It hurts my feelings when you.... [finish this sentence]
It hurts my feelings when you...are not honest with me. Honesty can hurt, but silence is worse.
A went to the surgeon for a mass that was causing stabbing pains and admitted to hospital. It would turn out to be a once rare muscular mass that is benign, but has to be treated like it is malignant. I could easily feel the mass in my side and knew it was a was either a tumor or cancer. Living overseas I knew the culture of "protect the woman" so my husband told them I was to be told in advance if they knew anything. They had done a CT before and we're sending me down for another test. When I got to the room for the test it confirmed my theory & I lost it.
I could handle someone saying to my face "it's a tumor, maybe cancerous and we want to see how big it is." What I couldn't handle was the silence by the doctor. Maybe it's odd, but his actions made me so angry. My husband arrived angry and told the surgeon he had been told to be totally honest with me. The surgeon's excuse: he wanted to protect me from the bad news.
The surgeon wanted to protect me and it caused more pain than he intended. My husband wanted to protect me from knowing he was no longer attracted to me...and finding out like I did caused more pain than he intended. I don't believe in astrological things, but I'm strong and fight like Taurus.
Not being honest, even if you think it will hurt me, is the worse thing to do to me.
say that i shouldnt speak my mind
Yell at me for things I can't control
Belittle me. Tell me I can't do something, make me feel like I'm stupid
When people judge everynow and then and voice their opinions even not required, rather than understanding and giving affection.
When u neglect me so much u blocked me uses me whenever u wanted 2
you say and do things that make the other people you may hate, but I love, into monsters that they are not.
when you make me have to prove myself even more because I'm "their kid"
when you doubt my abilities
when you expect more than I can do
when you depend on me, but I cannot depend on you
when you continually prove that I cannot trust you
when you invade after I open up to you about things
when you disrespect my wishes and force what you think is "best" upon me
when you put me in a corner and force me to fight back (cause I won't submit)
when you worry when I'm too quiet when in all reality I just want to be calm for once
when you constantly do the things I have to hit you for to stop doing because you do not listen to words
when I find out you lied
when you put me on a pedestal so high that I could die from falling, but when I fall, I have to catch myself since I'm not allowed to fall
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I think this is enough for the moment.
@AutumnEagle I'm sorry to hear that.
@reservedexcitment
It's okay. It was nice just to write it down.
When you take me and what I do for you for granted.
Disregard my feelings, efforts, and thoughts when I clearly state them to you.
ignore my pain or belittle its importance. and when you say that you love me and you're there for me but then you aren't really willing to listen and understand when i finally decide to reach out.