I dont know how to handle my emotions anymore
ive been in a relationship for 5 years and for the most part our relationship is usually pretty good minus the few things that get talked about and the crap that has always been thrown our way. but lately things keep getting really bad. whenever things dont go his way or slightly are off its an explosion. i know there are things that are contributing to the backlash. and i feel selfish always saying or thinking can we stop using me as a punching bag for everything bad that keeps happening! how do i keep my own emotions in check and allow the punching bag attitude towards me to be alright and not effect me. i feel like im watching my entire life go down a drain from how things keep going down hill. i know its not towards me and most the time not about me but it hurts when i get told its all my fault and i cant live up to any expectations when the day before its i love you i cant live without you and you make my life easier/ its like what is it? i know he cant sort some things out and outlashes towards me but how do i make sure it never effects me to allow him to vent in anyway that he needs to.
@tsukiphantom
Why do you want to hold on.... love you one day and next everything is your fault in NOT OK or rational. If you want this to work you would need to deal with his issues and fault in this too...
i will tell you 5 years is not worth being used as a punching bag ever. NO one is ever 100% at fault it is a joint problem. If you cannot communicate effectively can you suggest couple counseling or something.
otherwise cut your losses and find a partner who is worthy.
@toughTiger6481 i just dont know honestly its only been happening for the last year and half!
@tsukiphantom
how long is long enough? we wait hope things will change if it does not we tell ourselves well we have x amount of time in we should hold on.
I hope things got better for you. I’m in a similar boat and feel at a loss but love him dearly. I’m sorry your having to go through this