Not sure if i love my partner and we are in a very volatile relationship and currently apart?
I really care alot about my partner, he is a really good guy, simple, happy and mostly kind. However he has a really bad temper and seems to lose it with me alot. We are quite mismatched in that i am more intellectual and deep and he is more casual and simple in his approach to life.
So whats the issue? I am constantly questioning how i feel and if i am doing the right thing, we have been together for 14 months and have done alot together but we argue and fight constantly. I care for him deeply and cannot seem to let go, but i also question if i do love him, i have never really been in love. He is very loving and caring and affectionate, but when we fight or split he totally cuts me off and wont talk or try and resolve until he is ready - this could go on for days which is very traumatic for me. I am very sensitive. So we will spend days apart and i will be devestated and then he may return and we will try again but we always land up in the same place. We have split again and this time he has booked me on all social media as i did this previously. I have written, i have apologised even though it was not really my fault this time, i dont know what to do. Do i move on. Remember that my heart is involved here on and i am so very hurt, so its easy to say walk away.
From reading a bit about your partner I see he is a good guy with some temper issues that you deal with quite a lot.
I see that you really care about him and have thought a lot about your relationship. The issue is that you get into arguments. I also see that you are questioning how you feel about him, perhaps it could help going through these feelings with someone. I see he is one of those people that needs time to calm down before he can talk again after an argument.
I see that you are really sensitive which is great and shows you care and what him to know how you feel. But, waiting for days to patch up an argument is rather traumatic as thoughts will go through your mind as to what happened etc.
I see you are at the stage about what to do but your heart says stay and walking away would hurt. I guess that in every relationship there are arguments so you won't be able to avoid them I guess it could be more important about how you argue. you could have a long conversation with him and set up ground rules, like you won't interrupt each other. make him remember you are a team, try to fix the part if you feel he runs from fights. It might be good to talk more about it here or message on 1 on 1 chat.
@5ue
@5ue
While I was reading this, all I could think was "this is my relationship", with a few changes but I completely understand how you feel in your relationship. I am feeling the exact same way. I am always questioning whether it's good for me to stay since I am always hurting, and crying myself to sleep sometimes. I've been in my relationship for 15 months now. I love him so much, but I really don't know if I should be feeling this way. As you do too. Please respond back so we can talk or vent with each other!