up when have young kids our parents never did we was not watched left to be outside most the time when not to cold with brothers so him and his friends got away with abusing us and other girls
@stormieandpaws
That makes sense that having your brother pass away would allow some of you inside to feel like it's safe to talk about what happened without any fear of retribution.
Wow, that's a lot of different effects of parents not watching you (drinking lots of dangerous things, developing the drinking issues at an early age and having that cascade further into adulthood and leading to medical issues, being abused outside when they weren't watching). I didn't think so deeply about the "your parents should've been more careful/attentive" point, but seems like that was really true.
@QuietMagic
at times it felt like even as a kid i was mothering our mom and watching others to keep her safe dad was working all the time when he was home mostly was drinking until i was like 12yr when due to health issues he had to stop drinking our mom molds to who ever she around wants to please them so she tell one person one thing and another a different thing we found out when we trusted her with some information a few years ago and she agreed with us but then took the information to our abuser and agreed with them she was playing both sides so can not trust her at all sadly not even as a adult
kinda we raised our self in so many ways
@stormieandpaws
Ugh, yeah sadly some people are just realistically not trustworthy or safe and have no business being in positions where they're responsible for something as important as caring for a child.
It's always a little upsetting when I come across teens on this platform who are more mature/responsible than 95% of adults, lol. It's highly impressive but also usually comes at a tremendous cost
@QuietMagic
yes agree many teens we met over the years we thought were adults at first one we will never forget was a 15yr old youth who due to his mom coming home and going in her bedroom to game online he was taking care of 4 younger kids with youngest being 5yr old he one made their dinner, helped with homework made sure they had clean cloths for school
he come online ask older people how to do things and what to do when something happened one night he came online his little brother had been jumping on bed fell off and hit head he was out cold they had tried to get their mom to come out of bedroom she never did until the EMT came that we told him to call he was also dealing with his 2 sisters screaming they thought the little brother was dead seeing he was not moving. sad part is even after that and him trying to get help by calling CPS they got no help he was worried what would happen to younger ones if he went off to college
no 15yr old should have to worry like that so ya we met so many amazing youth over the years
also met many adults acted younger then the youth we met
@stormieandpaws
Wow, yeah that's definitely not a situation that a 15-year-old should have to be responsible for managing. 😵💫 Sounds like they did their best and probably handled it as well as anybody possibly could
